You worry too much
Chill!
Can I be honest about something? If a guy/girl tries
too hard, one of two things can happen:
The other person will feel pressured and bail; or
The other person will take advantage of you and possibly hurt you
Sounds like you are meeting some girls, but you aren't interested in them. Why don't you try being friends with them? If you spend more time with them, you might become more comfortable talking with girls. And, who knows, once they get to know you, they might know a girl or two they think might be a good fit for you...or you might find one or two of them more interesting than you first thought.
BUT, (here comes the nagging
) don't let girls be the reason you become involved in church activities. Put God first. Christian girls admire and respect this.
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Yes, dothack0, what julieannie said, and...
Just be yourself. Girls WANT a genuine guy who is not trying to be someone he is not. My friend, Dhz, just go with God. Pray and go to singles church Sunday and weeknight, you will be in His will that way and be CONFIDENT of who you are, not just a guy from God but having conquered your life to a state of FREEDOM that will reap blessings galore from Him as you continúe to reBuke bad things clouding and murking your mind with God's good things for you
Go to singles EXPECTING....
nothing, not going to meet a girl , just going to listen to the worship music, and, as the Lord leads, raising your hands during songs that the Spirit moves you and just then being caz in group table talk time, talking about your doing things like time spent on cc and watching good movies, (see '7 days in utopía' , max Payne , etc.) , time with brothers, sisters , friends had that past weekend, etc. Keep it simple.
But Ask Him (in prayer) as you talk at the singles table, you will know just what to say .
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YOU start evocative threads , DotHack0, on cc, God has gifted you in that inquisitive, queztioning way, and, many more ways, too, gifted, I am positive.
Just follow Him the whole singles Sunday and alzó if church attend has a singles night, YOU will be led, greatly, every time you go, not with a girl friend becoming a girlfriend, could happen, but, just saying that you will grow as a man in that environment as He leads .
Those girls coming to a singles church service with guys often are just the girl's good friend too, not serious relationship do they have so, let the lord lead
God bless your going out there and being a part of that good thing, remember, too, ALWAYS be respectful of ALL girls, and, talk to as many as you can, just become their friend. The Lord leads