WHAT do 33-53 year old Christian singles do?

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Tintin

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You're on here suggesting people go to bars and funerals to meet people? Funerals? Really?
King David did. Twice. And he was a man after God's own heart. :p
 
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DarlinNadia

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#22
so if I drink at a funeral, do I double my chances of meeting someone?
Note to self: Do not fall for the one in the casket... the relationship will be one-sided
 
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Tintin

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Note to self: Do not fall for the one in the casket... the relationship will be one-sided
Bahahaha! Not only one-sided. Dead in the water. The relationship wouldn't have a leg to stand on.
 

Pipp

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Try volunteering for something that way you're doing something useful while opening yourself up to meeting new people. Just a suggestion
 
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parablepete

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You're on here suggesting people go to bars and funerals to meet people? Funerals? Really?
Nah, I was just saying people meeting DRUNK and getting married. My point was its not a good thing.

Now about funerals, Visitations, meet old friends, We are spose to morn with the lost arn't we? I didnt say HIT on someone there......LoL

Seems like your have a chip on your shoulder. You are looking for the bad in what I say. I am a Christian!
 
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avaaurora

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I'm glad you shared that because I know the feeling I would always cry for hours after that but it's true the joy comes in the morning. now I'm happy to be free God Bless.
 
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Ugly

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Nah, I was just saying people meeting DRUNK and getting married. My point was its not a good thing.

Now about funerals, Visitations, meet old friends, We are spose to morn with the lost arn't we? I didnt say HIT on someone there......LoL

Seems like your have a chip on your shoulder. You are looking for the bad in what I say. I am a Christian!
Actually that wasn't what i said. I said 'meet PEOPLE' not 'meet a mate'. Because the OP question isn't about meeting a mate, but about things to do as a single in an older age bracket.

Actually, if you took the time to read the thread you would have seen where i already stated that i did Not say to find someone to hit on.

And it doesn't require a chip on my shoulder to think there is something wrong with suggesting people go to funerals to meet new friends or hang out with people you already know. If not thinking funerals are places to go have something to do when your bored means i have some kind of an attitude, then fine, i have an attitude.
 
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BananaPie

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What do SINGLE 45-53 year old Christians do?
They fall in love with godly 55-year-olds. :D

Where do you meet other singles?
You meet them wherever the Lord Jesus hangs out.
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sunnysky31

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Well I have been reading over the thread and I cant say I have too much advice being that I have some of the same issues with dating etc.

I guess I have in the past couple years tried hard to just be myself and hang out at the normal places I hang out at and if I see someone interesting strike up a convo. or what have you. Then again my options are limited on the cereal aisle at the grocery store.....

I volunteer, but most of the people I volunteer with are well over 50 and married. (Nothing wrong with a 50 year old, but I am 30)
I keep hoping that one will come around that has a son who resembles the old dark haired Brawny guy.

But, I can completely feel you as far as wanting to get yourself out there a little.

Try the hardware stores and pretend not to know anything (yes, I admit to having done that). Can't say I ever got a date out of it or even met a Christian for that matter, but hey it sure is fun! hehehehe

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parablepete

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My thoughts weren't so crazy.


Would you trek across the country for a first date? Matchmaking startup The Dating Ring is offering to fly New York City women to San Francisco and Bay Area men to the Big Apple for a big singles weekend, in order to bridge a gender imbalance in both cities. To fund these cross-country trips, the company has launched a Crowdtilt campaign, which, so far has raised $3,180 of its $10,000 goal.

According to CEO Lauren Kay, in New York, single women outnumber single men by 150,000; in the Bay Area, there are 50,000 more single men than women. Her theory is that people don’t invest enough time and effort in relationships these days. “Meanwhile —if you have to film a video, crowdfund a campaign, wait two months and fly across the country for a date, you might take that date a little more seriously,” she says.

It sounds so whimsical and romantic but Kay’s research is dubious. Her source is a web developer named Jonathan Soma who created an interactive map in 2013, revealing the disproportion of men and women on each coast. Soma later admitted to Glamour magazine that his research doesn’t apply to the real world because it doesn’t take into account education, income, marital status, and sexual orientation — you know, things that might affect a couple’s chances at love. Plus, The Dating Ring’s ad campaign is kinda sexist and offensive — one male actor complains that there aren’t enough west coast women of “datable ages” (what’s a datable age?), and a woman giggles, “There’s a much larger ratio of men to women than women to men. It’s true, I’ve Googled it before!” Another laments, “Dating in New York is the worst. All men are gay or awful.”

At the end of the day, Kay's idea is what's grabbing the most attention. By offering a one-date opportunity, her company is encouraging long-distance relationships. While couples in LDRs do report greater emotional satisfaction due to the effort required to keep in touch, psychologists theorize that they may be so blissful because they're in a perpetual "honeymoon" period — not exactly realistic for love-term love.

The bottom line is that dating is hard, no matter where people live and a map isn't necessarily the answer to finding love. What might work? Change your dating strategy, not your city.
 
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ServantStrike

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#34
You're on here suggesting people go to bars and funerals to meet people? Funerals? Really?
Funerals are the ultimate in catching someone on the rebound.



Though yeah the kind of person who picks up dates on the rebound is... yeah let's just not go there.
 
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Some Christians singles 35-53 would like to do more but most churches are geared for youth groups and young adults under 35.

I have been to a few churches and there is not much going on for Christians over 35. One church closed their Christian singles group for people 35 to 55.

