Unmarried and Happy About it!

[CatHerder]

Anyone else content with their circumstances? Not complacent, but having a peace about being single, married, dating - being thankful no matter what your relationship status is?

It seems that there are many posts that pop up every so often describing oneself as "cursed" or "doomed" to be single. On the other hand, I throw up in my mouth a little whenever someone mentions the "gift of singleness."

So where are you in all this?
OK with being single?
Bemoaning that you are single?
Wanting to stay single for the rest of your life?
Praying for a spouse?
Not actively looking, but if God drops someone in my lap, I guess I'd be OK with it.

Just wondering how many others actually like their current situations and/or the direction their life is headed.

 

[Fenner]

I'm married, content. I can't find my phone but that's the only thing I'd change. Lol.

 

[Loveneverfails]

Currently in a marriage-minded relationship. I am thankful for my current situation and I am very content with the direction in which my life is headed.

My situation was very different a year and a half ago, but even then, my response to this question would have been the same. I think The Lord has greatly blessed me with peace in this area. I remember being in high school and the first few years of college and not feeling the slightest bit of angst over being single, even though my peers were fussing about it constantly. I mean, I figured it would be lovely to be with someone, but I didn't really experience an aching void and I didn't stress about it. I know, I know, I'm very young so I haven't endured the same struggles as some others, but one glance into the teen or young adult forums proves that young people are fully capable of falling victim to severe discontentment too.

Ps- I recently learned that as I approached my teenage years, my mother began praying daily that God would guard my heart and give me contentment in my singleness and that I wouldn't be swayed by stupid peer pressure, especially in high school. I feel like God definitely answered that prayer with a "yes!"

 

[Fenner]

I think I need to explain myself, I'd change always losing my phone.

As you know Cathearder, marriage isn't a magical thing that suddenly makes life very happy, sometimes it's the opposite. I've been married 15 years now. I think we have a pretty good marriage, not perfect but OK. I think when I was single I remember thinking that being married would be so great, it's good, I'm content. I think at first I was kind of expecting that Disney happy ending. Funny thing is they don't show what happens when Prince Charmings village goes bankrupt and they end up losing the castle and downsize to two bedroom apartment with three kids. One who has a boyfriend you don't like and two that need braces.

We always want something we don't have and once we've got it, it might not be what you expected after all.

 

[MissCris]

I LOL'd pretty hard at the title/OP...

I'm a basket case right now, in my current situation. Separated/waiting on divorce. However, I find I Am content.

Did I WANT to end up divorced? Not really. But even with as much of an emotional roller coaster as this has all been, I am far more at peace now than I was when I first started to realize my marriage was abusive, and during the following months.

Plus, this is one heck of an adventure- so many new things to learn, and the freedom to do so. It's amazing to me, realizing just how...squashed...my spirit really was before. I was on autopilot waaay too long, and now that I'm not constantly on guard, everything I feel is all sorts of intense and new.

I'm sure somebody will crawl out of the woodwork to take this entirely out of context, but this divorce is a blessing.
I'm very content.

 

[Ugly]

Accepting for now, but hope it will change in the future. Just trying to take this time to keep growing. Though more and more i believe i will probably not have the chance to marry.




Let them try, Cristen. Watch hellfire rain down on their heads =P haha

 

[Searching4Truth]

Not actively looking, but if God drops someone in my lap, I guess I'd be OK with it.

If, it happens, and that's a big if, I'd be okay with it.

 

[FireWire]

I'm quite happy not being married. I never had the desire for it and have little or no desire for children. When I was in my 20s I was under enormous pressure from friends in the youth group and certainly wasn't interested then. I just could not get through to them that it was never going to happen. I just caught up with the main one a few weeks ago and he has since divorced and remarried. On the other side of the coin I was being put down by a lot of women so I just felt like the piggy in the middle. Actually thinking about it is more like a battle for my soul.

Anyway marriage isn't the be all and end all of everything. The media has been working tirelessly to make people think it is for many many years. It's only a temporary institution in the current dispensation. I'm not saying it's a bad idea or wrong. It's just not for me. Whenever the topic pops up and it does now and then I actually get upset. Obviously I'm in reverse polarity compared to the world and even the church to a point.

 

[Pipp]

I LOL'd pretty hard at the title/OP...

I'm a basket case right now, in my current situation. Separated/waiting on divorce. However, I find I Am content.

Did I WANT to end up divorced? Not really. But even with as much of an emotional roller coaster as this has all been, I am far more at peace now than I was when I first started to realize my marriage was abusive, and during the following months.

Plus, this is one heck of an adventure- so many new things to learn, and the freedom to do so. It's amazing to me, realizing just how...squashed...my spirit really was before. I was on autopilot waaay too long, and now that I'm not constantly on guard, everything I feel is all sorts of intense and new.

