What is your beautiful flaw?

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Aug 2, 2009
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The concept of someone having a 'beautiful flaw' is mentioned here every so often (and I'm still not sure I understand it) so....

I'd like to know what you think your own beautiful flaws are and tell us why you think they are beautiful.

(I would go first but I don't consider any of my flaws beautiful)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I don't talk a lot. Talking for me takes a lot of effort, as does socializing. Some people have such an ease with others, and conversation comes so naturally.
I feel clumsy when i talk, so not saying anything at all seems my most natural state.
The experssions on my face and my body language will react to something someone says before words even form in my head.
I like being alone, thats how i process things that have happened, thats the way i make decisions.

I don't find this beautiful.

However when my best friend, a girl i've known since we were both 11 got married and had her husband leave her for another woman, she called me and said can you just come over here and sit with me, people keep coming over trying to make me feel better by saying these really stupid things. Will you come over here and just sit with me.
She knew me well enough to know i would go over there and just sit with her and not say anything, because words at those moments aren't adequate.
We sat outside for two hours neither of us saying anything at all.

When my grandmother found out she had cancer, she started to get her affairs in order because she knew she would die from it. She gathered the family around and said, when i get to the point i need someone to take care of me. Send Holly, you all talk to much and I want to die peacefully. So thats what i did, i lived with her and took care of her until the day she passed on.

I always felt like my inability to speak well or at all was something really ugly, but at those moments i felt like my flaw was beautiful.
 
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shininglight

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I'm shy but a good listener....That can be a good thing but some people may find me boring at first because I dont say much. The more I get to know people, the more talkative I become, but I'm never what you would call a motor mouth.
 

Snackersmom

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Well, now, I don't need to post anything, because Holly and Shining Light summed it all up so nicely! I'm rather quiet as well, but when I do say something, hopefully it's worth listening to.

Also, right now I'm nodding my head like yeah at what Holly said about people sometimes wanting silence. I'm pretty good at silence ;)
 
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Jullianna

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When I think of beautiful flaws, I think of things that others complain about in themselves, but I see as beautiful:

- The person who complains about being dull/boring/insecure, but I see beautiful humility and gentleness in them
- The person who is ashamed of mistakes of the past, but I see the resulting strength, compassion and incredible sweetness in them
- The person who has been deeply hurt and claims to be bitter, but I see it driving them to deeper understanding of the heart and mind and the discoveries they will lead others to along the way
- The woman who puts herself down constantly, but is a rock of strength to her family

My flaws? I'm stubborn, very quiet, overthink everything and am probably more direct than I should be at times...not sure what's beautiful about any of that.
 
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iraasuup

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I don't talk a lot. Talking for me takes a lot of effort, as does socializing. Some people have such an ease with others, and conversation comes so naturally.
I feel clumsy when i talk, so not saying anything at all seems my most natural state.
The experssions on my face and my body language will react to something someone says before words even form in my head.
I like being alone, thats how i process things that have happened, thats the way i make decisions.

I don't find this beautiful.

However when my best friend, a girl i've known since we were both 11 got married and had her husband leave her for another woman, she called me and said can you just come over here and sit with me, people keep coming over trying to make me feel better by saying these really stupid things. Will you come over here and just sit with me.
She knew me well enough to know i would go over there and just sit with her and not say anything, because words at those moments aren't adequate.
We sat outside for two hours neither of us saying anything at all.

When my grandmother found out she had cancer, she started to get her affairs in order because she knew she would die from it. She gathered the family around and said, when i get to the point i need someone to take care of me. Send Holly, you all talk to much and I want to die peacefully. So thats what i did, i lived with her and took care of her until the day she passed on.

I always felt like my inability to speak well or at all was something really ugly, but at those moments i felt like my flaw was beautiful.

You are so right. I have a friend who miscarried her first child. People tried to comfort her by saying things.. but what can you possibly say in such a time?

Reflecting on it years later, she said the person who was the MOST comforting for her, was a lady from our church who came over and simply walked in the door, hugged her, and then sat with her all afternoon, not saying anything at all.

I rememeber my friend saying how powerful that was, and I've always remembered it. When my marriage broke down.. although I talked it out with her, my mother also just sat with me and let me cry not saying anything at all. I think Ronan Keeting had it right when he sang 'You say it best, when you say nothing at all.
 

niceguyJ

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I think Ronan Keeting had it right when he sang 'You say it best, when you say nothing at all.
I love that song, but I'd never heard of that guy so I had to check out where the song actually came from. When You Say Nothing at All - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
He's apparently the most recent to have a hit with it. Interesting. A hit with three different artists..Surely that doesn't happen often.

I like the Alison Krauss and Union Station version.
Alison Krauss + Union Station - When You Say Nothing at All 2002 Video Live stereo 16:9 widescreen - YouTube
That's the only verson I even knew of until today.
I've never heard the original version of it. Maybe I'll look that up too sometime. I just can't imagine me liking that better than the Alison version either though. Her voice is angelic, plus her band contains some of the best musicians around. :)
 
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hug-a-bug

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i dont have a flaw i dont think ayway
 
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See_KING_Truth

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My most beautiful flaw is that I am flawless.... no need for an explanation.
 
