What?

[Lanolin]

Many women died in childbirth in the last century they dodnt have good medical care or practices. Also infant mortality was high. After the 1950s-1960s everything changed for women with the invention of the pill, and other drugs that were given to women for childbirth, caesarean sections etc.

 

[TheWriter]

I need to take a breather. Intense discussion, but has to be in order to find motives if that’s the case.

 

[TheWriter]

Many women died in childbirth in the last century they dodnt have good medical care or practices. Also infant mortality was high. After the 1950s-1960s everything changed for women with the invention of the pill, and other drugs that were given to women for childbirth, caesarean sections etc.

Yes absolutely, my sister lost her twins and my ex lost our child before any real forming could happen.

 

[Lanolin]

Diabetes seems to be a big thing now..that requires contant monitoring. Even children can get it. I dont think it stops people from marrying and having families though. And often diseases crop up later in life. You could be a carrier for something that wont affect you but will affect your children. Or not. It could be just random.

I know so many parents that have children with an autism or adhd diagnosis and being a parent is tough when you have to deal with a child who had learning difficulties. Not to mention all the other children lol. For some people though thats nothing but for a mother that doesnt have much support it will be exhausting. You dont want to have to bury your own child either...but reality is many mothers will or will go through miscarriages and still births, its just not talked about much.

 

[TheWriter]

Diabetes seems to be a big thing now..that requires contant monitoring. Even children can get it. I dont think it stops people from marrying and having families though. And often diseases crop up later in life. You could be a carrier for something that wont affect you but will affect your children. Or not. It could be just random.

I know so many parents that have children with an autism or adhd diagnosis and being a parent is tough when you have to deal with a child who had learning difficulties. Not to mention all the other children lol. For some people though thats nothing but for a mother that doesnt have much support it will be exhausting. You dont want to have to bury your own child either...but reality is many mothers will or will go through miscarriages and still births, its just not talked about much.

Friend, trust me I know.

 

[TheWriter]

Diabetes seems to be a big thing now..that requires contant monitoring. Even children can get it. I dont think it stops people from marrying and having families though. And often diseases crop up later in life. You could be a carrier for something that wont affect you but will affect your children. Or not. It could be just random.

I know so many parents that have children with an autism or adhd diagnosis and being a parent is tough when you have to deal with a child who had learning difficulties. Not to mention all the other children lol. For some people though thats nothing but for a mother that doesnt have much support it will be exhausting. You dont want to have to bury your own child either...but reality is many mothers will or will go through miscarriages and still births, its just not talked about much.

HHT is not diabetes though but yeah… I fall in 20 percent who gave it but don’t have genetics

 

[TheWriter]

Diabetes seems to be a big thing now..that requires contant monitoring. Even children can get it. I dont think it stops people from marrying and having families though. And often diseases crop up later in life. You could be a carrier for something that wont affect you but will affect your children. Or not. It could be just random.

I know so many parents that have children with an autism or adhd diagnosis and being a parent is tough when you have to deal with a child who had learning difficulties. Not to mention all the other children lol. For some people though thats nothing but for a mother that doesnt have much support it will be exhausting. You dont want to have to bury your own child either...but reality is many mothers will or will go through miscarriages and still births, its just not talked about much.

Diabetes, HHT, high bp, enlarged liver.

 

[TheWriter]

Diabetes seems to be a big thing now..that requires contant monitoring. Even children can get it. I dont think it stops people from marrying and having families though. And often diseases crop up later in life. You could be a carrier for something that wont affect you but will affect your children. Or not. It could be just random.

I know so many parents that have children with an autism or adhd diagnosis and being a parent is tough when you have to deal with a child who had learning difficulties. Not to mention all the other children lol. For some people though thats nothing but for a mother that doesnt have much support it will be exhausting. You dont want to have to bury your own child either...but reality is many mothers will or will go through miscarriages and still births, its just not talked about much.

Lol cat got your tongue? 😜

 

[TheWriter]

I typically hesitate to post on threads (or sometimes even participate in conversations) like this because I'm not looking to get married or be in a relationship at this time in my life. But it is a good topic so I'll add my (a young woman's) perspective.

*He must have a strong relationship with the Lord and be grounded in the Word
*We'd have to agree on major doctrines
*He must be a hard worker
*He must be open to God's leading in areas such as where to live, vocation, etc.
*He must be kind and respectful to others and good with children
*He must be aware and watchful of the times we're living in

There are preferences too, such as I hope he'd want to live a simple lifestyle and farm, and that he'd like music and singing.

There are preferences, and wants that people want in life.
for instance you never know your man could be from another country or in the same state as you.

in this as people we all must fallow the lead that God sets forth even in marriage.

 

[TheWriter]

ii Come from a big line of Cherokee, but mixed with other lines of culture. Mostly indigenous

 

[Gojira]

I’m being honest it was not my intent. When you know what you want out of a relationship what are you planning to do to keep that spark alive. Same with her what does she need to do to keep your interest

That wasn't the topic of your OP. You asked a specific question, and then proceeded to critique my answer from the viewpoint of an entirely different question. Not very fair. Perhaps you should have asked: What do you prefer in a mate AND what are you prepared to offer them?

