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I have heard a lot of men (both Christian and non) say, "Why can't women just SAY what they want?" There are threads in this forum right now asking what women prefer in the way of appearance, quirks, personalities, etc., but this is the defining moment when one of them comes right out and tells you how far off base the majority of those things really are. 
There are a lot of women in the world who will tell you that they want a man who looks a certain way, has certain characteristics, and even some shallow ones who will say they want one who can offer the materialistic (not that those things aren't nice or appreciated...but if/when those things are gone, she will likely be as well).
I'm going to be perfectly honest with you and tell you that a lot of Christian women have no clue what they are looking for, until they see it. I was one of them once. I thought I knew. I'd met a man who completely captured my heart. He was quietly strong. He was not a tall man, but he was built like a brick fortress. He was funny. He was smart. He was respected by those who knew him more than any man I have ever known. He was loving. He was affectionate. He was athletic. He loved to travel. He couldn't sing worth crap, but it made me smile when he tried. I thought all of that was enough for me, but when I saw this, I understood that the rest of it was just...frosting:
I had married and followed him to his home state to build a new life together. I was barely a woman. Barely nineteen. And a new mother. If you are a parent, whether male or female, you've seen how highly emotional new mommies are, so you know where I'm coming from. We had been looking around for a church, but those we had visited at the time were social clubs with crosses on top, and I had something very precious on my heart.
I'd had a very difficult time having our son and had known that without God's presence in our lives, my son and I would not have survived, so the first thing I wanted to do was what Hannah had done. I wanted to dedicate my baby boy to the Lord. (If you want to understand why this was so important to me, please read 1 Samuel 1). That was when I saw what I'd been looking for. That was when my defining moment came.
He didn't say a word. He took our baby in his arms, took me by the hand and led me into our bedroom. He placed our son on the edge of the bed, knelt down beside it and looked to me to do the same. He placed his hands on our son, thanked God for protecting us and blessing us with him, and he dedicated our son to the Lord for whatever purpose God may have for him.
That was when I saw it. That was when I knew what I wanted. That was when I knew I'd found a man who was NO prince. I'd found a man of God who knew his humble place before the Lord and in my eyes as leader and priest of his home. I knew right then that I would walk through fire with this man and stand with him until the last dog died without question. Life threw a lot at us, but I never regretted one moment. And when I say that I will never settle for less, I mean it.
So, gentlemen. There it is. I can't speak for all of the women in the world, but if you are a man of God, you shouldn't be interested in what all of those women want anyway. THIS is what a woman of God wants. This is what she is looking for. If and when you think you may have met her, in the event troubles rise within your relationship, if you think your lady is looking to you to "fix" whatever it is, take her by the hand in the presence of God and pray that He will show the two of you whether your relationship is right or what changes, if any, need to occur. Ask Him to guide the both of you. To give you wisdom. To give you discernment. To show you the truth and the way that you should go.
If she balks at this, if she mocks you in any way, let.her.go. That woman has no respect for you or the things of God, and no clue as to what is truly important in a relationship. BUT, if she comfortably takes your hand and stands/kneels with you in the presence of God, I don't care whether you are 3 or 7 feet tall/are bald or have hair like Fabio/tattoos or no tattoos/money or no money/looks or no looks/education or no education/car or no car/job or no job, you will have grown ten feet to her, her eyes will be opened and she will finally know what she has been looking for in a man.
You may think that sex is the most intimate thing you will ever do with a woman, but I guarantee you that it is not - THIS IS:
There are a lot of women in the world who will tell you that they want a man who looks a certain way, has certain characteristics, and even some shallow ones who will say they want one who can offer the materialistic (not that those things aren't nice or appreciated...but if/when those things are gone, she will likely be as well).
I'm going to be perfectly honest with you and tell you that a lot of Christian women have no clue what they are looking for, until they see it. I was one of them once.
I thought I knew. I'd met a man who completely captured my heart. He was quietly strong. He was not a tall man, but he was built like a brick fortress. He was funny. He was smart. He was respected by those who knew him more than any man I have ever known. He was loving. He was affectionate. He was athletic. He loved to travel. He couldn't sing worth crap, but it made me smile when he tried. I thought all of that was enough for me, but when I saw this, I understood that the rest of it was just...frosting:I had married and followed him to his home state to build a new life together. I was barely a woman. Barely nineteen. And a new mother. If you are a parent, whether male or female, you've seen how highly emotional new mommies are, so you know where I'm coming from.
We had been looking around for a church, but those we had visited at the time were social clubs with crosses on top, and I had something very precious on my heart. I'd had a very difficult time having our son and had known that without God's presence in our lives, my son and I would not have survived, so the first thing I wanted to do was what Hannah had done. I wanted to dedicate my baby boy to the Lord. (If you want to understand why this was so important to me, please read 1 Samuel 1). That was when I saw what I'd been looking for. That was when my defining moment came.
He didn't say a word. He took our baby in his arms, took me by the hand and led me into our bedroom. He placed our son on the edge of the bed, knelt down beside it and looked to me to do the same. He placed his hands on our son, thanked God for protecting us and blessing us with him, and he dedicated our son to the Lord for whatever purpose God may have for him.
That was when I saw it. That was when I knew what I wanted. That was when I knew I'd found a man who was NO prince. I'd found a man of God who knew his humble place before the Lord and in my eyes as leader and priest of his home. I knew right then that I would walk through fire with this man and stand with him until the last dog died without question. Life threw a lot at us, but I never regretted one moment. And when I say that I will never settle for less, I mean it.
So, gentlemen. There it is. I can't speak for all of the women in the world, but if you are a man of God, you shouldn't be interested in what all of those women want anyway. THIS is what a woman of God wants. This is what she is looking for. If and when you think you may have met her, in the event troubles rise within your relationship, if you think your lady is looking to you to "fix" whatever it is, take her by the hand in the presence of God and pray that He will show the two of you whether your relationship is right or what changes, if any, need to occur. Ask Him to guide the both of you. To give you wisdom. To give you discernment. To show you the truth and the way that you should go.
If she balks at this, if she mocks you in any way, let.her.go. That woman has no respect for you or the things of God, and no clue as to what is truly important in a relationship. BUT, if she comfortably takes your hand and stands/kneels with you in the presence of God, I don't care whether you are 3 or 7 feet tall/are bald or have hair like Fabio/tattoos or no tattoos/money or no money/looks or no looks/education or no education/car or no car/job or no job, you will have grown ten feet to her, her eyes will be opened and she will finally know what she has been looking for in a man.
You may think that sex is the most intimate thing you will ever do with a woman, but I guarantee you that it is not - THIS IS:
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