Throwing in the towel
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I am guessing he has not had a lot of good experiences with women and not such a good life either and maybe it's just easier to blame them for his life? That kind of of mentality must make things really easy- my low self esteem-women the fact life isn't how I want it to be- women why i feel like I have the flu- women ww3- well we haven't gotten that far but- women
Concentrate on your life, don't worry about girls, you have plenty of time. Same goes for me, I'm 22, almost 23 and only had 1 relationship my whole life. Don't bother with online dating, meet girls face to face. Like, you work? or have college or whatever? concentrate on that, and on building the best life you can for yourself. Don't worry about girls, and relationships, they will come into your life if you're meant for one one day... if not who cares? just relax, work hard and have fun in your life 
HaydenC, here is some advice that I wish somebody would have given me when I was single...and lonely. First off, understand that attraction is based on so many things and so is being unattractive. Although we don't like to admit it, coupling or mating has much more to do with our animalistic tendencies than fate. Its all science and psychology. In order to attract the kind of woman you want you have to make yourself attractive. Desperation sends out a repelling stink. Confidence and dominance sends out an alluring aroma. God created pheromones to produce a strong species. Men are happiest when they are being productive and have a cheerleader as a mate. In order to do this you need to first have the confidence to believe that you are "cheerworthy". Be great at something! Have a purpose in life that inspires others. Find reasons to smile. Women have been allotted more chemicals that make them happy when their loved ones are achieving success. They feel happiest when their kids and husband are successful. Being successful sends out the message that your seed is good and will make them want to breed with you. Loving them (cuddling, sex, affirmation) releases oxytocin making them want to stay in that relationship "attached" to you.
Anyways, why we want a mate is a little different. You should analyze the purpose for the desire before you jump in just to have a family. What does being a husband and father mean to you? Anybody can be a husband and father. You just have to find somebody fertile more desperate than yourself. In my nineteen years of marriage, sometimes lonely might have been a preferred option. Honestly, first find success, then find a woman who will help you achieve what you deem as your purpose. If you don't clearly define it, she will! You might not like how either. Be a leader and you will find that others will follow. In that crowd is Mrs. Right.
Anyways, why we want a mate is a little different. You should analyze the purpose for the desire before you jump in just to have a family. What does being a husband and father mean to you? Anybody can be a husband and father. You just have to find somebody fertile more desperate than yourself. In my nineteen years of marriage, sometimes lonely might have been a preferred option. Honestly, first find success, then find a woman who will help you achieve what you deem as your purpose. If you don't clearly define it, she will! You might not like how either. Be a leader and you will find that others will follow. In that crowd is Mrs. Right.
So a little update, a few days after this post, a woman I have known since new years have gotten involved. We are doing a one month trial of being together and seeing how we go. Im a little optimistic at how it will go however we are a week and a half in and we are having a lot of fun hanging out. Im going to ask her if she would join me at church however im not holding my breath. I am very nervous to the point of shaking, however i would like to see it through as i feel very strongly for her.
I'm in the same boat!! But u gotta keep your head up! You have to remember the promises of God "He gives great gifts", He gives you the desires of your heart ", "Ask and it shall be given, knock and it will open". And I could go on but I want to challenge you = are you ready!?! Relationships are hard work! You have to die to self! Be happy with what you have today because tomorrow you may be watching a chick flick that you can't stand
First off... don't knock chubby guys.... they can be/are just as attractive as anyone else.
Second...I know you'll probably not wanna hear it, but you're still quite young.
Third... take this time to enjoy being single and do a few things that might be more difficult once you're in a relationship. Ask God to help you be content in whatever state you may be in at the moment (not geographically lol )
If she can't be your best friend, she dont need to be ya girlfriend. God bless you and I hope you find some encouragement.
Second...I know you'll probably not wanna hear it, but you're still quite young.
Third... take this time to enjoy being single and do a few things that might be more difficult once you're in a relationship. Ask God to help you be content in whatever state you may be in at the moment (not geographically lol )
If she can't be your best friend, she dont need to be ya girlfriend. God bless you and I hope you find some encouragement.
I don't lift weights or run - that's too much like working without getting paid for it. But I do eat kind of healthy. Not because I think I should, just because I prefer it.
Question is, should I start eating junk food or is one out of three not enough to put me in danger of finding someone? I would rather avoid the whole dating/marriage thing if I can, but I really don't want to eat junk food. It makes me feel blah.
Question is, should I start eating junk food or is one out of three not enough to put me in danger of finding someone? I would rather avoid the whole dating/marriage thing if I can, but I really don't want to eat junk food. It makes me feel blah.
Hayhen, I'm 42 and hasn't given up yet... Seriously, as you grow older and older, you don't get scarier and scarier... My inspiration is that, people at 65 can still fall in love... As for women, they need to rush... for men, you don't need to be scared of... Just never stop praying... Even if you still can't find the one when you will be 70... Trust the Lord's Will for you...
Seriously, as you grow older and older, you don't get scarier and scarier... My inspiration is that, people at 65 can still fall in love... As for women, they need to rush... for men, you don't need to be scared of... Just never stop praying... Even if you still can't find the one when you will be 70... Trust the Lord's Will for you... 
You will find someone when you are the best of yourself. While not being with someone can be a self-reinforcing circle often of self-pity, somehow you have to break out of it if you want to be with someone. Do what you love, give love to yourself, give love to others. For me personally, when I start going to the gym, women just seem to come out of nowhere. Now you might think that is because I'm looking better, but it is not true. Gym gives me energy, gives me strength, and gives me confidence and peace of mind.
It is peace of mind where God is most perceivable, so therefore finding that place is where other people will find you.
Basically, take responsibility for why you don't have someone. We can only take responsibility for things rather than wait for bright weather and say it is because of the weather. You say that you are sick and tired of being single, well, be enthusiastic and joyful about being single. It's a paradox...
It is peace of mind where God is most perceivable, so therefore finding that place is where other people will find you.
Basically, take responsibility for why you don't have someone. We can only take responsibility for things rather than wait for bright weather and say it is because of the weather. You say that you are sick and tired of being single, well, be enthusiastic and joyful about being single. It's a paradox...
