Too nice?

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Bridget_Left_China

Bridget_Left_China

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Precious_Sunflower said:
The other friends I was talking about were female friends that never really understood that when I had a real tough time, I needed their support a lot. I am happy I had another female friend that did understand what I went through at those times life was very tough and that acted as a true friend towards me.
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This is our problem as women! (Not all women, mind you.) Why must we always hint at needing help? Be sad and hope someone will ask us what is wrong? Why can't we just tell people when we need emotional support instead of hoping someone else will pick up on it? I have been guilty of this as well, so I feel ya!
 
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Chrissy77

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Jullianna said:
When I think of a guy being "too nice" for me, it doesn't mean that I prefer an ill-mannered barbarian. I means that I am a very fiery, opinionated, strong willed woman (yeah...I know you are all stunned :) ), and it is good for me to be with a guy who won't give into or agree with everything I say out of sheer politeness or because he thinks that is what will make me happy.

I respect a guy who is not afraid to:

- stick to his guns when he knows he is right without being a total jerk about it.

- give me a "That sounded a whole lot better in your head, didn't it?" look

- calmly go out and wax his car when I know I am wrong about something and make it very clear that I'm less than thrilled about it by childishly slamming kitchen cabinets as loudly as possible
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Once again, Jullianna hit it on the head!!!
 
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NukePooch

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Jullianna said:
I respect a guy who is not afraid to:

- stick to his guns when he knows he is right without being a total jerk about it.

- give me a "That sounded a whole lot better in your head, didn't it?" look

- calmly go out and wax his car when I know I am wrong about something and make it very clear that I'm less than thrilled about it by childishly slamming kitchen cabinets as loudly as possible
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Neighbor Wilson: Geez, Tim. You've got the most beautiful car in the whole subdivision. It practically gleams! I never would have thought that someone would spend all the time you spend on shining up a 12-year-old Camry. Talk about showroom new! How do you find the time to keep it looking so good?

Tim: Well, it's just something I feel I need to do...Keeping a shiny car is important to me, I guess...
 
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NukePooch

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Neighbor Betty: You know, Wilma, you have the nicest craft and sewing room I've ever seen! It looks like you bought out a whole Hobby Lobby... How do you find the time to do all of these different projects?

Wilma: Well, I find it easy to make time for myself, or rather, I find it necessary...

Neighbor Betty: Wow! Have you ever thought about selling some of your creations? I'd be interested in buying something if you can find the extra time...

Wilma: Actually, I currently ship to 13 countries. Here, let me get you a copy of my latest full-color catalog...
 
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Precious_Sunflower

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Bridget_Left_China said:
This is our problem as women! (Not all women, mind you.) Why must we always hint at needing help? Be sad and hope someone will ask us what is wrong? Why can't we just tell people when we need emotional support instead of hoping someone else will pick up on it? I have been guilty of this as well, so I feel ya!
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I am the kinda person who do tell why I am sad, and this is where it went wrong with these female friends ;) I am most of the time straight forward with my feelings, but I know when to shut up when other people are not being supportive nor understanding.

But I am sure many others in here can relate to how you feel about your case. ;)
 
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Nike

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Tintin said:
As I mentioned earlier, I'm not super confident but I'm not a doormat either. I wear my own clothes and have basic social skills. I don't enjoy large crowds but I'm not going to shy away from everyone. I do find it difficult to get to know people but if I click with them, it's all good. I dislike small talk but love a good discussion about meaningful things - faith, life in general, story. My uni days were interesting. I attended a Christian uni but always ended up attracted to the girls who were coupled, engaged or married. I never initiated anything then because they were out of bounds.
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talking about doormat.. I dated a guy who wanted to be my "doormat". how was that gonna work?? it still creeps me out!
 
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