What are Some of the Stereotypes and Criticisms that Married People Face?
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Lol!
Maybe some are unaware of this
, but they don't give discounts to people who are not married.
Sorry, but there are no half-price rent, mortgage, or utility deals for singles.
Now I do realize some married couples are in a situation where only one person works.
But if you ever want to know what a "single" person is "freely" spending their money on--if you have a two-person budget, take half an hour to put it down on paper and cut your budget down to one check, then figure out how it would still cover all the bills for a year.
Hopefully, this would give someone a pretty good idea of what many of the supposedly "free-spending" singles are actually spending their money on.
Maybe some are unaware of this
, but they don't give discounts to people who are not married. Sorry, but there are no half-price rent, mortgage, or utility deals for singles.
Now I do realize some married couples are in a situation where only one person works.
But if you ever want to know what a "single" person is "freely" spending their money on--if you have a two-person budget, take half an hour to put it down on paper and cut your budget down to one check, then figure out how it would still cover all the bills for a year.
Hopefully, this would give someone a pretty good idea of what many of the supposedly "free-spending" singles are actually spending their money on.
Coming from the side of divorce, I guess some of my personal opinions about marriage have changed some. There are some things that are negative, and a whole lot more positive.
* What are some of the stereotypes and criticisms that married Christians face?
~ The whole stereotype of "settling down" as if you are giving up on the adventures and wonderful exciting things in life because you are "tied down" now. When I was first married we were broke college students and we had to be creative with our dates and free time. Picnics all over town, rooftop sightseeing, road trips, day beach trips with a cooler full of snacks and sandwich supplies, hikes, fun trips to thrift stores trying to find furniture and housing goods that were do-able but a little crazy
As careers grew we were able to actually afford to travel and have better adventures, but my favorites were the ones before iPhones, before we had cable tv, before we had money. When the two of us was enough. That was the best.
* What do people understood about you or your life instead of just assuming?
~ I think a lot of people realize that marriage is hard, and that it isn't always perfect. Single friends would be very respectful about family time, date nights, and then about kid stuff. I never really grew away from my friends that were still single. I found ways to balance my girl time with husband time
* What can we singles do in order to help you?
~ Get married!!!! Embrace the happy times, and just appreciate every moment of life before it fades no matter where in life and where in relationships you are because it goes by fast!
I am not married any more, but I still believe very strongly in the vows and the blessings marriage brings to our lives.
* What are some of the stereotypes and criticisms that married Christians face?
~ The whole stereotype of "settling down" as if you are giving up on the adventures and wonderful exciting things in life because you are "tied down" now. When I was first married we were broke college students and we had to be creative with our dates and free time. Picnics all over town, rooftop sightseeing, road trips, day beach trips with a cooler full of snacks and sandwich supplies, hikes, fun trips to thrift stores trying to find furniture and housing goods that were do-able but a little crazy
As careers grew we were able to actually afford to travel and have better adventures, but my favorites were the ones before iPhones, before we had cable tv, before we had money. When the two of us was enough. That was the best.
* What do people understood about you or your life instead of just assuming?
~ I think a lot of people realize that marriage is hard, and that it isn't always perfect. Single friends would be very respectful about family time, date nights, and then about kid stuff. I never really grew away from my friends that were still single. I found ways to balance my girl time with husband time
* What can we singles do in order to help you?
~ Get married!!!! Embrace the happy times, and just appreciate every moment of life before it fades no matter where in life and where in relationships you are because it goes by fast!
I am not married any more, but I still believe very strongly in the vows and the blessings marriage brings to our lives.
Seoulsearch,.;
"Can't we all just get along?"
Sorry to hear about your divorce, that is brutal. Some people never get over it, sounds like you are, which is great! Since you were single, than married, and divorced. You could pretty much give a view on all three states of the human condition. What do you think the stereo types are for all three? You have pretty much concluded what the Bible states, it's better to be single. "So I say to those who aren't married and to widows--it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am." 1 Corinthians 7:8
"To be perfectly honest, for me, the desire to be married has waned over time. I'm becoming much more interested in things such as travel and missions work." ~seoulsearch
I think everyone wants to be encouraged and not looked down upon. Just give everyone a little r-e-s-p-e-c-t and the world will be better place. The reality is married people think with two minds, while single people think with one mind, married with children think with three or more minds. It's really logical!
On a side note, ask a parent about their kid/kids, that's like an hour long discussion right there! Peace!
"Can't we all just get along?"