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Beloved57

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When I think of beautiful flaws, I think of things that others complain about in themselves, but I see as beautiful:

- The person who complains about being dull/boring/insecure, but I see beautiful humility and gentleness in them
- The person who is ashamed of mistakes of the past, but I see the resulting strength, compassion and incredible sweetness in them
- The person who has been deeply hurt and claims to be bitter, but I see it driving them to deeper understanding of the heart and mind and the discoveries they will lead others to along the way
- The woman who puts herself down constantly, but is a rock of strength to her family

My flaws? I'm stubborn, very quiet, overthink everything and am probably more direct than I should be at times...not sure what's beautiful about any of that.

What people see as stubborn God see as unmovable faith.
Being very quiet can help one hear God's voice, for many a time He speaks very softly
(I King 19:11-13).
Don't know about the overthink thing as I have the same problem.
Being direct is a sure sign of honesty.
 
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Beloved57

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My flaw and I don't see any upside with it, is I murmur or complain to much, which robs me of so many of God's Blessing.


Plus the physical flaw of being able to grow hair anywhere, but the top of my head. Use to tell myself, it was just making a short retreat, but I have had to face facts, it will be a desert sooner or later up therel
 

eugenius

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All my flaws are ugly. LOL. I don't think you could call cynicism beautiful.
 

Oncefallen

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When it comes to "beautiful flaws," we all have them even if we choose to not be aware of them. One thing I've learned in life is that many times our greatest attributes, can at the same time be our greatest weaknesses if we don't pay attention.

A couple of examples from my own life: I tend to be a generous person, especially among those who I care for (an admirable trait most would say) but several times I've allowed that generosity to enable someone else to maintain their own destructive behaviors that got them into a bad situation and my generosity with them usually was to my own financial detriment. I am likewise extremely loyal, but likewise that admirable trait can end up being a bad thing when it keeps us in a friendship or relationship that is unhealthy and as a result detrimental to us in the long run.
 
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GreenNnice

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When it comes to "beautiful flaws," we all have them even if we choose to not be aware of them. One thing I've learned in life is that many times our greatest attributes, can at the same time be our greatest weaknesses if we don't pay attention.

A couple of examples from my own life: I tend to be a generous person, especially among those who I care for (an admirable trait most would say) but several times I've allowed that generosity to enable someone else to maintain their own destructive behaviors that got them into a bad situation and my generosity with them usually was to my own financial detriment. I am likewise extremely loyal, but likewise that admirable trait can end up being a bad thing when it keeps us in a friendship or relationship that is unhealthy and as a result detrimental to us in the long run.
Giving to a fault, eh, oncefell ? Me too. I have a warehouse and I've let people work in it and been stolen from and I really did treat them right, yet they , just recently, in fact, someone I helped lead to a good life, understanding Lord more, robbed me of several thousand dollars of stuff. But, this is what I learned from it, she has a tough life, she carried a child for 9 months and had kid born but couldn't keep it , because she is not able to get herself into a stable life. Very sad. :(

But, yes, I look.at situation of being fleeced, I've too done things in my time not perfect yet God has bestowed mercy so I haven't seen her around since stealing but she is transient and will likely be around again. I will let the Lord lead but I will let her know that I'm not sure why you victimized me but I know, like Joseph, that what Satan intended for evil God did for good. And he has, deslite losing all that Dewalt and computer stuff, I am blessed and have three storage places where my nicer stuff is and so I thankful for that and,refently God gave me big purchase that should be tremendous way I can bring glory to.Him, h-h, maybe, right here, to all my Christ peep notmydudes and miladies.

I guess that Gid just lets me know that He,is in control, I can lose a,lot of stuff and I just kept thanking Him for how He has my life in control and, despite a loss, I had more and, most importantly, ALL my stuff doesn't matter one bit.
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Nods, it strikes me odd that you don't open up more, but, when you do, like awhile ago talking about your dad and such and this story of grandma wanting you it really does come out beautiful. :)
 

mystdancer50

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For me, a beautiful flaw is summed up nicely in Song of Solomon 1 when the Shulamite says that she is "dark but lovely". So to me it is something you may not like about yourself but can acknowledge that it adds to the beauty that is yours alone. Character flaws, to me, aren't beautiful but that is because I can see the darkness in the traits that aren't Christ-like within me and I want them gone so when I consider a beautiful flaw, I look at the physical, much like the Shulamite herself did. So, my flaw would be my dimple and a few of my scars, which I feel give me character. Of course, I am a fantasy adventure lover and a romantic and scars are a hero's badge of honor. :)

Sorry if I rambled a bit there...
 
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GraceReborn

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I think my beautiful flaw would be my tattoos... to me, they represent my past.
Coming from a country with very conservative culture; I'm often judged because I have them.
 

Liamson

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Of course, I am a fantasy adventure lover and a romantic and scars are a hero's badge of honor.
Fantasy Adventure Lover. o_O

^I don't know what that is but it sounds interesting.
 

mystdancer50

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Fantasy Adventure Lover. o_O

^I don't know what that is but it sounds interesting.
Ha ha. Sorry. Basically, fantasy adventure genre of books and movies...fierce battles, chivalrous knights, dark villains, good winning, strong heroes fighting for strangers...yeah. :)
 
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kensapp

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My ability not to say NO