What A Woman of God Wants: The Most Intimate Thing

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lav

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seeks God first

prayer warrior (ok if in silence or on own time, but genuinely tries for a close relationship with Christ)

wants to share in spirituality/relationship with God.... let God be the head of the relationship, and know each other spiritually, not just carnally

allows me my independence and time to self to work, exercise, relax, re-charge...etc. anything my heart desires-

but we can also share things when we want to spend time together doing, like gardening or other activities we enjoy

humble

casual dresser, but can look nice and pulled together in an understated/sophisticated way for special occasions or every now and then

someone who has similar taste in music - does not need to be exact! just not light years apart

similar taste in movies- but still own unique take on things... stuff only he likes and has individual preferences we may or may not share

someone who likes the outdoors-

hiking, the beach/surfing, going on walks through the neighborhood in the moonlight ( i know, cheesy... but it's not once you're out there... looking up at the stars, holding hands it's worth it to me- makes me feel safe )

causes me to feel safe and protected

loyal

honest

fair

loves me for me..
accepts my flaws, because the love God put in his heart is strong enough that he understands i am growing, and can always learn and improve ( has faith in me )

strength through gentleness

doesn't need to explain things ad nauseam or hear me do the same. we're on the same wavelength- can spend quiet times to ourselves in the same home, without bothering each other. comfort in silence shared...

empathy and compassion

sincerity

depth

confidence

a homebody ...but

at the same time, someone who gives me space when i need it, and has their own interests-life-work-support network.

a great cuddler - not too clingy, just right . feel safe in their arms, but not stuck or caught or captured.

kisses amazing

hugs me just right.

humor...

childlike, not childish attitude

concern for other's feelings

relaxed and casual, self assured

actions, feelings, thoughts and words match up

down to earth.

can debate without arguing

doesn't believe their opinion is the only one in the world, or the only 'right one'

totally obsessed with me, i'm his only one. . but knows when to give me space and when we need our own time to be with God or friends, or... doing our independent lives away from each other...

can be trusted to be on the other side of the world and i know he is being faithful to me

makes me laugh

we can talk and it's fun... or be totally silent together, and comfortable

comfort in silence - key

no physical intimacy before maraige

knows i'm the one.

treats me the same around friends, family, co-workers and acquaintances - everyone, basically.
 
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lav

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smells wonderful


is at least 3" taller than me


thoughtful in helping with cleaning up at home


amazing eyes


is attractive to me


calming force in my life
 
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lav

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holds me just right...

already said it, so important that my head fits just right on his chest.

amazing chemistry- in every way.

( okay, pretty much got it i think:)

oh and is NEVER, EVER ABUSIVE in ANY WAY under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES... no excuses !!!

knows when to give space and let things calm down. never reacts in anger.
i KNOW this is possible.

likes to make up, if there's been a disagreement or argument of some kind, before we go to sleep.

has similar taste in architecture and interior design.
 
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lav

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cares about the heart ( mine and others ), and my feelings, intuitions and emotions. respects my ' right brained/intuitive ' approach to life .

never tears me down

doesn't try to solve all my problems... but will listen to me.

cares about the health of the earth and the environment, likes animals and nature.

( this is cathartic, i hope i'm not bothering anyone :p )
 
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surprisingrose

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Beautiful....Amen! Preach it. I haven't had that yet and very much yearn for that. Yes that moment that melts your heart... from either him/her. Those of the defining moments that set the relationship in cement; when you know they are a keeper. Apparently he knew you were a keeper too;).
 
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Ugly

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Thank you for this Jullianna.
 
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Arlene89

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Jullianna said:


He didn't say a word. He took our baby in his arms, took me by the hand and led me into our bedroom. He placed our son on the edge of the bed, knelt down beside it and looked to me to do the same. He placed his hands on our son, thanked God for protecting us and blessing us with him, and he dedicated our son to the Lord for whatever purpose God may have for him.

