Where are the girls?

[GreenNnice]

I don't ask questions about how to get closer to God because I already know how, It just seems like it's a slow process to getting to know him better.

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It's a lifelong process, dothack0, God is going to constantly teach us new things and, in so doing, we will grow closer to Him, know Him better, be able to focus on Him better.

My slogan, besides the Lord leads, is like this, unwritten slogan anyway, for now.

We are past the part of you and God close so, what next, JUST DO IT !
go out there to singles groups and sit by a girl you like or, since you are inquiring, and, sounds like your ready for that step in your life, hey, go to a mall, see a girl sitting by herself at a table in the food court and ask if you can sit down , just don't forget to say 'please,' and then, if she says 'yes,' then say 'thank you.'

The Lord leads, but YOU will surprised how great God will lead you with women IF around them you are POLITE and don't YELL at them and RESPECT them and WANT to be around them and, BONUS, if you can bring scripture into the conversation, HAVE a little New Testament bible in the pocket of your jacket . OK !

Now, get out there, bro in Christ, and, do it, remember, YOU, and, NOT your friends, not ANYONE else has got to be brave and GET to know girls and they will help you too, but YOU have to make moves on your own until that happens.

, you've got good advice from pop!click(close relationship with God will show Him you are READY for a close relationship with a girl, I think is what she was saying, and, it is GREAT advice! ) . and CC, although maybe hard to stomach what CC said, but, yeah, don't whine about needing friends to help, etc. JUST DO IT !

I know it's hard, but with God by your side it's ALL possible, be brave, Christ bro, God did NOT put us with a spirit of fear (except in doing His ways). So, yeah, it's hard but you are not alone, good cc friends helping you,.

zere, too helping, which I get what he says about 'gay' guys around girls, and, yeah, they are NOT creePy around them because they are NOT interested. So, I guess that said, BE MORE NONCHALANTLY CONFIDENT (like a gay guy is), even behaving like you are disinterested. Anyway, saying a lot, maybe it helps, maybe it not, just pray about ALL people say, the Lord leads

 

[dothackzero]

YOU don't see any reason she might be interested in you, but she might see it differently. If you don't try, you'll never know. Even if she isn't interested in you, she could still be a good friend and helpful to you in reaching out to girls.

I think I was asking the question yesterday. I think the question I should be asking is if a girl would find me interesting if she got to know me.

I mean I'm mostly just into God, anime, programming, computers, and video games

 

[GreenNnice]

Girls with boyfriends have friends that are girls. *hint hint* You can still be friends with them to help yourself become more comfortable talking with girls.

YOU don't see any reason she might be interested in you, but she might see it differently. If you don't try, you'll never know. Even if she isn't interested in you, she could still be a good friend and helpful to you in reaching out to girls.

Not sure what you mean by "too big", but please don't tell me. It might offend someone needlessly, start an argument and trash your thread.

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Julieannie, again, has it said dynamically right again, dh0.
You might not think she is interested in YOU but she might see things differently.

Yes, yes, YES!

THEREin lies so much wisdom, there might be a girl at one of these new church things you are joining that is so beautiful to you, but, sigh, she is also beautiful to about 5 other guys in this place.
'Well, that's that,' you say , 'She won't like me with all the other mr. Right's around clamoring .'

Wrong!

She probably may start with the hunk of the church thing, but after finding out he likes playing co-ed softball all the time and she has two left hands , so to speak, well, she moves on from him. Then she goes to the next guy and he is an accountant and she is spatially lacking so the ying and yang appeals to her but THEN she finds out he doesn't enjoy video game playing at all and is just too different. So she sees you , dohack0, and, your busily playing your Nin DS and she comes over to you.....

"What ya playin',' she says, and, yeah, if a girl uses caz talk like that around you, dothack, then UH, YEAH!, she likes you, attraction-wise.

So, you get to talking with her, you say, 'you like games, cool, I like programming. '

And one thing leads to another including her telling you AFTER you know each better after couple more outings into your relarionship....

'I want you to know that I was seeing you seeing me that first time I saw you at the church dealio and so that's why I came over. I am being honest hee, I had my eye on you from the start.'

You : ' over all those other guys, the softball physique did, Jim, and, Ralph, the cute accountant ?'

