What are some of your biggest turnoffs?

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Lanolin

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the judgemental person
of either sex (doesnt have to be opposite sex...both do this)

example, you walking along minding your own business when this person says something totally derogatory about someone else they see, whom neither of you know personally, based on their gender, race, class, or age.

ugh.
 
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MegMarch

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I don't have a lot but a big one is men who do not have control over their sex drives.
 

Theia

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People who make assumptions and judgements = stereotyping. Serves to reinforce stigma
 

She_is_Legendary

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People who dont know how to be themselves... and not just going with “the crowd”.
 

Dave42

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Someone who talks when they are eating lol...
 

Lanolin

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someone who takes photos and also messages when they are eating lol

my sister did this. I was like, why? She said she wanted to make my brother jealous. I couldnt really stop her or turn her phone off. Ok yum cha was fabulous and of course everyone ought to see all the food!

But I would be a bit turned off if someone did that on a date!
 

Dave42

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someone who takes photos and also messages when they are eating lol

my sister did this. I was like, why? She said she wanted to make my brother jealous. I couldnt really stop her or turn her phone off. Ok yum cha was fabulous and of course everyone ought to see all the food!

But I would be a bit turned off if someone did that on a date!
That's what I meant if someone does it on a date Lol
 

kinda

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When attractive, famous, and rich woman don't actively stalk me. The nerve of some people!

What am I, chopped liver?!?! I just don't understand woman sometimes, maybe I should start a blog or something.







 

Lanolin

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When attractive, famous, and rich woman don't actively stalk me. The nerve of some people!

What am I, chopped liver?!?! I just don't understand woman sometimes, maybe I should start a blog or something.







huh, do you only get the poor, unfamous, and unattractive waifs and strays stalking you? Poor you.

Youve got to have something they want, like an academy award or golden globe to give out or something. Then they will be begging for a nomination. I am sure the guy who invented beauty pageants like miss world and miss universe had this idea that if he gave out special sashes and tiaras, they would all line up. Maybe he charges an entry fee so only rich women can get in....?


Not sure about the chopped liver though, I heard French women like pate de foie gras.
Maybe you just need to speak French? If you dont already, theres always langauge classes.
 

Dave42

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Lying, But most of all a Bad Heart, A person can be beautiful on the outside but if they are not beautiful on the inside it's a big turn off
 

Encouragement

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Lying, But most of all a Bad Heart, A person can be beautiful on the outside but if they are not beautiful on the inside it's a big turn off
Yes like buying what looked like a beautiful apple on the outside yet realise its actually rotten inside..😯
 

Lanolin

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stalkers, someone who wont leave you alone and gets right in your face, and feels they have to comment on every single thing you do or say.

Critics, especially those you havent actually asked for their opinions

men who act like the police, when they actually arent even policemen (If you actually are a cop, just do your job....)
 

TenderHeart

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I have a lot of tattoos, I have a full sleeve and plenty of others. I’m glad you all think I’m unattractive 😁🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 I’m a lady btw

It doesn’t bother me at all! My tattoos are incredibly feminine, very colorful done in an American traditional style. I get many compliments all the time when I walk around. To each their own. I don’t plan on getting any more since I’m born again. But I don’t have regrets either.

I look at what’s inside someone’s heart and their attitude. That’s what makes or breaks attractiveness to me
 

TenderHeart

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Hmmm...
Cocky
Arrogant
Self absorbed
Not a doer of the Word. (Uses christianity like an accessory to meet a specific type of lady, but has no real relationship with Jesus)
Spouts off lame pick up lines to try to impress
Defensive when being questioned and not willing to apologize when wrong
Dishonest
Oh, and poor hygiene.
I find it easier to look past physical things if their character is healthy. :)
Amen sis!
 

TenderHeart

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I noticed tattoos on women seems to be common turn off. First thing that came to mind is what a comedian said once. “Women need to think long term about where they get their tattoos. That might be a sexy unicorn on your chest at 20. However, you don’t want your grandkids saying, ‘Grandma, why did you get a tattoo of a giraffe?’”

I’m pretty sure all of my 22 yr old daughter’s friends have gotten them. It’s no longer, Should I get one?” It’s just, “What am I getting?” I just share the story above to help them avoid future embarrassment. Even a good tattoo artist can’t be held responsible for his work come motherhood.
For me being judge mental is a turn off