I'm sure somebody will crawl out of the woodwork to take this entirely out of context, but this divorce is a blessing.
I'm very content.

My sister in law said the same thing a earlier today.... she said I don't regret marrying your brother and I don't regret the good years and my 4 beautiful babies ...but I also don't regret separating or divorcing. It would have been more harmful to her to stay married to an unfaithful man than to let him go and move on with her life. It's less detrimental to the children if he is divorced and free to date whomever than to watch their dad be unfaithful to their mom.


The Bible does say "for I have learned IN WHATSOEVER STATE I AM therewith to be content. "

 

[Pipp]

Accepting for now, but hope it will change in the future. Just trying to take this time to keep growing. Though more and more i believe i will probably not have the chance to marry.




Let them try, Cristen. Watch hellfire rain down on their heads =P haha

Oh shush you'll probably be married with 4 kids before you know it


Doof

 

[Pipp]

I'd love to be married ..but I'm content where I am now.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I love the freedom of being single. Marriage was nice too, but having done both, I definitely see the appeal in being accountable only to myself (and God) for how my money and time are spent.

I may feel differently when my kids are grown and gone, and I am in this house all alone. Or maybe not. Who knows? For now, I'm enjoying life.

 

[Test_F_i_2_Luv]

Praying for a spouse.

Some of it is complaining to Him.

This picture kinda summarizes me sometimes...

 

[PopClick]

Since you asked, I am scarily content. I don't even think of myself as single, though of course that's exactly what I am. I guess you could say that I'm single but not available, and absolutely adoring life.

 

[avhbows23]

I'm actually pretty okay with being single right now. Going on 4 years if singlehood and i am pretty happy with the journey so far. I have my days where I get lonely but I imagine that is normal. As far as the whole idea of marriage I'm pretty much over it. I don't picture myself married. But that could just be a result of my previous horrible relationship lol.

 

[IloveyouGod]

Seriously, I accept with happiness and love whatever marital status God wants me in, because I forced it my way before and I lost BIG TIME!! I'm smarter than making the same mistake twice by trying to force my will again.

 

[Shouryu]

If it were my thread, the title would be "Unmarried and Happy."

I'm not happy about being unmarried. But I am happy.

I am blessed unbelievably. Many of my friends and colleagues, and most the people in my church, are married. I see them all the time. I want what they have, but I am hardly covetous of it. I want it, but I don't look on it and find myself filled with emptiness. God has ALWAYS provided. It is not good for man to be alone; He didn't necessarily say, "It is not good to be unmarried. It is not good to sleep in a bed by yourself." I am single, but I'm hardly lonely! Since returning to the faith, I've always had someone to talk with, and I'm not talking about God (although, yes, we can always bring our cares to Him). He has made sure that there's ALWAYS someone I can talk with, so I don't have to feel alone.

-I can call my parents whenever I want. Since The Ex and I split, we're closer than ever. They visit me a TON.
-My pastor and his wife share their time with me quite a bit. Sometimes, we'll leave church together, go have a meal, and talk until 6 in the afternoon.
-My bartender happily hangs on my every word. She shares her life with me, too. And steals my fries. And a wing, sometimes. And pieces of my grilled cheese.
-And you. God provided me, with all of you. If none of the above are available, I can always find at least one of you. In fact, a couple of you are my default ANYWAYS.

Unmarried? Yes.
Happy? Yes.
Happy about being unmarried? No. But in the grand scheme of things, I'm happy, because my God provides.

 

[kenthomas27]

Since you asked, I am scarily content. I don't even think of myself as single, though of course that's exactly what I am. I guess you could say that I'm single but not available, and absolutely adoring life.

Good to see all my efforts come to fruition. Guys - if you need tips, I'll be here all week.

 

[seoulsearch]

As I wrote in another thread, my temporary cure for the "Why, Oh Why Am I Single" blues is spending about 15 minutes reading the threads in the Family Forum.

Then it changes to, "Lord, Oh Lord, I Am So Thankful to Not Be Dealing With Those Kinds of Problems!!!"

People often say that when they're single, they feel like half a person.

Just remember... This also means you'll have half the problems.

 

[gypsygirl]

my life is full of joy, gratitude, and fun. i get to have mini-adventures. i'm always planning the next big one.

suffice it to say, i've been rather blessed, spared from much, and shown much mercy.

do i have a wanting for more? well, of course i do. and yes, i'd like to be married, some day.

but um, am i boohoo-ing in my boots? hardly. i'm grateful that i've been shown so plainly that the wrong relationship is one that i want nothing part of.

just when i think i'm lonely, i remember how horrible it felt to be in the wrong relationship, and i quickly rejoice for my singleness, freedom, and the fact that i'm ready for what God has in store for me.

i'm fortunate to have had some extraordinary moments and cherished memories.

but i want a lot, LOT, LOT more. and i plan on having them. married, or alone.