What are your most important qualities in a mate?

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What are your most important qualities in a mate? Check them off.

  • physical attractrion (cuteness, hotness)

    Votes: 20 46.5%
  • confidence/charm

    Votes: 27 62.8%
  • purity (virgin)

    Votes: 10 23.3%
  • clean past (no alcoholism, crimes, drugs)

    Votes: 8 18.6%
  • no kids (sorry, I had to ask)

    Votes: 12 27.9%
  • financially smug (doesn't have to worry about money)

    Votes: 6 14.0%
  • financially sufficient (gets by but can't afford expensive things)

    Votes: 12 27.9%
  • financially sound but not smug (makes enough to support a small family with 1 income)

    Votes: 10 23.3%
  • someone who likes to stay home

    Votes: 14 32.6%
  • someone who likes to go out and have fun

    Votes: 17 39.5%
  • someone talkative

    Votes: 21 48.8%
  • someone whos mostly quiet

    Votes: 9 20.9%
  • non-drinker

    Votes: 17 39.5%
  • non-smoker

    Votes: 27 62.8%
  • adventurous (camping, traveling/exploring)

    Votes: 20 46.5%
  • brainy/nerdy (reads, likes dramas and romance )

    Votes: 22 51.2%
  • likes to play video games

    Votes: 8 18.6%
  • does not like video games

    Votes: 5 11.6%
  • makes you laugh

    Votes: 37 86.0%
  • good fashion sense

    Votes: 6 14.0%

  • Total voters
    43
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Robert1857

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#21
Someone who will go to the monster truck rally.
 
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Liz01

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#22
I chose almost all the options, i would like a mate that like stay home but camping too, that make me laugh and feel comfortable and that he likes to play videogames with me :)

but i think the most important qualitie for me would be that he has the enough love to God to do what bible says and he can have a behavior with me exactly how bible says even if he is angry with me or dont agree with the situation we are living
 
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jeremiah11

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#23
Being humble and honest. The Bible says "God resists the proud and gives grace to the humble".
 
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ElBo

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#24
:eek:The most important qualities of the mate are (IMHO) - reliability, honesty, soul and mind purity, self-giving. If the life-partner is nice and talkative, but u never know where will he go and what will he do - its too big preassure. It is ver very very important - to be sure in each other.
 

Liamson

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that they bless the name of the Lord with me and are more focused on God's glory then Earthly riches or fleshy desires.
Earthly and Fleshy, so no farmers or re-constructive surgeons...


"I dare say Barbara, he is your Ex?"

"Why yes Clarence, he is. Was a long time ago and a different part of my life."

"But he seems only interested in earthly and fleshy things, how ever could you tolerate him?"

*the look*

;)
 

Hommer

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That she is a female and can read and write and can remember her name...........older I get the standards seem to change...............
 
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Jullianna

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#28
Wow....she doesn't even need a tractor now, Hommer! You might have more takers without that prerequisite. ;)
 
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well i hate the fact that everyone is against smokers on this site...lol im out of luck. a lot of people apparently like charm too...i guess i do too, but it wouldnt be a win/loss. Sexual compatability wasnt on there which is odd, because its something i would certainly want in a wife, though its hard to judge that before hand.
 
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Reikon

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#30
I'm not against smokers and I don't care much for looks, though they'd be a nice bonus lol. I really find qualities of personality such as a mate whose nonjudgemental as possible, kind, understanding, and one who doesn't have the "it's mine because I pay for it" mind. I look to personality all the way. I want someone who DOESN'T want kids. For one, I have a condition that doesn't allow me to reproduce and two I'm just not fond of them. I don't have them I'm just not a people's person. I want a quiet house, someone whose quiet and loves to read and/or write poetry and dedicate it to me. If there is one way to win my heart it's with poety and writing.
 
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Psalm2713

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#31
I can see myself having a family of ministers of Christ,... like I pray that my kids will be good ministers by the time they are 10.... simply a family totally dedicated to things of Christ... so I bet anyone who fits in there would be good... as long as God says yes, it's His Will all the way.... :)
 

Hommer

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Wow....she doesn't even need a tractor now, Hommer! You might have more takers without that prerequisite. ;)


ROFL ROFL ROFL that made me laugh!! Thanks Jules..........she gets bonus points if she owns a tractor!!!
 

grace

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ROFL ROFL ROFL that made me laugh!! Thanks Jules..........she gets bonus points if she owns a tractor!!!
What about HotWheels tractors? Do they count? I know I have a few of those floating around here someplace. :p
 

Hommer

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What about HotWheels tractors? Do they count? I know I have a few of those floating around here someplace. :p

lol lol lol lol Sure Grace they will work!!! I dont suppose they are doing much work in the field if they are just "floating around there someplace" lol lol
 
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SoTxSpartan

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#35
hmmmm havent thought about this in a long time lol, but i would like for her to be talkative(hate when its a one sided conversation), adventurous, smart, open minded to different things outside her interests, makes me laugh, physically fit (healthy for her stature not model skinny or anything like that), christian, non drinker/smoker
 

grace

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lol lol lol lol Sure Grace they will work!!! I dont suppose they are doing much work in the field if they are just "floating around there someplace" lol lol
Nope, not much time spent out in the field at all. When they do see the light of day, they are spending their time pushing legos around or something I am sure. (Whatever the imaginations of a 6 and 7 year old boys can come up with!) :)
 
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carpetmanswife

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#37
CASH!! ... what else, and lots of it :D
 
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GreenNnice

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#38
Loves God more than me.

Fears God as much as me (Isaiah 66:2)

Walks with God daily

Understanding that materialism is something God gives and being good stewards of wealth is of the utmost importance.

Gives God what is His.

Supports the worke God puts on my heart, that we can be ONE doing it.

Loves the life God has for her now, had her do growing up, and, relishing what's in store for her, and, our, future.

Divorce is not something she would ever do, would consult God IF ever something was becoming bad.

Living life to satisfy each other's needs.

Liking to listen to me, laugh at things I say.

Materialism isnt important.
 
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Liamson

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I'm really not into objective standards so, as long as she isn't addicted to cat food or meth, I'm ok.

She has to have a daily devotion published by Zondervan.

Brushes her teeth, sometimes, that helps.

I don't like white plates, so white plates is a deal breaker.

No cats that are named after foods.

No horses or neighbors with horses, these are deal breakers.

She has to live within 3 blocks of a church that she doesn't attend.

Also she must drive more than 3 blocks to a church that she does attend. No walking or Bicycling, thats a deal breaker.

Also no sponges in the Bathroom or the kitchen, germ factories and deal breakers.

Um, no black bedsheets, also a deal breaker.

No fish larger than 2 inches or birds with English language capability, deal breakers.

She must have a shiny show head, white plastic is a deal breaker.

She must use NASB, NKJV or KJV. The NIV is a deal breaker.
 
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Kooper

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#40
I can only pray that she has that deep deep deep inner grace in her heart, that God has for us all. And that she knows that I'm striving for the same and much more.