What Causes Divorce/Can it Really be Prevented?

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Mar 22, 2013
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Yeah, well... in my case it's more like "wipe out and reinstall Windows, put in a bunch of freeware programs and games and give it to a kid or elderly person who only needs a basic computer to watch youtube videos and catch up with facebook..." But I didn't want to bring "handing off your spouse to somebody else on the rebound" into the analogy. :unsure::whistle:
windows ewww, shame on you. you should at least be putting Linux Mint Debian Edition on them instead of microsatan.
 
Mar 26, 2014
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This conversation has taken a turn that makes me think using the wrong computer operating system might be grounds for divorce for some people.
 

Lynx

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windows ewww, shame on you. you should at least be putting Linux Mint Debian Edition on them instead of microsatan.
It's a case of the microdevil they know versus the Linux they don't. If they have Windows I don't have to explain anything to them about how to use it. Cuts down a LOT on after-transfer tech support. And it's free to them so I don't get paid for tech support either. :p

Actually I never bother even erasing Windows from the internal hard drive. I just run Linux Mint (Cinnamon) from a low-profile flash drive.

And about LMDE specifically, that would spike the tech support calls even more. It never did really get the rough edges smoothed out. It's only a test bed to answer "what if Ubuntu vanished and we had to work with a straight Debian base?" If I gave them a computer with Linux, it would be mainstream Mint with a Cinnamon desktop environment.
 

Lynx

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This conversation has taken a turn that makes me think using the wrong computer operating system might be grounds for divorce for some people.
No problem ma'am. As long as it's not iOS we're good to go. I am (for the most part) an operating system agnostic - I'll use whatever works for the task at hand.
 
Mar 22, 2013
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It's a case of the microdevil they know versus the Linux they don't. If they have Windows I don't have to explain anything to them about how to use it. Cuts down a LOT on after-transfer tech support. And it's free to them so I don't get paid for tech support either. :p

Actually I never bother even erasing Windows from the internal hard drive. I just run Linux Mint (Cinnamon) from a low-profile flash drive.

And about LMDE specifically, that would spike the tech support calls even more. It never did really get the rough edges smoothed out. It's only a test bed to answer "what if Ubuntu vanished and we had to work with a straight Debian base?" If I gave them a computer with Linux, it would be mainstream Mint with a Cinnamon desktop environment.
LMDE seemed like it had stuff worked out these days. I used it for awhile never had an issue.
Real reason LMDE exists is if canonical pulls more shady stuff (like adding in spyware again) gives them a base they already know how to mintify well. I suspect with how canonical is pushing the snap garbage it won't be long till LM kicks ubuntu to the curb for the base and uses plain debian.

obligatory "i use arch btw"
 
Mar 13, 2014
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It seems to me that an old-fashioned phrase that has long since been lost is "Stick it out and tough it out". (This does not apply to abusive relationships or if there is a lot of excessive cheating going on... but it does seem like it's much easier and convenient to break it off these days.)
I would consider a single act of cheating on your spouse to be excessive. Cheating destroys the marital trust and without trust there is no foundation in the marriage to build upon.
 
Mar 22, 2013
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In the US military cheating on your spouse is a courts-martial offence.
Ever get enforced? and if so is it enforced equally? doubtful.

The biased courts make gov paper "marriage" not worth it as courts have shown time and time again women are not held to the contract they can just do what ever they want and the guy gets punished.
 

Lynx

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LMDE seemed like it had stuff worked out these days. I used it for awhile never had an issue.
I used the latest LMDE for a few months last year. It seemed to have a RAM leak somewhere. If I opened too many browser tabs it would suddenly freeze and require a hard reset.
 
Mar 22, 2013
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I used the latest LMDE for a few months last year. It seemed to have a RAM leak somewhere. If I opened too many browser tabs it would suddenly freeze and require a hard reset.
never had that issue. I ran LMDE for about 9 months and only rebooted on a kernel update so my system was up for weeks. Id have brower open with many tabs, geany and other things open as well.

wonder what browser you was using and what kernel version you was on.
 

tourist

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Ever get enforced? and if so is it enforced equally? doubtful.

The biased courts make gov paper "marriage" not worth it as courts have shown time and time again women are not held to the contract they can just do what ever they want and the guy gets punished.
Sometimes enforced but not always. Probably a lot of politics involved as to what actually happens in these circumstances.
 

Lanolin

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I always wondered why murder and theft is a considered a criminal offence yet adultery isnt.
why are the prisons not full of adulterers? Instead they just get their own place and go on comitting more and more adultery.
 

Lafftur

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I always wondered why murder and theft is a considered a criminal offence yet adultery isnt.
why are the prisons not full of adulterers? Instead they just get their own place and go on comitting more and more adultery.
No need to lock up adulterers, they're already miserable. :unsure:
 

Lanolin

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No need to lock up adulterers, they're already miserable. :unsure:
really I thought the point of locking people up is so they stop commiting further crimes and keep everyone else safe from them?
its not to make them miserable. Then you are supoosed to teach them they were wrong so they have the opportunity to repent and learn how to live without resorting to crime!
 
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Ever get enforced? and if so is it enforced equally? doubtful.

The biased courts make gov paper "marriage" not worth it as courts have shown time and time again women are not held to the contract they can just do what ever they want and the guy gets punished.
No fault means no fault for women. The man is always the at fault. Its actually not a divorce trial. That would b if they were trying to find a guilty and or innocent party. The man is guilty of impeding the feminist dream and they have to run the numbers to determine how severely he will b punished.
 
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Ever get enforced? and if so is it enforced equally? doubtful.

The biased courts make gov paper "marriage" not worth it as courts have shown time and time again women are not held to the contract they can just do what ever they want and the guy gets punished.
No fault means no fault for women. The man is always the at fault. Its actually not a divorce trial. That would b if they were trying to find a guilty and or innocent party. The man is guilty of impeding the feminist dream and they have to run the numbers to determine how severely he will b punished.
Never heard of this folks. Is this something that's happening in the military? If it is the military, then I don't even think women should be in the military...but that's a different topic.

What kind of punishment is involved in a divorce? I've never heard of any punishments for divorce. Unless you consider having to split the marital property, but that's all that I am aware of that happens during a divorce. I've never heard of any one getting punished by the courts over a divorce.

@Treeboy how is a man cheating on a woman considered impeding the feminist dream....If you think there aren't men out cheating on their wives then I'd suggest you wake up. Sure there are bad women out there doing the same, but to suggest men are never or rarely at fault is a total farce.

@wisebeardman I can't see where any one is held to the contract men or women. Anyone can go file for a divorce for any reason, and like I said I've never saw where anyone has gotten punished by the courts. Why is it that you think women can do what they want and get away with it? That is pretty one sided don't ya think?
 

Lanolin

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not sure how it works these days, but in the past century they had trials and there had to be witnesses to prove that the guilty party was unfaithful. Like they were caught in bed together or something. Usually its pretty obvious as the guilty party is the first to remarry someone else.