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Have faith Heaven is a perfect place as God promises.
And the institution of marriage as we know it may not exist there, but it probably doesn't mean you will have a very special relationship with the woman you partnered up with in life.
I'm convinced you are either trolling or just too territorial.
Also, who is to say cars are not in heaven?
And the institution of marriage as we know it may not exist there, but it probably doesn't mean you will have a very special relationship with the woman you partnered up with in life.
I'm convinced you are either trolling or just too territorial.
Also, who is to say cars are not in heaven?
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2nd John Chap 3:1 Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therfore the world knoweth us not, because it knew Him not. 3:2 Beloved, now we are the sons of God, and it does not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that when He shall appear, we shall be like Him; for we shall see Him as He is.
1st Cor. 15:40 There are also celestial bodies, and bodies terrestrial: but the glory of the celestial is one, and the glory of the terrestrial is another.
You and your wife will be in heaven, but your mindset will be different. "All former things will pass away." keep your eyes on prize of everlasting life engulfed in the love of God. 1 Cor 2:9 But as it written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither has entered into the heart of man, the things which God has prepared for them who love Him.
1st Cor. 15:40 There are also celestial bodies, and bodies terrestrial: but the glory of the celestial is one, and the glory of the terrestrial is another.
You and your wife will be in heaven, but your mindset will be different. "All former things will pass away." keep your eyes on prize of everlasting life engulfed in the love of God. 1 Cor 2:9 But as it written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither has entered into the heart of man, the things which God has prepared for them who love Him.
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Interesting topic:
What I've seen with marriage, nowadays, it's no longer a commitment with both your spouse and God, but rather it's a contest of who can show off the most and the best.
"HEY, LOOK AT MY PERFECT LIFE! LOOK HOW MANY PHOTOS I POSTED OF ME, MY SPOUSE, MY KIDS, ALL MY LUXURIES, AND ALL OF OUR TRAVELS! I KNOW EVERYTHING NOW! I KNOW ALL OF LIFE'S MYSTERIES AND I'M A MASTER OF ALL KNOWLEDGE BECAUSE I'M MARRIED AND HAVE KIDS! BOY, MY LIFE SURE IS PERFECT! SO BLESSED!!!"
That's how the world wants us to perceive married people today. Now, this isn't all married couples. Some of the ones I know are laid back and actually focus on work and their families. They're living much better lives than what a bunch of these other people, who love to show off what they have, are. The ones that show off their luxuries and all these photos of them faultless are, typically, the ones that are struggling most in life. They're more focused on the earthly aspects rather than focusing on the glory of God. And they'll use the word 'blessed' as a means to deceive others into believing that everything is good, when it really isn't. So in this way, marriage isn't worth it because a lot of what it has become is vanity and lying to others rather than honoring God and living in the truth.
Another way where it isn't worth it is people using marriage as a means to simply gain another's resources. No offense to those on here, but more women do this than men. There have been cases where a woman would manipulate a man into gaining access to his bank account and his belongings, and all the while cheating on her husband with another man/men.
My oldest brother was a victim of this. He worked long hours, providing for his wife (who had been divorced once already), and each paycheck he'd bring home, all of it would be spent by his spouse. We had our suspicions, especially my younger brother, as he didn't see eye to eye with this woman from the start. The marriage itself only lasted 6 months, and the night he got the break up letter, our friend, who had been divorced himself, told my brother to call the bank immediately and cancel his accounts. Surely enough, the next day, after my brother cancelled his accounts, his wife called up furious because she couldn't use his bank cards. If you don't know what was going to happen, she was going to max out my brother's cards, leaving him with nothing while she runs off with her stuff.
We discovered later that during the course of the marriage she had been seeing my brother's old friend from high school. Of course through another source, she screwed around with another man as well, got married to him, and did the same thing to him like she did my brother and her first husband. She had done all this so she can gain access to things that she wanted without her working. Now, again, this isn't to say that there aren't men that did the same thing that this woman has done, but women seem to be the ones doing this more. A lot of times, society is told that if women do this, it's because the men aren't stepping up, they're not providing, or there's something wrong with them, and it's, somehow, justified to cheat and to take what resources they can from men. As a single man myself, why would I want to sign up for that? None of it is godly, and I'd be setting myself up for failure. That's another example of why marriage isn't worth it.
I can go on and on with this, but I'll start to wrap up with this last example. I've seen how quickly divorce can happen. Again, my oldest brother's first marriage only lasted 6 months and it was because of selfishness on the part of his ex wife. You can lose so much in things like divorce. Happiness, self worth, livelihood, things that keep you going. Some even go as far as questioning their own faith. It's really something that can destroy someone, if prayer and trusting in the Lord are not taken into account. My brother, for a few months, had not spoken to me nor the rest of the family. Thankfully, through prayer, he came to his senses and started doing things with the family again. But I've seen times where with people with no faith had fallen. Once again, a reason to be afraid of marriage, depending on the situation.