Sorry to hear about your divorce, that is brutal. Some people never get over it, sounds like you are, which is great! Since you were single, than married, and divorced. You could pretty much give a view on all three states of the human condition. What do you think the stereo types are for all three? You have pretty much concluded what the Bible states, it's better to be single. "So I say to those who aren't married and to widows--it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am." 1 Corinthians 7:8
"To be perfectly honest, for me, the desire to be married has waned over time. I'm becoming much more interested in things such as travel and missions work." ~seoulsearch
I think everyone wants to be encouraged and not looked down upon. Just give everyone a little r-e-s-p-e-c-t and the world will be better place. The reality is married people think with two minds, while single people think with one mind, married with children think with three or more minds. It's really logical!
On a side note, ask a parent about their kid/kids, that's like an hour long discussion right there! Peace!
Seoulsearch,.;
"Can't we all just get along?"
Sorry to hear about your divorce, that is brutal. Some people never get over it, sounds like you are, which is great! Since you were single, than married, and divorced. You could pretty much give a view on all three states of the human condition. What do you think the stereo types are for all three? You have pretty much concluded what the Bible states, it's better to be single. "So I say to those who aren't married and to widows--it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am." 1 Corinthians 7:8
"To be perfectly honest, for me, the desire to be married has waned over time. I'm becoming much more interested in things such as travel and missions work." ~seoulsearch
I think everyone wants to be encouraged and not looked down upon. Just give everyone a little r-e-s-p-e-c-t and the world will be better place. The reality is married people think with two minds, while single people think with one mind, married with children think with three or more minds. It's really logical!
On a side note, ask a parent about their kid/kids, that's like an hour long discussion right there! Peace!
"Can't we all just get along?"
Sorry to hear about your divorce, that is brutal. Some people never get over it, sounds like you are, which is great! Since you were single, than married, and divorced. You could pretty much give a view on all three states of the human condition. What do you think the stereo types are for all three? You have pretty much concluded what the Bible states, it's better to be single. "So I say to those who aren't married and to widows--it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am." 1 Corinthians 7:8
"To be perfectly honest, for me, the desire to be married has waned over time. I'm becoming much more interested in things such as travel and missions work." ~seoulsearch
I think everyone wants to be encouraged and not looked down upon. Just give everyone a little r-e-s-p-e-c-t and the world will be better place. The reality is married people think with two minds, while single people think with one mind, married with children think with three or more minds. It's really logical!
On a side note, ask a parent about their kid/kids, that's like an hour long discussion right there! Peace!
Thanks very much for your post!
I had to smile when you said I could comment about life in the various states of being single, married, and divorce... I can only speak from is my own life experience, and I do so here on CC in the hopes that others will share their experiences, too. I know there are a lot of people with more experience and a lot rougher times than I've had, and I've learned a lot from other people here. This is the reason I almost always share a personal story when I introduce a thread--I'm hoping it will make people feel more at ease about telling a story from their own life, too, so that I can learn from them.
You asked me about the stereotypes for all three (single, married, divorce)--that might take a couple of volumes.
I think I may shoot you a PM in the near future so that I don't wind up writing about 10 pages here. That, and I'm sure everyone's experience is a little different so I certainly can't talk with any authority about the subject, just what I've seen myself. I know exactly what you mean as far as asking people about their kids.
I used to work in an office with all moms... and it was cool... except (parents, please forgive me about this) when it came to graphic stories regarding potty training. I had one mom, bless her heart, who had to tell me every single detail, under every single category (size, shape, frequency, color... as in, me turning green) every single day. She was a sweet gal and just needed someone to vent too... and her husband didn't really care to hear about it so... Let's just say, I prayed for strength.
I know exactly what you mean as far as asking people about their kids. I used to work in an office with all moms... and it was cool... except (parents, please forgive me about this) when it came to graphic stories regarding potty training. I had one mom, bless her heart, who had to tell me every single detail, under every single category (size, shape, frequency, color... as in, me turning green) every single day. She was a sweet gal and just needed someone to vent too... and her husband didn't really care to hear about it so...
Let's just say, I prayed for strength.
I used to work in an office with all moms... and it was cool... except (parents, please forgive me about this) when it came to graphic stories regarding potty training. I had one mom, bless her heart, who had to tell me every single detail, under every single category (size, shape, frequency, color... as in, me turning green) every single day. She was a sweet gal and just needed someone to vent too... and her husband didn't really care to hear about it so... Let's just say, I prayed for strength.