What is considered appropriate or inappropriate when it comes to other singles?

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Markum1972

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OK... so I was so clueless. We were talking about this topic in chat and I didn't even realize that the people I was chatting with had responded to this thread. LOL

Anyways, good chatting with you all and thanks to everyone else for the comments also.

Hope to meet up with some of you on chat again. That was fun. :)
 
Calmador

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I would encourage anyone to try complimenting when you can while carefully "reading" the reaction incase you have to clarify yourself. Its nice.

Also, I think its reasonable to say that we can intuitively "feel" intentions sometimes so when you say a compliment... make sure to have pure intentions. People can "feel" intentions"... especially women. :D

Worth thinking about: "Charm is deceitful, beauty is fleeting" <----- really worth thinking about....
 
gypsygirl

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Markum1972 said:
OK... so I was so clueless. We were talking about this topic in chat and I didn't even realize that the people I was chatting with had responded to this thread. LOL

Anyways, good chatting with you all and thanks to everyone else for the comments also.

Hope to meet up with some of you on chat again. That was fun. :)
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yeah, i actually realized that when you said something like, "it's like that thread i was writing in today..."

it was fun. and yeah, hope you guys come back. it was nice having fresh blood in chat. : )
 
Roh_Chris

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gypsygirl said:
yeah, i actually realized that when you said something like, "it's like that thread i was writing in today..."

it was fun. and yeah, hope you guys come back. it was nice having fresh blood in chat. : )
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Fresh blood? You must be the best-dressed vampire ever! :D
 
Markum1972

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gypsygirl said:
yeah, i actually realized that when you said something like, "it's like that thread i was writing in today..."

it was fun. and yeah, hope you guys come back. it was nice having fresh blood in chat. : )
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That was funny. You were like, "Yeah... I think that is what he is referring to." I was thinking "Oh, he saw it?". Not knowing you all had posted. lol I was pretty tired by that time. Now I get the boots joke. lol

I will definitely be back.It was such a cool experience. I felt like it was much more personal and easier to learn about who I was talking to. I learned that Cee likes cookies (lol) and Cee had a really cool way of explaining things that made sense. Learned some really interesting stuff about you too, gypsygirl. You have been on my friend's list for over a year and I learned more about you in 15 minutes (lol). Btw, I write in calligraphy; not just sometimes either. It is just the way I have written since I learned it in high school. Meant to tell you that last night but you left because of internet problems.

Well, I have now managed to derail my own thread. lol Well, maybe this will influence some others to come to Singles Chat. They can use what they have learned here when talking to members of the opposite sex. LOL
 
Stephen63

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It'd difficult to define "appropriate" in a society where people are anywhere from refined to redneck, lol.

Down in these here parts, some guy might say "she's hot" as a compliment, while the recepient will be thinking "He's creeping me out". I think we should be more sensitive when we compliment, esp. looking for signals of rejection, as a friend, or otherwise. We should be open enough I believe to say, "What did you just hear me say?" if we think the other person looks a little uneasy after the comment or compliment.
 
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Wow There seems to be a lot of threads about single and being single. Here is a verse may help.

1 Corinthians 7:8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.

So stop worrying about whether its right to be single or not. You are still blessed by God. Concentrate in worshiping God as you are.
 
Roh_Chris

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Richie_2uk said:
Wow There seems to be a lot of threads about single and being single. Here is a verse may help.

1 Corinthians 7:8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.

So stop worrying about whether its right to be single or not. You are still blessed by God. Concentrate in worshiping God as you are.
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What is this I don't even..

Methinks y'all BD forumers should stay where you are.
 
Lynx

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Methinks Richie completely misunderstood this whole thread. Or maybe he just saw the title and thought, "Oh no, yet another thread about being single" and didn't even bother reading the OP.
 
gypsygirl

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Richie_2uk said:
Wow There seems to be a lot of threads about single and being single.
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woah! a lot of threads about being single in the singles forum? hmmmm. i see a pattern but don't quite understand... ; p

Richie_2uk said:
So stop worrying about whether its right to be single or not. You are still blessed by God. Concentrate in worshiping God as you are.
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were you under the impression we are debating the value of being single? or worried about such a thing?

maybe i am in the wrong thread.

i won't speak for my brethren, but i am neither worried nor unclear of the value. for many years, i deliberately chose to be single because it was right for me. and i don't think this forum exists for the the purpose of persuading people of these facts (usually!).

but thanks for sharing, anyway. : )

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Fresh blood? You must be the best-dressed vampire ever!
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perhaps, not sure. sounds like some of the guys could give me a run for that.

but i am definitely the pastiest and most freckly one. i do have vampire skin. rawr!
 
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gypsygirl

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Markum1972 said:
That was funny. You were like, "Yeah... I think that is what he is referring to." I was thinking "Oh, he saw it?". Not knowing you all had posted. lol I was pretty tired by that time. Now I get the boots joke. lol

I will definitely be back.It was such a cool experience. I felt like it was much more personal and easier to learn about who I was talking to. I learned that Cee likes cookies (lol) and Cee had a really cool way of explaining things that made sense. Learned some really interesting stuff about you too, gypsygirl. You have been on my friend's list for over a year and I learned more about you in 15 minutes (lol). Btw, I write in calligraphy; not just sometimes either. It is just the way I have written since I learned it in high school. Meant to tell you that last night but you left because of internet problems.

Well, I have now managed to derail my own thread. lol Well, maybe this will influence some others to come to Singles Chat. They can use what they have learned here when talking to members of the opposite sex. LOL
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very funny indeed. yeah, i actually meant to help you make that connection, but between the divergent conversations and my internet issues, i forgot. : )

yeah, singles chat has been a really fun place to hang out in the evenings. sometimes we attack pretty complex topics, sometimes, goofy, give a lot of advice out, pray for those with prayer needs, and ponder lots of hypothetical scenarios. and other times, we just revert to food talk.

but i have to say, working alone, and living alone, it's been sort of nice to have all kinds of charming dinner company when i would otherwise dine alone. : )

very neat that you also do calligraphy! i love calligraphy. i sort of fell into it, naturally, as well. i was always a bit of a perfectionist with my penmanship, and would re-copy messy things, so calligraphy allowed me to express myself with yet another layer of aesthetic, as well as channel some of my love of actual, hand-writing to something that was more than just the expected. i love the celtic alphabet, but do a few others as well.

however, i learned to stop telling others about it so freely. i think i've addressed enough wedding invitations for friends for ten whole lifetimes. : )
 
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Truthfully, if a guy told me just flat out I was beautiful I would be unlikely to believe him. I'd think it was weird, but probably write it off to either he was trying to be nice or encouraging. If he keeps at it or starts harping on it; I'll probably get annoyed really quickly, it should be clear that if I don't respond it is because it is not something I'm willing to talk about. However, a you look nice today when it is clear I've put in some effort on my appearance (i.e. maybe jewelry or even *gasp* wearing a dress) then that is appreciated because it lets me know someone has noticed the effort.
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downplaying compliments for when you do not know the intended recipient well is often a good idea. It makes them seem more believable, and it means that you can dial things up as time goes by. If your compliments start at a five you can work your way up gradually, but if you start at 10, then bud you better be able to go to 11.

 
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