What Should Happen On a First Date?
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Because nothing screams "You must date this classy guy!!!" like one who offers to take you out on a movie date to use up soon-to-expire coupons LOL
To make sure she is fully aware that you are willing to spare no expense, you could promise to buy her a coffee and donut again as well!
To make sure she is fully aware that you are willing to spare no expense, you could promise to buy her a coffee and donut again as well!
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I actually agree with a lot of this for those who want to go about dating in the traditional way.
Maybe I'm sort of odd. The relationships I've been in have occurred after getting to know each other at work or online, or in high school (my first relationship was when I was 17). After spending time together and finding we liked each other more than just working together or what-have-you, we'd decide to be in a relationship and then the fun stuff began...going on dates and even more flirting and hand holding and smoochies. I like dates that involve picnicking in the great outdoors or walking trails or interesting museums or aquariums. I just never really got into the whole awkward traditional dating stuff. That's just me personally! Not knocking those who are at all. Like I said, I think this is some good advice for those who prefer to go about it that way, except for the part about picking a chick flick. Not all of us women like chick flicks. Of course, if that's your thing don't let me stop you. Meanwhile, imma sneak over to the action or horror or some other movie
Maybe I'm sort of odd. The relationships I've been in have occurred after getting to know each other at work or online, or in high school (my first relationship was when I was 17). After spending time together and finding we liked each other more than just working together or what-have-you, we'd decide to be in a relationship and then the fun stuff began...going on dates and even more flirting and hand holding and smoochies. I like dates that involve picnicking in the great outdoors or walking trails or interesting museums or aquariums. I just never really got into the whole awkward traditional dating stuff. That's just me personally! Not knocking those who are at all. Like I said, I think this is some good advice for those who prefer to go about it that way, except for the part about picking a chick flick. Not all of us women like chick flicks. Of course, if that's your thing don't let me stop you. Meanwhile, imma sneak over to the action or horror or some other movie
When I read the OP my first thought was "If a man can talk to me for an hour over donuts and coffee and still think my first choice of movie would be some vapid Chick flick, he's probably not the right man for me". And I saw on your profile that you like spiders and true crime and old cemeteries. NOBODY seems to get why I like old cemeteries! lol. So we need to both find men who are weird enough to potentially understand us, then we can take them on a double-date through the woods to picnic at an old cemetery that is covered in spiders. Then finish with a psychological thriller movie based on a true crime story. And if they're still interested by the end of the date (and haven't run away screaming!), they just might be the right men for us! @Mr. Epperson: I appreciate what you are trying to do and I like how you were presenting dating and "flirting" as healthy interactions that Christian men and women should not be afraid of. Those of us who came of age during the era of "I kissed Dating Goodbye" often struggle with that, myself included. But most of us here on this forum are still single either because we're content with it, or because we're a bit unconventional and the cookie-cutter scenarios you're presenting just won't work for us; if we identified with the status quo we would have gotten married a long time ago. So I wonder if your perspectives would be better received if you held back a bit and just joined in the discussions with your personal experiences and perspective, rather than coming across like you are enlightening us. Pull up a chair, ask some questions, and really listen to the answers. We all have something to add!
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Carrie, is it possible we are long-lost cousins or something? When I read the OP my first thought was "If a man can talk to me for an hour over donuts and coffee and still think my first choice of movie would be some vapid Chick flick, he's probably not the right man for me". And I saw on your profile that you like spiders and true crime and old cemeteries. NOBODY seems to get why I like old cemeteries! lol. So we need to both find men who are weird enough to potentially understand us, then we can take them on a double-date through the woods to picnic at an old cemetery that is covered in spiders. Then finish with a psychological thriller movie based on a true crime story. And if they're still interested by the end of the date (and haven't run away screaming!), they just might be the right men for us!
When I read the OP my first thought was "If a man can talk to me for an hour over donuts and coffee and still think my first choice of movie would be some vapid Chick flick, he's probably not the right man for me". And I saw on your profile that you like spiders and true crime and old cemeteries. NOBODY seems to get why I like old cemeteries! lol. So we need to both find men who are weird enough to potentially understand us, then we can take them on a double-date through the woods to picnic at an old cemetery that is covered in spiders. Then finish with a psychological thriller movie based on a true crime story. And if they're still interested by the end of the date (and haven't run away screaming!), they just might be the right men for us!
Btw, I picnicked at a nearby cemetery on Halloween night. The atmosphere was peaceful. I wasn't on a date though. I think I've ran plenty of men off with my interests lol. Especially when it concerns spiders. I remember one time a guy mentioned me in a forum (on another site that I don't visit anymore) and said, "Do you realize that people find you scary?"
Just call me Scary Pie!-
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I wince when I see/hear the word squish when it concerns spiders
I hate poison ivy. Very annoying stuff. I haven't had it in years, but one never forgets that stuff.
I hate poison ivy. Very annoying stuff. I haven't had it in years, but one never forgets that stuff.
I like spiders for the same reason I like bats. The enemy of my enemy...
But it's hard to be afraid of them.
Personally, I wouldn't mind the "I have some coupons that are about to expire" line, as I've often said my family treats saving money like an Olympic sport: "Oh yeah? I bought this spaghetti sauce on sale, buy-one-get-one free, with a coupon, on a cashback credit card, AND it earned me discount fuel points!"
But I would definitely want to know his story about how he became a coupon-collector and what part it played in his everyday life.
But I would definitely want to know his story about how he became a coupon-collector and what part it played in his everyday life.
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I just don't think that having coupons expire soon would be seen as an indication of
how interested you are in taking that special someone out on a first/second date...
Of course, if Sharon is already interested in said suitor, he could invite her to watch paint dry or grass grow and she would agree...
Watching a movie together does not really afford much opportunity for getting to know each other, though.
Maybe that's why lunch/dinner dates and/or walks on the beach are so popular.
how interested you are in taking that special someone out on a first/second date...
Of course, if Sharon is already interested in said suitor, he could invite her to watch paint dry or grass grow and she would agree...
Watching a movie together does not really afford much opportunity for getting to know each other, though.
Maybe that's why lunch/dinner dates and/or walks on the beach are so popular.
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Personally, I wouldn't mind the "I have some coupons that are about to expire" line, as I've often said my family treats saving money like an Olympic sport: "Oh yeah? I bought this spaghetti sauce on sale, buy-one-get-one free, with a coupon, on a cashback credit card, AND it earned me discount fuel points!"
But I would definitely want to know his story about how he became a coupon-collector and what part it played in his everyday life.
But I would definitely want to know his story about how he became a coupon-collector and what part it played in his everyday life.
I mean Seoul is a long, long way away from me... But why take a risk?
to me, on a 1st date, & the next 3 or 4, it would be more like an inspection, interrogation & discernment meeting. but even before that, totally now-a-days, get as much "pre" information as possible from a pastor, hopefully. by course, always get Jesus on the job. yea, you guessed it, like an application. & guys, don't spend money on her too soon. girls, put into motion, all you're "mother's" intuition, & instinct but with an occasional smile.
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