Waiting on God For "The One"
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The hard part sometimes about waiting on God for the one is that you might all ready have the one
and now you have to wait on God to finish the final project so that you both line up with His perfect
plan. I have been in love for 3 years with a man I know is my husband however He is not ready for
Gods plan of marraige and ministry and I am having to let completely go from him in order to be in Gods perfect will. Scripture says when you are in His perfect will all will come to you. Am I willing to let Go and Let God do His work even to the understanding that this man I have loved so deeply might not answer
the call? Will I trust God that everything He has shown me will come to pass and in that season of just me and God, that God is all I really need for all things pertaining to happiness and life?
Unity with God takes a serious commitment of time and relationship. To hear from God pertaining to Love and relationship with man is a very important thing to sustaining peace and joy within yourself.
Child like faith is so neccessary to maintain. We don't have Gods understanding and we don't always know what He is doing...but will we trust Him? I find the more I seek God in understanding His Love and ways of relationship the more I can be blessing in relationship to man and not fowl it up in my impatience, anger and frustrations, doubts and fears. Learning you can trust in God and that He is faithful and He knows best. Knowing He will withhold no good thing from you...takes time and serious relationship with Him. How do you spend your time with God and converse with Him? I have learned that the Word holds such truth that God does have all the answers pertaining to my life. By His Holy Spirit He talks to me through scripture, music, art, prayer, people and Church.
Codependancy is stronger than we know in our lives. Who do we depend on for support? Most of us have put all our eggs in a basket on someone or something that can not give us all the answers or provision.
Letting Go....Letting God be God in our lives...and receiving all the Blessings He promises! Now that's True Love in it's finest!
As I go through this trial of heart ache and seek Him I will trust Him for He is my heavenly Father who Loves me like His favorite little girl and knows best!
and now you have to wait on God to finish the final project so that you both line up with His perfect
plan. I have been in love for 3 years with a man I know is my husband however He is not ready for
Gods plan of marraige and ministry and I am having to let completely go from him in order to be in Gods perfect will. Scripture says when you are in His perfect will all will come to you. Am I willing to let Go and Let God do His work even to the understanding that this man I have loved so deeply might not answer
the call? Will I trust God that everything He has shown me will come to pass and in that season of just me and God, that God is all I really need for all things pertaining to happiness and life?
Unity with God takes a serious commitment of time and relationship. To hear from God pertaining to Love and relationship with man is a very important thing to sustaining peace and joy within yourself.
Child like faith is so neccessary to maintain. We don't have Gods understanding and we don't always know what He is doing...but will we trust Him? I find the more I seek God in understanding His Love and ways of relationship the more I can be blessing in relationship to man and not fowl it up in my impatience, anger and frustrations, doubts and fears. Learning you can trust in God and that He is faithful and He knows best. Knowing He will withhold no good thing from you...takes time and serious relationship with Him. How do you spend your time with God and converse with Him? I have learned that the Word holds such truth that God does have all the answers pertaining to my life. By His Holy Spirit He talks to me through scripture, music, art, prayer, people and Church.
Codependancy is stronger than we know in our lives. Who do we depend on for support? Most of us have put all our eggs in a basket on someone or something that can not give us all the answers or provision.
Letting Go....Letting God be God in our lives...and receiving all the Blessings He promises! Now that's True Love in it's finest!
As I go through this trial of heart ache and seek Him I will trust Him for He is my heavenly Father who Loves me like His favorite little girl and knows best!
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This was an auhmazing post. Though i am only 16 soon to be going on 17, this is a thought that goes through my mind alot. But I've realized over the past several months that if you try to think about whom it will be, you will drive yourself crazy. Its easier and less stressful if you just have a bit more faith that God will provide the desires of your heart and its all in His timing!!!! So stick it out and just wait for God to surprise you! God works in mysterious ways!
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I beleive that God intended for all of us to have a significant other. God is not about isolation and lonliness and knows our makeup. The Bible speaks a lot of two is better than one. Paul suggests if you can stay single do it because you can give all your focus to God but Paul knowing our desire to love and be loved also stated if you can't stay celibate than it is better to be married. The body of Christ needs
to take responsibility for their actions because eyes are on them all the time including Satan.
Where two are gathered in His name God is in the midst of them
Jesus sent His disciples out in twos
In Genesis that was the very first flesh relationship. God created Adam a helpmate
It is hard for us to sacrifice ourselves in a relationship to learn to work together however it is even harder for our hearts to be torn having no one to share our life with, our relationship with God with
and our visions, hopes and dreams.
