What is it that Christian guys are waiting to see in a girl before asking her out?

[Trailblazer]

Communication. I wont ask a girl out without talking with her first. I must like her kindness and temperament before considering going/being out with her. It does not matter to me if she makes the first move. I find it very appealing when a woman shows interest in me. Seems while I was growing up. I was the one always being picked up on. then again. it takes two to tango. So maybe it was a 50/50 on both our parts when some interest was shown.

Just the other day. I came off of my hermit hill, I actually mingled in the real world. lol After working all night, and having the daytime blahs. I stopped in a subway on the way home. A girl stopped, looked up at me and smiled giving my bicep a little squeeze. Bummer!.. I am way behind in my workouts. LOL

I did think that was very nice of her not having any problem showing interest in what she may like.
I smiled back in appreciation while saying Hi.
I am still choosing to be single at this time. She did not look as if she may be a Christian. (I'm Judging?) So I did not follow up with any sort of conversation while we were ordering our sandwiches.

The only weird awkward time I ever had being pursued by a woman. A female friend asked me if I would like to join her at a car show. While at the show. another female consistently kept pursuing me while she was with a guy herself. That was very strange.

If a woman comes up with some fun things to do. I do not find that controlling at all. It actually takes the pressure off of me to always have to be the entertainer. If a woman does have a controlling personality. She then attempts controlling all that we do together. A flame out will soon follow. For a woman controlling a man is another one of them things that seem to be against nature.

 

[PopClick]

Hey Popclick, do you believe that a husband should be leader of the family?

Of course. But we're not talking about a family. We're talking about two people who have yet to establish even a dating relationship. Shy guys, those with low self-esteem, or guys who have been rejected cruelly in the past would probably appreciate it greatly.

 

[Trailblazer]

I'm that type that walks on with her head down

It is not good for your posture to walk with your head down. Give it some more years. Gravity may take over. possibly giving you some neck or back issues.

Darn!..I did it again. I derailed a thread. I am such a sinner. I believe that I am in the singles forum now. I do not think
that I will be condemned to death being over here in the singles anyway. LOL

 

[jeremyPJ]

How do you just slide something like that into conversation without making things really awkward? I feel like being too straight forward would come across as weird. Here we are having a lovely normal conversation then I say something like 'I like you' and all of a sudden he realises that I haven't been focusing on the conversation but for all he knows I could be planning the weddig and 5 kids names in my head. Or am I reading into it more than a guy would?

Most men don't jump that far ahead nearly that quickly. The first thing we would likely think is "alright, things are going well!". They won't think about marriage and kids for a couple of hours anyway! (Just kidding...

Take it slow, it's likely how we want it too. Then again, maybe it's because of my age...I don't get rattled about things as badly as I used to. I think when guys are younger, they let things bother them and eat away at them worse. Not that things don't bother me now, it's just not as emotional to be rejected or excited. I've had enough rejection that when I get it, I'm not surprised. I've found that some women have a time frame for action when they are younger. If we don't jump immediately after some of them, the window of opportunity closes quickly. And in that case, it's just as well.