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Have you ever had someone you were close to begin to do/say things that caused to you lose a certain amount of respect for them? How do you handle this? It's tough to unsee/unhear some things, isn't it? 
I've been written up for things and owned up to them in the past, but there was an issue a few months back that was not my fault - basically a communication breakdown at a management level above me. I got blamed for it even though I pointed out on paper that I did everything that was expected of me. For me, it was an integrity issue with my boss. I lost a lot of respect for him. We are on friendly terms again, but I have lost a lot of trust and respect. It's hard for one to earn that back.
I usually chalk up my level of disappointment to three things.
1. My own idolatry. I'm a hero-worshiper at heart.
2. The flawed nature of man and his susceptibility to temptation.
3. The aggressive nature of the fallen world and the enemy. If you are in the least bit Christ-like and show it, forces will be at work to bring you down. Sometimes they are overwhelming.
1. My own idolatry. I'm a hero-worshiper at heart.
2. The flawed nature of man and his susceptibility to temptation.
3. The aggressive nature of the fallen world and the enemy. If you are in the least bit Christ-like and show it, forces will be at work to bring you down. Sometimes they are overwhelming.
J
I think I'll just go shoot some stuff....
That usually makes me feel better.
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Not people or animals....just...stuff.
That usually makes me feel better.
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Not people or animals....just...stuff.
Hey JULES............ HEY!!!!!!!! JULES!!!!!!!! It happens, the Lord Jesus is teaching you to rely on Him only. Him only. You cant trust the man or the woman. JERIMIAH 17 verse 5 - Cursed be the man that trusteth in man and maketh flesh his arm and his heart departeth from the Lord - You and I have said stuff that has hurt others
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Have you ever had someone you were close to begin to do/say things that caused to you lose a certain amount of respect for them? How do you handle this? It's tough to unsee/unhear some things, isn't it?
Have you ever had someone you were close to begin to do/say things that caused to you lose a certain amount of respect for them? How do you handle this? It's tough to unsee/unhear some things, isn't it?
I know some people will say I'm not very old (but I feel like it most days), but one thing I've found in my life is that if I point a finger at someone, God will, almost undoubtedly, put something in my own life that will cause me to realize I am capable of doing the exact same thing. I may not do it (or sometimes I do), but eventually, something happens to which I know God is standing there and nodding His head... telling me to be careful in my thoughts towards others.
If people knew the things I've contemplated, I'm sure I would be exiled rather quickly, so I have to remember I have no right to do that to someone else.
Sorry if I misunderstood . Warning signs... I try to pray for them... But yes, if need be, I definitely back away, depending on what the warning sign is. I see it as God trying to grant discernment. (The biggest example I can think of was a co-worker I was once very close to but different things kept us apart... I didn't feel as close to the person and I felt very sad about it. But some time later it came out that this person was stealing from the company.)
You may not be unjustly judging or criticizing them at all... God may be trying to warn you about something and keep you away from a dangerous situation. After all, the Bible says that bad company can corrupt even the best of character.
. Warning signs... I try to pray for them... But yes, if need be, I definitely back away, depending on what the warning sign is. I see it as God trying to grant discernment. (The biggest example I can think of was a co-worker I was once very close to but different things kept us apart... I didn't feel as close to the person and I felt very sad about it. But some time later it came out that this person was stealing from the company.)You may not be unjustly judging or criticizing them at all... God may be trying to warn you about something and keep you away from a dangerous situation. After all, the Bible says that bad company can corrupt even the best of character.
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Have you ever had someone you were close to begin to do/say things that caused to you lose a certain amount of respect for them? How do you handle this? It's tough to unsee/unhear some things, isn't it?
J
That's kinda what makes it tough. Having seen so much, trusting is pretty hard (except for the Lord). Cops have a saying: In God we trust. Everyone else, lemme see your hands. So...when you do finally do allow yourself to get close to people and stuff like that happens, it can be very discouraging. But...hey....I need to put my big girl pants on and get over it. And I am.
And I am.
Last night, my Bible study group went over Titus 2, where Paul instructs older women to encourage and teach the younger women, and not to be slanderers. One of my friends in the group said that she can't imagine if an older woman she respected and looked up to, like her mom, just bashed her and slandered her. She said that is something that would hurt so deeply and take forever to heal from.
I spoke up briefly and said, "That happened to me last summer. You're right, it was really painful." It wasn't with my mom. It was with another older, Christian woman. I knew this woman could be a bit...sharp with her words and...bold in her actions, based on previous experiences that summer. But when she totally unleashed on me...it just shattered all trust and respect. I understand messing up; I get slipping up. But there's a line between accidents that happen and purposefully being very hurtful. She leaped over the line without looking back and without knowing the damage it did to me. Even I am surprised at the damage it did.
Our words can be so very powerful. It's so important that we use them in a godly manner and constantly be keeping our hearts, minds, and bodies in check to align with Christ, because when it's not, it hurts more than just yourself.
ETA: Sorry my post isn't encouraging, Jullianna. That's just my experience. But I did want to edit my post to say that I am praying for you. I totally understand the disappointment that comes with that. I also realized I didn't say how I handle it. I don't usually handle it well, I'll put it that way. I get even more closed off, though singing and writing and talking with God or a godly friend helps.
I spoke up briefly and said, "That happened to me last summer. You're right, it was really painful." It wasn't with my mom. It was with another older, Christian woman. I knew this woman could be a bit...sharp with her words and...bold in her actions, based on previous experiences that summer. But when she totally unleashed on me...it just shattered all trust and respect. I understand messing up; I get slipping up. But there's a line between accidents that happen and purposefully being very hurtful. She leaped over the line without looking back and without knowing the damage it did to me. Even I am surprised at the damage it did.
Our words can be so very powerful. It's so important that we use them in a godly manner and constantly be keeping our hearts, minds, and bodies in check to align with Christ, because when it's not, it hurts more than just yourself.
ETA: Sorry my post isn't encouraging, Jullianna. That's just my experience. But I did want to edit my post to say that I am praying for you. I totally understand the disappointment that comes with that. I also realized I didn't say how I handle it. I don't usually handle it well, I'll put it that way. I get even more closed off, though singing and writing and talking with God or a godly friend helps.