The wisdom is to learn who God is and what He created us for, who you are in Christ and what is a Godly relationship. Taking time to know God is the key to all success. Only His Spirit can discern the many distraction of those who are not truly serving Christ in their hearts.
to take responsibility for their actions because eyes are on them all the time including Satan.
Where two are gathered in His name God is in the midst of them
Jesus sent His disciples out in twos
In Genesis that was the very first flesh relationship. God created Adam a helpmate
It is hard for us to sacrifice ourselves in a relationship to learn to work together however it is even harder for our hearts to be torn having no one to share our life with, our relationship with God with
and our visions, hopes and dreams.
The wisdom is to learn who God is and what He created us for, who you are in Christ and what is a Godly relationship. Taking time to know God is the key to all success. Only His Spirit can discern the many distraction of those who are not truly serving Christ in their hearts.
I have a rather different experience in all this than I've heard mentioned. I met my future wife, Kim, when I was 27. I didn't know it at the time, of course. We were good, even best, friends for eight years. I didn't really see her as a potential wife... not that I never thought about it, but I had reservations and was looking elsewhere. Finally God spoke to me and basically said, "You and Kim together is My idea... stop hesitating, everything will be fine."
That was the assurance I needed, so we started dating. It took her another year to have the same assurance from God. Ten years after we first met, we got married. In retrospect, this was almost a fairytale way to do things. Grow in love for years and then finally marry your best friend. Indeed, my wedding day was the happiest day of my life. We went into marriage with both eyes open, knowing that it would be a lot of work regardless of how well we knew each other, but we were committed, till death us do part. Certainly I had found "the One".
Well, the fairytale only lasted three years. We had a great relationship, and were growing more in our love for each other as the months passed. Then in the Fall of 2004, Kim got sick. She was diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer. Eleven weeks later she was dead. The pain I felt was... words fail. Pain, loss, doubt, depression, anger, despair. Was I thankful for our three years? yep. But still angry at God? you bet.
It's been over four years since then. I wish I could say everything was fine now, but that would be a lie. I have more questions than I have answers, more pain and despair than I have peace and joy. There are many days when this life down here on the surface of this planet seems completely pointless, excruciating on top of that, and I just wish, sometimes even pray, that God would take me Home. So far He has not chosen to grant that request....
Okay. What can I say of a positive nature...? Several things. Whether I can see it or feel it I know that God loves me. Sometimes that is absolutely all I have to cling to. Another thing... God is faithful. Many times I have not been faithful to Him, but He has never forsaken me. Further... whatever I go through, whatever I have to say to Him, ask Him, scream at Him... He can take it, and He meets me where I'm at, loves me no less. He knows me inside out and still loves me. Not only that, but He understands -- He is no stranger to suffering, after all. Lastly, God offers hope. This has been the hardest one for me to hold on to but I still claim it and type it here.
So, with regard to "the One," I've been there, done that. I met her, I married her, I lost her. Can there be more than one "the One"? Well that's kind of a contradiction. I don't like being alone, and God knows that. In my better moments, I'm even convinced that He cares. So if He chooses He will bring someone into my life, but I'm not really waiting or looking. Indeed, the emotional logistics of marrying again are difficult -- in many ways I still feel like I'm married to someone who is no longer here. But this too God will have to work out. It's totally in His hands.
I know this post has not been completely uplifting, and for that I apologize. But it has been real, and from my heart. I hope and pray that it will bless someone, and perhaps touch them where they are at.
That was the assurance I needed, so we started dating. It took her another year to have the same assurance from God. Ten years after we first met, we got married. In retrospect, this was almost a fairytale way to do things. Grow in love for years and then finally marry your best friend. Indeed, my wedding day was the happiest day of my life. We went into marriage with both eyes open, knowing that it would be a lot of work regardless of how well we knew each other, but we were committed, till death us do part. Certainly I had found "the One".
Well, the fairytale only lasted three years. We had a great relationship, and were growing more in our love for each other as the months passed. Then in the Fall of 2004, Kim got sick. She was diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer. Eleven weeks later she was dead. The pain I felt was... words fail. Pain, loss, doubt, depression, anger, despair. Was I thankful for our three years? yep. But still angry at God? you bet.
It's been over four years since then. I wish I could say everything was fine now, but that would be a lie. I have more questions than I have answers, more pain and despair than I have peace and joy. There are many days when this life down here on the surface of this planet seems completely pointless, excruciating on top of that, and I just wish, sometimes even pray, that God would take me Home. So far He has not chosen to grant that request....