 

[TheWriter]

That wasn't the topic of your OP. You asked a specific question, and then proceeded to critique my answer from the viewpoint of an entirely different question. Not very fair. Perhaps you should have asked: What do you prefer in a mate AND what are you prepared to offer them?

Well in some ways other questions can come about regardless of original intent. That keeps the discussion going. 🙃

 

[TheWriter]

In my home town it is surrounded by mountains. I was born in the birth place of country music.

I enjoy DollyWood and had always loved to hike.

 

[TheWriter]

I generally agree with the above lists. One more thing is that I wouldn't want a spouse to be too clingy. However, I admit there is a fine line between being in love and being clingy...but being clingy seems similar to controlling to me.

I’m ways yes it can be, there is a time and a place for things even if it was to cuddle the one you love. Of course if they blow your phone up and drive you nuts then they have their own insecurities. It would be time to sit down and talk about it. If they stop? Good if not then you know they have not found their value yet. Their happiness should be from God.

 

[Gojira]

Well in some ways other questions can come about regardless of original intent. That keeps the discussion going. 🙃

Sometimes. Not in this case.

 

[TheWriter]

Sometimes. Not in this case.

I understand, again was not the intent in which you had thought. If offended I retract.

 

[Lanolin]

I havent really been commenting on the OP

But I suppose the personality or trait that I would like the most is someone who is like Christ.

However if someone was truly Christlike they would be willing to sacrifice their life for mine and thats a big ask lol. I'm not sure anyone would do that for me seeing as Jesus already did it.

When Jesus asked Simon Peter who he was Peter knew he was the Messiah the son of the living God, as his Heavenly Father had revealed that to him, not flesh and blood. However then Jesus talked about how he was going to be suffer by the chief priests and Pharisses and killed and also rise on the third day and Peter was like NO WAY. That cant happen

This was because Peter was, like all many of us super clingy to his new friend and wanted him around as his buddy forever. But Jesus knew he was going to die, and warned all the disciples about it. He also said to Peter that he was an offense because he savoured the things of men and not the things of God.

A lot of people arent looking for someone whos death is gonna be horrible and change the world. They just want someone easy to get along with and to give them a good lifestyle.

But I think if you do meet someone whos genuinely Christ like you would not want to marry them...they are called for greater things.

Did Jesus have a lot of women wanting to marry him? Probably...but when they saw He was the Christ I think their whole world was changed.

 

[TheWriter]

I havent really been commenting on the OP

But I suppose the personality or trait that I would like the most is someone who is like Christ.

However if someone was truly Christlike they would be willing to sacrifice their life for mine and thats a big ask lol. I'm not sure anyone would do that for me seeing as Jesus already did it.

When Jesus asked Simon Peter who he was Peter knew he was the Messiah the son of the living God, as his Heavenly Father had revealed that to him, not flesh and blood. However then Jesus talked about how he was going to be suffer by the chief priests and Pharisses and killed and also rise on the third day and Peter was like NO WAY. That cant happen

This was because Peter was, like all many of us super clingy to his new friend and wanted him around as his buddy forever. But Jesus knew he was going to die, and warned all the disciples about it. He also said to Peter that he was an offense because he savoured the things of men and not the things of God.

A lot of people arent looking for someone whos death is gonna be horrible and change the world. They just want someone easy to get along with and to give them a good lifestyle.

But I think if you do meet someone whos genuinely Christ like you would not want to marry them...they are called for greater things.

Did Jesus have a lot of women wanting to marry him? Probably...but when they saw He was the Christ I think their whole world was changed.

To have a respect for the values of Christ is liken to respecting yourself and your own heart. Great comment.

 

[TheWriter]

I havent really been commenting on the OP

But I suppose the personality or trait that I would like the most is someone who is like Christ.

However if someone was truly Christlike they would be willing to sacrifice their life for mine and thats a big ask lol. I'm not sure anyone would do that for me seeing as Jesus already did it.

When Jesus asked Simon Peter who he was Peter knew he was the Messiah the son of the living God, as his Heavenly Father had revealed that to him, not flesh and blood. However then Jesus talked about how he was going to be suffer by the chief priests and Pharisses and killed and also rise on the third day and Peter was like NO WAY. That cant happen

This was because Peter was, like all many of us super clingy to his new friend and wanted him around as his buddy forever. But Jesus knew he was going to die, and warned all the disciples about it. He also said to Peter that he was an offense because he savoured the things of men and not the things of God.

A lot of people arent looking for someone whos death is gonna be horrible and change the world. They just want someone easy to get along with and to give them a good lifestyle.

But I think if you do meet someone whos genuinely Christ like you would not want to marry them...they are called for greater things.

Did Jesus have a lot of women wanting to marry him? Probably...but when they saw He was the Christ I think their whole world was changed.

One more thing, that is liken to what I had stated before. How can someone love you if you do not love yourself. How can you even love God if you hate yourself because God is love.

With that, to value the heart of God is to value your own worth within His own eyes.

 

[TheWriter]