I think some churches have forgotten Christian singles over 35. Hooray for us! Not!!! :p
 

eugenius

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Actually Church is the last place I'd look for a guy. I'm just trying to figure out where people my age go.
That is interesting. I have no idea where to look, and hoping that church will be the answer. Why do you think church is a bad place?
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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Actually Church is the last place I'd look for a guy. I'm just trying to figure out where people my age go.
Really? People told me through the decades of my adult life that churches are the best places. I understand you are broke. So am I and many other people. You mentioned those activities you feel you are too old. I know what you mean. I used to like to go to the State Fair (I live right cross the lake from the State Fair) in my hometown. I also used to roller skate. Oh, every Friday and Saturday nights as a teen and reduced that slowly till last time over 14 years ago. I am 49 now.

What you can do is.. check out your local singles dances. You might like that. Many do look for a relationships and marriages. Not a bar. No. Big differences. Singles dances tend to have Christians like the one in my hometown used to have. It was 85 to 90 percent Christians singles there including singles, divorced, and widowed.

Problem is that those dances are geared for 40 to 80 years old. Bars tend to be so secular and ungodly in sin for age 16 to 40 to attend. So, try those. There are Christian bars. But they are CINOs. Christians In Name Only.

I had hard time finding someone in church because they are so family oriented that they do not look for someone to marry to. They are so focused or rather too focused on God. Many do miss out opportunity to marry and kids! I have good friend who is also 49 and still want to get married and have kids. I do too. I was married to someone I thought she was Christian and too many factors and wanted and did divorce me. Still have no kids. I love to have them!

What I do nowadays is to attend more free to attend. I do not know what you do for work. If you do, go to business trade shows. Usually free local shows but specialty shows, they cost too much.. so forget that one.

Trade shows are great for networking. You may even find the right guy AND or find the right job to get better income. That is how I do that. I had money last year and went to 2 private/closed-to-public trade shows. I had a ball. Met many new people. And that increased my linkedin contact. I have like over a hundred now on there. Half I have met in person at shows.

Second of all... to do something.. go for walk, hike. You like camping? I do. I am going to camp in 2 weeks (and going on a vacation to visit my father that he is paying for the trip in 4 weeks).

Camping is cheap. You can use a tent and cook your meals rather than go to hotels and have to go to restaurants. RVing is popular now. according to RV Business (business journal for RV business owners) this month issue, 37 percent increase for last year that all RVs are sold. That is a lot!

Ok, back to you.. what else you can do.. Window shopping at malls. Be a mall rat. lol. Just joking. That is for teens. Ah!! Here is good one for you, volunteer. In my published book, "Cory's Guide: How to Find Your Mate the Lord's Way," it stated that you can be busy and never know the right one comes along.. one example is to volunteer.. check out homeless shelters or ministries like Salvation Army, Rescue Mission, Goodwill, etc. Or volunteer at some organization that assist needs like the Deaf, the disabled, the seniors.. And never know!

Or you can which is time is perfect. Try the Christian summer camps to volunteer. Your advantage is to enjoy summer at same time as taking care of kids or even adults at camp. Or go on summer mission trips cross country or out of country. You might need to raise funds though. To do so, check groupfunding websites like gofundme, kickstarter, etc and you can raise funds to go on missions. There are alot to come up with ideas. I am very creative, smart and yeah, I have been called nerd as well. And two people calls me Dr. Sheldon Cooper. Hahaha. I think they were teasing me.
 

IDEAtor

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What do SINGLE 33-53 year old Christians do? Where do you meet other singles?
I was thinking I'd like to go out and do something to make a presence somewhere... so I can meet a Godly man but I quickly realized I'm too old for the state fair, rollerskating, the bar, the car wash, the Billiards hall... etc

So where do I go?

Keep in mind I'm fat, lazy, and broke - so my ideal time is something that doesn't cost anything or require a great deal of exercise so no Hiking groups or Walk-a-thons...

Off Roading sounds fun but I don't have the 4X4 or ATV
Go-Carts sound like a blast - but the cost is crazy expensive

I don't drink alcohol so - wine tasting is out

I am fond of geeky, intelligent, well-spoken nerdy guys... but I would look like a moron to a mathlete

Divorce Support Group? This just seems like a bad idea

Browse every single church in the area???
Post on craigslist that you are selling something, let it be something you hope your kind of guy would want, then arrange to meet interested buyers in a local McDonalds. Keep doing this until a craigslist interest becomes a McCafe connection.
To sweeten the experience, tell him that the item is really free and the money was for the meal. That will tell him, "She is creative, charitable, and doesn't mind the company; plus, now I know what coffee to get her in the future."

UPDATE: Wendy's may be better, because it has carpet and carpet makes everything better :p
 
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DarlinNadia

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Post on craigslist that you are selling something, let it be something you hope your kind of guy would want, then arrange to meet interested buyers in a local McDonalds. Keep doing this until a craigslist interest becomes a McCafe connection.
To sweeten the experience, tell him that the item is really free and the money was for the meal. That will tell him, "She is creative, charitable, and doesn't mind the company; plus, now I know what coffee to get her in the future."

UPDATE: Wendy's may be better, because it has carpet and carpet makes everything better :p

HHAHAHAH that's awesome, but it feels so manipulative. be all like .. dude, what do you think of that carpet???? lol

Edit: Just so you know, I think you are worth the upscale location *Wendy's* if I thought you were trashy... we would have met at McDonalds!
 

maxwel

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King David did. Twice. And he was a man after God's own heart. :p
I agree.

If funerals were a good enough pick-up joint for King David...
then they're good enough for me.

: )