Okay. What can I say of a positive nature...? Several things. Whether I can see it or feel it I know that God loves me. Sometimes that is absolutely all I have to cling to. Another thing... God is faithful. Many times I have not been faithful to Him, but He has never forsaken me. Further... whatever I go through, whatever I have to say to Him, ask Him, scream at Him... He can take it, and He meets me where I'm at, loves me no less. He knows me inside out and still loves me. Not only that, but He understands -- He is no stranger to suffering, after all. Lastly, God offers hope. This has been the hardest one for me to hold on to but I still claim it and type it here.
So, with regard to "the One," I've been there, done that. I met her, I married her, I lost her. Can there be more than one "the One"? Well that's kind of a contradiction. I don't like being alone, and God knows that. In my better moments, I'm even convinced that He cares. So if He chooses He will bring someone into my life, but I'm not really waiting or looking. Indeed, the emotional logistics of marrying again are difficult -- in many ways I still feel like I'm married to someone who is no longer here. But this too God will have to work out. It's totally in His hands.
I know this post has not been completely uplifting, and for that I apologize. But it has been real, and from my heart. I hope and pray that it will bless someone, and perhaps touch them where they are at.
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Great post Daddycat. What a good outlook you have. You and Kim were blessed to have such a strong relationship and smart to have gotten to know each other as well as you did and stlll keep your eyes open. I know I've said it before but I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Many of us needed to hear that although we don't always understand why God chooses to take our loved ones home prematurely, that He still loves all of us. Thank you for sharing your story, and with your permission I will share it with my Dad.
I really enjoyed reading this!!! It was such a blessing. Especially the part I have highlighted. I had planned long ago, that by 21 I'd have met the one...have kids by 25, blah blah blah.....did it happen.....BIG FAT NO!!!
For many years since 21 there was this unspoken and spoken pressure of 'haven't you met anyone yet'. I watched many friends go into serious relationships, friends get married and at those weddings 'You'll be next'....oh hush..is how I felt after a while!!!
Finding that freedom that told the world that I didn't have to conform to their 'meet someone-get married-have kids dateline'...what would happen if the dateline expired....I'd probably end up the woman left on the shelf right about now!!!
God's ways are higher than ours. God's timing is a mystery for certain things in our lives and we cannot put God in a box that is marked 'God must send me a husband/wife between age 21-25'...God does as He pleases, because He knows what is best for us. He knows what is best for me...even though I don't understand His timing!!! But I must trust Him and continue to live life to the full and pursue dreams and live my best life everyday!!
My husband could be staring me in the face right now and I don't know it, he could be just around the corner or somewhere in next year...who knows...God knows! Like you said ' All I know is what I want and what I don't want ' and I know how I need to prepare myself towards being the best girlfriend, fiancee and eventually wife, that I can be. The biggest favour we can do ourselves whilst waiting:
*is to make sure we know who we are in Christ
* still pursue our God given hopes and dreams
* get clued up on the realities of marriage and living your life with another person (nothing wrong with finding out)
*keep living life to the full - don't wait until 'the one' arrives.
Great article Mark
For many years since 21 there was this unspoken and spoken pressure of 'haven't you met anyone yet'. I watched many friends go into serious relationships, friends get married and at those weddings 'You'll be next'....oh hush..is how I felt after a while!!!
Finding that freedom that told the world that I didn't have to conform to their 'meet someone-get married-have kids dateline'...what would happen if the dateline expired....I'd probably end up the woman left on the shelf right about now!!!
God's ways are higher than ours. God's timing is a mystery for certain things in our lives and we cannot put God in a box that is marked 'God must send me a husband/wife between age 21-25'...God does as He pleases, because He knows what is best for us. He knows what is best for me...even though I don't understand His timing!!! But I must trust Him and continue to live life to the full and pursue dreams and live my best life everyday!!
My husband could be staring me in the face right now and I don't know it, he could be just around the corner or somewhere in next year...who knows...God knows! Like you said ' All I know is what I want and what I don't want ' and I know how I need to prepare myself towards being the best girlfriend, fiancee and eventually wife, that I can be. The biggest favour we can do ourselves whilst waiting:
*is to make sure we know who we are in Christ
* still pursue our God given hopes and dreams
* get clued up on the realities of marriage and living your life with another person (nothing wrong with finding out)
*keep living life to the full - don't wait until 'the one' arrives.
Great article Mark
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Hi I am sorry for your lost. I understand where you are coming from. I lost my husband Robert after 23 years of marriage. To a long illness. Then the Lord bless me with a second husband. We were only together 1 year in marriage. Both men were God sent to me. I still have momemts of sadness. But thankful to God for the time I had with them. It does get a little easier over time. But you can always carry those good times in your heart always even if the Lord was to bless you with someone else. Because if she is a christian she will understand you have those memories. Hope that helps what to chat I here to listen in good times and bad times for you. God bless you and comfort and protect you.
