If that is REALLY your mindset, do you see the following analogy: Your prospects for a spouse will be your mail delivery person and the person sitting next to you in the pew who is the one who strikes up a conversation.
Think about this: Why can't God introduce you to someone in the small group YOU take the initiative to join? What about that prospect working on that volunteer work day YOU sign yourself up for? What about that attractive guy across the room at that community event YOU decided to attend. Do you see my point? WE need to take the initiative and get ourselves out there to meet people. Start conversations, go to new places, attend events...don't just take the mindset of "Well, God, I'm waiting. Meanwhile I will sit here in my living room and knit a blanket to donate to the homeless shelter, or I will just work on my project in my garage waiting for You to put someone in my life".
My point is - we need to take an active role in meeting people. We can't expect them to come to us all the time.
Think about this: Why can't God introduce you to someone in the small group YOU take the initiative to join? What about that prospect working on that volunteer work day YOU sign yourself up for? What about that attractive guy across the room at that community event YOU decided to attend. Do you see my point? WE need to take the initiative and get ourselves out there to meet people. Start conversations, go to new places, attend events...don't just take the mindset of "Well, God, I'm waiting. Meanwhile I will sit here in my living room and knit a blanket to donate to the homeless shelter, or I will just work on my project in my garage waiting for You to put someone in my life".
My point is - we need to take an active role in meeting people. We can't expect them to come to us all the time.
I'm totally for that.
However, there is a difference between initiating contact and pursuing.
In my case, I had a lengthy "singles profile" posted here on CC. One woman that lived on the west coast was intrigued and curious and decided to initiate contact with me.
What started as instant messages on CC went to phone conversations, to Skype, to meeting in person(multiple times) over a period of months. During this time I was more dominantly the pursuer. It's over 2 years later, now, and she lives in a apartment in the same building as I do.
For you guys...once I had her interest...pursuing was fun!
For you gals...initiate contact and get his interest(by being yourself!)...and let him have fun pursuing you.
p.s. - Yo - Stewart - notice my age...I'm not that far behind you.
