Hi! I’m in my 30’s and divorced. I’m just wondering why I can’t find any true honest loyal Christian men my age?! Are there any out there or all they all into this new age junk?!
Well. I married at the age of 21! So yeah I was way young. I have no children thank goodness. I mean I want them but God didn’t give me any with him.
He was five years older than me.
he was emotionally and mentally abusive and then physically two to three times
Truth bomb alert: most churchgoers are not born again. That's a problem for a start. Rather limits the field.....
What you need to know: Men have been denigrated, put down, insulted and belittled for decades now. It's not surprising that they are not behaving like men. Some turn into pathetic wimps, others get resentful and lash out. Many come into a relationship damaged goods.
Men really don't mature until late 20's, sometimes early 30's. It's one reason that younger women are attracted to older men.
A lot of decent men are already taken.
Many men have just given up on relationships. My son is one. He's normal, hard working, has an excellent job, mixed race but looks white, sensible and intelligent. He's looked hard at what marriage is like. Not for him. He's 32.
I was divorced about 25 years ago. I gave up looking. Most of the eligible women were single mothers who obsessed over their kids. No thanks, way too complicated. That I know by experience.
Above all, don't give up. Have realistic expectations. I'm 70 and I will soon be proposing to someone I've grown close to. She knows Jesus and He's her first love. That means that I don't have to be Jesus to her.
I recommend you listen to Mark Gungor, a Christian relationship counselor. He is also very entertaining. You will get a better understanding of why men and women are different and how to deal with the differences. If you meet someone, get them to watch Gungor with you.
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