It sounds like I'm being doom and gloom, and not at all for marriage. All I'm doing is pointing out the dangers of what marriage in today's world can, potentially, do to you on a spiritual level, if you don't make it in a way that honors God. The up side to marriage, you do get to spend the time with the one you care about. Enjoying the good times and being there for each other in the bad. Put God at the center of it, and it becomes beautiful. Life gets better and much of the stress and scariness disappears. You have a helper and a companion. To end on a good note, my oldest brother is happily remarried, has been for 6 years, and has a daughter. He's been attending church every Sunday, has good job, and life is now beginning to really take off for him. If any of us were to be married, God does have someone put aside for us. As long as you're not pursuing it, He will that special person in your life and bless the relationship, if you choose to start it. Then the good will far outweigh the bad, so long as God is at the center of the marriage and it honors Him!
What I've seen with marriage, nowadays, it's no longer a commitment with both your spouse and God, but rather it's a contest of who can show off the most and the best.
"HEY, LOOK AT MY PERFECT LIFE! LOOK HOW MANY PHOTOS I POSTED OF ME, MY SPOUSE, MY KIDS, ALL MY LUXURIES, AND ALL OF OUR TRAVELS! I KNOW EVERYTHING NOW! I KNOW ALL OF LIFE'S MYSTERIES AND I'M A MASTER OF ALL KNOWLEDGE BECAUSE I'M MARRIED AND HAVE KIDS! BOY, MY LIFE SURE IS PERFECT! SO BLESSED!!!"
That's how the world wants us to perceive married people today. Now, this isn't all married couples. Some of the ones I know are laid back and actually focus on work and their families. They're living much better lives than what a bunch of these other people, who love to show off what they have, are. The ones that show off their luxuries and all these photos of them faultless are, typically, the ones that are struggling most in life. They're more focused on the earthly aspects rather than focusing on the glory of God. And they'll use the word 'blessed' as a means to deceive others into believing that everything is good, when it really isn't. So in this way, marriage isn't worth it because a lot of what it has become is vanity and lying to others rather than honoring God and living in the truth.
Another way where it isn't worth it is people using marriage as a means to simply gain another's resources. No offense to those on here, but more women do this than men. There have been cases where a woman would manipulate a man into gaining access to his bank account and his belongings, and all the while cheating on her husband with another man/men.
My oldest brother was a victim of this. He worked long hours, providing for his wife (who had been divorced once already), and each paycheck he'd bring home, all of it would be spent by his spouse. We had our suspicions, especially my younger brother, as he didn't see eye to eye with this woman from the start. The marriage itself only lasted 6 months, and the night he got the break up letter, our friend, who had been divorced himself, told my brother to call the bank immediately and cancel his accounts. Surely enough, the next day, after my brother cancelled his accounts, his wife called up furious because she couldn't use his bank cards. If you don't know what was going to happen, she was going to max out my brother's cards, leaving him with nothing while she runs off with her stuff.
We discovered later that during the course of the marriage she had been seeing my brother's old friend from high school. Of course through another source, she screwed around with another man as well, got married to him, and did the same thing to him like she did my brother and her first husband. She had done all this so she can gain access to things that she wanted without her working. Now, again, this isn't to say that there aren't men that did the same thing that this woman has done, but women seem to be the ones doing this more. A lot of times, society is told that if women do this, it's because the men aren't stepping up, they're not providing, or there's something wrong with them, and it's, somehow, justified to cheat and to take what resources they can from men. As a single man myself, why would I want to sign up for that? None of it is godly, and I'd be setting myself up for failure. That's another example of why marriage isn't worth it.
I can go on and on with this, but I'll start to wrap up with this last example. I've seen how quickly divorce can happen. Again, my oldest brother's first marriage only lasted 6 months and it was because of selfishness on the part of his ex wife. You can lose so much in things like divorce. Happiness, self worth, livelihood, things that keep you going. Some even go as far as questioning their own faith. It's really something that can destroy someone, if prayer and trusting in the Lord are not taken into account. My brother, for a few months, had not spoken to me nor the rest of the family. Thankfully, through prayer, he came to his senses and started doing things with the family again. But I've seen times where with people with no faith had fallen. Once again, a reason to be afraid of marriage, depending on the situation.
It sounds like I'm being doom and gloom, and not at all for marriage. All I'm doing is pointing out the dangers of what marriage in today's world can, potentially, do to you on a spiritual level, if you don't make it in a way that honors God. The up side to marriage, you do get to spend the time with the one you care about. Enjoying the good times and being there for each other in the bad. Put God at the center of it, and it becomes beautiful. Life gets better and much of the stress and scariness disappears. You have a helper and a companion. To end on a good note, my oldest brother is happily remarried, has been for 6 years, and has a daughter. He's been attending church every Sunday, has good job, and life is now beginning to really take off for him. If any of us were to be married, God does have someone put aside for us. As long as you're not pursuing it, He will that special person in your life and bless the relationship, if you choose to start it. Then the good will far outweigh the bad, so long as God is at the center of the marriage and it honors Him!
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