I guess I can honestly say that I very rarely feel "happy", or at least, how many seem to view the idea of it. I can feel contentment, though for the most part I feel neutral or sad. I hear that true happiness is not something that we ever come to as a result, but rather, it is a journey and process, which I think is true. One thing I do find, when you do feel desolate, sad, or far from happiness in any way, is that when you do finally experience the feeling of happiness, it will make it all the more wonderful a feeling and somewhat beautiful, since you know how special the feeling is.
I have been going through struggles with my faith for some years now, so I am still learning and growing, but one thing I will say is that even in the bible it never says that happiness is an indicator of how well we are doing. It says that messiah was "a man of sorrows and well acquainted with grief." It says "blessed are they that mourn", though it also does say that "your joy will remain in you". I believe that joy is a bit different than happiness, since joy is something that you can have, even when you don't feel happy and it relates to many things. You can have joy in God, joy in seeing your family member or friend grow, or joy in having helped or done something for someone, knowing that you made a difference.
I may not be a happy person, but I am glad or grateful when I see things turning out and working out. I may not feel happy, but I still can feel content. What I am meaning to say mostly is that the more we may seek to feel happy, the harder it will be to experience it. Sometimes it just takes slowing down and concentrating on what is there, the present time. Sometimes even just analyzing yourself, and laying out everything that might be related to or causing how you feel can help. Think of it like a plant, there is something that may be bothering you, you see it there, but not sure what to do about it, sometimes getting down and figuring out what the root cause may be can help.
We are spiritual beings, physical, and emotional. When something goes out of balance in our life, perhaps, for example, you are trying too hard to help others but not taking enough time to take care of yourself, to consider that you have needs too, this can throw your life out of balance. In my own experience a few years back, I tried too hard to be there for my family, to be a spiritual support, to be a helper, I wore myself out, then later on, I still didn't understand what was going on, I hadn't fixed the problem and I began having issues with resentment and anger because of it. What I finally came to realize is that I was taking things upon "myself", which I never should have. You can support someone, but shouldn't take their burdens and emotions upon yourself, you cannot be someones arms and legs for them, but you can encourage them to learn how to use their arms and legs.
I know you probably don't have any of these problems, but I just wanted to share my own experience, since I thought it might help.
I have been going through struggles with my faith for some years now, so I am still learning and growing, but one thing I will say is that even in the bible it never says that happiness is an indicator of how well we are doing. It says that messiah was "a man of sorrows and well acquainted with grief." It says "blessed are they that mourn", though it also does say that "your joy will remain in you". I believe that joy is a bit different than happiness, since joy is something that you can have, even when you don't feel happy and it relates to many things. You can have joy in God, joy in seeing your family member or friend grow, or joy in having helped or done something for someone, knowing that you made a difference.
I may not be a happy person, but I am glad or grateful when I see things turning out and working out. I may not feel happy, but I still can feel content. What I am meaning to say mostly is that the more we may seek to feel happy, the harder it will be to experience it. Sometimes it just takes slowing down and concentrating on what is there, the present time. Sometimes even just analyzing yourself, and laying out everything that might be related to or causing how you feel can help. Think of it like a plant, there is something that may be bothering you, you see it there, but not sure what to do about it, sometimes getting down and figuring out what the root cause may be can help.
We are spiritual beings, physical, and emotional. When something goes out of balance in our life, perhaps, for example, you are trying too hard to help others but not taking enough time to take care of yourself, to consider that you have needs too, this can throw your life out of balance. In my own experience a few years back, I tried too hard to be there for my family, to be a spiritual support, to be a helper, I wore myself out, then later on, I still didn't understand what was going on, I hadn't fixed the problem and I began having issues with resentment and anger because of it. What I finally came to realize is that I was taking things upon "myself", which I never should have. You can support someone, but shouldn't take their burdens and emotions upon yourself, you cannot be someones arms and legs for them, but you can encourage them to learn how to use their arms and legs.
I know you probably don't have any of these problems, but I just wanted to share my own experience, since I thought it might help.
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