Virginity is the big issue.

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stillwaiting4the1

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I pray for my future husband on a very regular basis. I pray that God will guide him and that he will continue to turn to God for everything. I also pray for myself, that God will mold me and change me to a woman that can accept whatever man He brings me. God can easily change hearts. Don't hate yourself for your past or fear that your future spouse will not accept you as you are. The are not sent from God if they cannot accept you as you are.
 
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I find it amusing when teens and people in their 20's say they are going to wait to have sex until after they get married. I think what they should say is they will only have sex if they are married They are assuming that they will get married. There is no promise that day will come. If you never find somenone to marry, are you prepared to never ever have any sexual activity with anyone or have any sexual thoughts? I'm 45 and it is long ,tough lonely road to keep that commitment. If you fail to keep that commitment don't beat yourself up. I sure God understands that we are only human . We are not machines that can turn off our thoughts and feelings. I think those people who think they are holier than thou, should think about that before telling someone that they are going to hell.
 
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ShelleBelle76

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Well, biologically speaking that's true. You can't your virginity by lusting. But we're not talking about biology we're talking about purity. Lust makes you impure. That's what purity (in this context anyway, we're not talking about Ivory Soap) is, a lack of lust. This is why purity matters more than virginity. That's what we all strive for. I remember something a friend said after she read I Kissed Dating Goodbye. She said that purity is not staying on one side of a line that you don't cross. It's like "as long as we don't have sex, we're pure" or "as long as we don't take off our clothes, we're pure." Purity is a direction you're heading in. It's something you're striving for. It's also something you can't have without the blood of Jesus.
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Therefore, it doesn't matter what you have done prior to being saved, once you are saved and purified by the blood of Jesus Christ, whether or not you are a virgin is not what makes you pure. It's heading in the right direction and striving to live a life of purity.

That whch was unclean He has made clean.
 
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penguingal

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ShelleBelle76 said:
Therefore, it doesn't matter what you have done prior to being saved, once you are saved and purified by the blood of Jesus Christ, whether or not you are a virgin is not what makes you pure. It's heading in the right direction and striving to live a life of purity.

That whch was unclean He has made clean.
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well said :D
 
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Therefore, it doesn't matter what you have done prior to being saved, once you are saved and purified by the blood of Jesus Christ, whether or not you are a virgin is not what makes you pure. It's heading in the right direction and striving to live a life of purity.

That whch was unclean He has made clean.
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That's true but what about someone who sleeps with nearly every person in the bible study group who are claimed Christian. What then?
 
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penguingal

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MahogonySnail said:
That's true but what about someone who sleeps with nearly every person in the bible study group who are claimed Christian. What then?
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Uhh, I think what Shelle meant was after you've being saved, you need to follow the right way. Whatever happened before, has been cleansed. If you claim to be saved and continue to sleep with everyone in the bible study group, then you're obviously not walking along with Jesus. How then are you saved? But for the young people and those who save their virginity until or if they get married, U GUYS ROCK!!!! :D
 
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ShelleBelle76

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MahogonySnail said:
That's true but what about someone who sleeps with nearly every person in the bible study group who are claimed Christian. What then?
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I am not sure what you are asking. If you are asking is someone like that is pure... common sense should tell you no.

They are choosing to live impurely and probably not someone you would want to be in a relationship with, for a myriad of reason, notwithstanding health issues! :)

That's not to say they are beyond redemption and purification.
 
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stillwaiting4the1

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I find it amusing when teens and people in their 20's say they are going to wait to have sex until after they get married. I think what they should say is they will only have sex if they are married They are assuming that they will get married. There is no promise that day will come. If you never find somenone to marry, are you prepared to never ever have any sexual activity with anyone or have any sexual thoughts? I'm 45 and it is long ,tough lonely road to keep that commitment. If you fail to keep that commitment don't beat yourself up. I sure God understands that we are only human . We are not machines that can turn off our thoughts and feelings. I think those people who think they are holier than thou, should think about that before telling someone that they are going to hell.
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Since I'm included in this group, I will clarify that I am guarding my heart, and praying that God is guarding the heart of the man I may some day marry, if that is in His will. You make it sound like we all pine away for a husband/wife, wasting our time assuming that God will bring someone along when its most convenient for us. All the while, God has plans for our singeness. You might rethink the way you say things, so they don't sound so condescending. And besides, you can't miss something you've never known.
 
MahogonySnail

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Well, I have less problem with non-virgins who were that way before being saved. I have more problem with non-virgins who became that way after salvation and not just a one-off mistake but pattern of behaviour. I think they are two different types of people.
 
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Musilany

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I totally agree with you Derek, we can't do anything without the Lord's help, He makes us righteous.
But we also have to make a choise to do it to glorify Him and Him alone, not to be a good christian or even expecting that in the future God will send somebody that is also a virgin, remember its all for Him.
I thank God for the strength He has given me all this years. I know people really struggle with this but I personally dont find it so hard, I am still a virgin and besides doing it to glorify God, I just don't put myself in situations I know its going to be hard to resist.....
Its not just about sex, but everything in life. If you have a weakeness no matter in what it is, don't think you are strong enogh to resist, but run as far as possible from it.
 
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