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If you feel a connection with someone, continue to explore it. It could be a friendship; it could be a relationship. I think we can agree on that the clouds parting and a beem of light shining upon the head of your beloved isn't realistic. Personally, I believe it's that connection that can develop into love, and not love at first sight. I believe it's a process over time.
well I guess that's kind of what I was asking advice on. Would God's will be causing a sort of perfect meet cute, or does it require pursuing? I ask because there is this girl I met recently but I wasn't head over heels for her at first, but the more I think about her the more I realize I think I made a mistake in not pursuing her. I ignored my feelings because I figured I would feel more sure right from the beginning of it was "God's will" so to speak. Won't ever see her again and now I feel like I messed up 
in the future should I keep waiting? Or should I start being more proactive?
in the future should I keep waiting? Or should I start being more proactive?
I believe that finding "the one" takes two things. 1. Being open to possibilities, and 2. pursuing those possibilities. And when I refer to "the one", what I mean is "a woman you can get to know, choose to love, decide to marry, and spend many happy years together with". You have choices. You could choose this one, and be happy. Or you could choose that one, and still be happy. I think people really limit themselves when they decide that there is only ONE person out there in the entire world who they could be successfully married to. Marriage is what we make it.
Be wise in your choice, but don't feel trapped by the overwhelming burden of needing to find "The One".
So yeah... you should pursue possibilities. You meet a nice girl that you like. There don't have to be shooting stars and fireworks. It could be a gentle sort of friendship, or a fondness, or an affection. Get to know her. Learn more about her. Talk with her about all sorts of things. Pray about her and for her and for yourself. Over time, you'll discern whether or not she would be a good match for you, and you can go from there.
As for the girl who got away, don't worry too much about that. Use it as a learning experience. If God really had a specific person chosen for you, he would continue to put her in front of you until you figured it out.
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How do you know? I've really though about this a lot
When your old and grey, when your love is old and strong like a mighty oak, when you laugh at the same joke before the punchline, when you've lived a life committed to one another, and finally your spouse passes on to be with the Lord. - And then when you meet again years later in heaven...the first thing you say is...."My Love!.... pull my finger"
When your old and grey, when your love is old and strong like a mighty oak, when you laugh at the same joke before the punchline, when you've lived a life committed to one another, and finally your spouse passes on to be with the Lord. - And then when you meet again years later in heaven...the first thing you say is...."My Love!.... pull my finger"