That was when I saw it. That was when I knew what I wanted. That was when I knew I'd found a man who was NO prince. I'd found a man of God who knew his humble place before the Lord and in my eyes as leader and priest of his home. I knew right then that I would walk through fire with this man and stand with him until the last dog died without question. Life threw a lot at us, but I never regretted one moment. And when I say that I will never settle for less, I mean it.
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This is truly inspirational. You are immensely blessed, and it is so beautiful to read this. It is encouraging for me because I am twenty-three and only just started coming out of a season of healing regarding the relationships of my past. I used to pray "Lord, I'm not ready for any man. Please keep me for yourself for now" because I was so blatantly aware of the heart issues I still needed to surrender before I could even begin to start thinking about someone else's needs.

Now, this season feels so different. I feel like I am open to appreciating a man in my life, but the Lord may not see it that way. I'm okay with this. I've tried to be my own God and date whom ever I pleased, and boy did that lead to a whole lot of heart ache. So I leave it in his hands because I don't trust myself to bare that responsibility. Eck.

But awhile ago, I had this weird idea drop in my heart. "I will know my future husband by the way he prays for me". I just saw a man laying hands on me, and in my mind I felt at peace, sure, loved and protected. I deeply, deeply want this in a man. I want to be lead, I am no good at wearing the pants... it is just so 'off' and turns me in to a scary person. I don't expect a man to be shredded with supernatural swordsmanship, but I want a man who has the heart of a warrior and wields the sword of the Spirit like its an extended limb.

This is my deepest desires. So Jullianna, I pray that I will be blessed with the same blessing as you have received. My heart rejoices at seeing something so beautiful. I am truly in awe and have further established what I want in a man just by reading this. Awesome.
 
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Jullianna

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Arlene89 said:
This is truly inspirational. You are immensely blessed, and it is so beautiful to read this. It is encouraging for me because I am twenty-three and only just started coming out of a season of healing regarding the relationships of my past. I used to pray "Lord, I'm not ready for any man. Please keep me for yourself for now" because I was so blatantly aware of the heart issues I still needed to surrender before I could even begin to start thinking about someone else's needs.

Now, this season feels so different. I feel like I am open to appreciating a man in my life, but the Lord may not see it that way. I'm okay with this. I've tried to be my own God and date whom ever I pleased, and boy did that lead to a whole lot of heart ache. So I leave it in his hands because I don't trust myself to bare that responsibility. Eck.

But awhile ago, I had this weird idea drop in my heart. "I will know my future husband by the way he prays for me". I just saw a man laying hands on me, and in my mind I felt at peace, sure, loved and protected. I deeply, deeply want this in a man. I want to be lead, I am no good at wearing the pants... it is just so 'off' and turns me in to a scary person. I don't expect a man to be shredded with supernatural swordsmanship, but I want a man who has the heart of a warrior and wields the sword of the Spirit like its an extended limb.

This is my deepest desires. So Jullianna, I pray that I will be blessed with the same blessing as you have received. My heart rejoices at seeing something so beautiful. I am truly in awe and have further established what I want in a man just by reading this. Awesome.
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I completely understand what you are saying about withdrawing from the dating world for a season. A season of healing and growth. I also agree that we can have a sense of when that season is over. There is a time to stay and pray, and there is a time to rise and walk.

I pray that God will lead you by your heart, your mind and His Spirit to a man who will take your hand and reveal to you his God-given strength. And as I pray for you, I am praying for him as well, that he will yield to the Lord to be all that He and you need him to be. It is a high calling, but there are a lot of godly men out there who are more than capable of answering. They just don't know it yet. For now, maybe they are in a season of withdrawal for the very same reason. :)
 
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Arlene89

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Jullianna said:
It is a high calling, but there are a lot of godly men out there who are more than capable of answering. They just don't know it yet. For now, maybe they are in a season of withdrawal for the very same reason. :)
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Don't worry, I'm not walking around thinking that there is some specific male who will pray over me and boom, he's 'the one'. I've had several men lay hands on me and pray before, I didn't go chasing them asking what colour theme we should have for the wedding. I don't believe there is just one, but its more that I deeply, deeply want a prayful man to marry me. Satan didn't come to Adam and Eve until after their marriage. From what I hear, marriage is hard work and is is compiled with many sacrifices, and if I'm going down that track, I would very much appreciate a bold and courageous man who delights in praying for his wife. I just like touch as well, so if a man lays hands on me WHILE praying and being there with me, I'll be all gooey I tell you.
 
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Stuey

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Thank you again for your wisdom. I have much to learn still.
 
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