Her: ' yep. You. '

This little,story is just here to let you know that when all kinds of '9' and '10' guys are around , she may pick you, a '7,' '

I am not being trying here judgmental , don't know what you look like and don't care, that's not the point, the point is that God has girls out there just for you and their eyes , over all the seemingly more eligible bachelor choices, will be on


You.

 

[CC_Bride]

He is whining because this is his millionth post on this subject. Whenever dothackzero writes a thread its always about this.

But for his credit, Ive seen much more depressing isolating "end of the world because I'll never get a girlfriend" posts than this, which tells me hes improving. Ever so slightly.

Gotta go Downton Abbey in on!!!

 

[Jullianna]

I think I was asking the question yesterday. I think the question I should be asking is if a girl would find me interesting if she got to know me.

I mean I'm mostly just into God, anime, programming, computers, and video games

A lot of girls are interested in those same things.

At some point you have to stop talking about it and take action, Brother

 

[violakat]

Dothackzero

I had a friend who also has a hard time meeting girls, because of a condition he has, Asperger's. He has a hard time with others as well, because many people don't realize that he has to overcome a social skills barrier. And before he is able to, most of the women reject him before getting to know him. And many of his Christian friends refuse to step in as well, and help. However, his non-Christian friends a lot of times try to introduce him to women and it goes easier, because they chat him up. Basically they tell the women about his having Asperger's, and how sometimes it inhibits him to some extent, and what type of guy he is. It level the field for him.

I don't know if you are having problems meeting women because of insecurity issues, or what not. But if you are, tell your friends that you do need help and why. Most people won't realize the problems others have, unless you tell them exactly what it is.

 

[violakat]

Definitely not true in the state of North Carolina, USA. The single guys in church outnumber the girls at least 3 to 1. The guy to girl ratio is pretty high outside of the church as well.

I do feel sorry for the ladies in this area, both the saved and unsaved. Single guys here are very aggressive and seldom take no for answer. I could see how it's easy for a Christian girl to stumble seeing as many married women can't seem to resist and walk away from all the attention they get either.

If that is the case, I'll make sure to notify you if I come down, so you can beat the tar out of any guy that doesn't take no for an answer.

 

[zeroturbulence]

But for his credit, Ive seen much more depressing isolating "end of the world because I'll never get a girlfriend" posts than this, which tells me hes improving. Ever so slightly.

Yes, that is true!

 

[Crossfire]

If that is the case, I'll make sure to notify you if I come down, so you can beat the tar out of any guy that doesn't take no for an answer.

*lol* Actually, I'm in the final stages of moving to Alabama. Hopefully things will be a bit different there.

 

[VikkiKate89]

Where'd the girls go? They left? Without me? Those jerks... I'll show them... once my doomsday device is completed I'll show them all *wanders off continuing to mumble maniacally*

 

[violakat]

*lol* Actually, I'm in the final stages of moving to Alabama. Hopefully things will be a bit different there.

Great, now who am I going to call on to beat some sense into people.

Where'd the girls go? They left? Without me? Those jerks... I'll show them... once my doomsday device is completed I'll show them all *wanders off continuing to mumble maniacally*

I sent you a coded letter where we were. Didn't you see it?

 

[Liz01]

Im starting to think that the girls maybe are in their homes in the same city that dothackzero is, wondering if its possible to exist a guy that is into God, anime, programming, computers, and video games

 

[Pheonix]

I don't ask questions about how to get closer to God because I already know how, It just seems like it's a slow process to getting to know him better.

I know this is off topic and is perhaps a question for another thread, but how does one go about getting to know and understand a being/person/thing that is unfathomable by its his/her/its very nature? I've been trying to understand how to go about understanding God for a while now and I'm still right where I started.

Personally I'm more worried about understanding God than women, and they are both an enigma wrapped in a riddle and tied in a question.

And Dot, I haven't had a girlfriend in 10 years, and I'm not sure I've missed anything.

 

[Pheonix]

Where'd the girls go? They left? Without me? Those jerks... I'll show them... once my doomsday device is completed I'll show them all *wanders off continuing to mumble maniacally*

Mine blew up in my face while I was building it. made a mess everywhere. I'm still picking bits of it out of my teeth years later.

 

[Jullianna]

Im starting to think that the girls maybe are in their homes in the same city that dothackzero is, wondering if its possible to exist a guy that is into God, anime, programming, computers, and video games

I was thinking that too

 

[CC_Bride]

Definitely not true in the state of North Carolina, USA. The single guys in church outnumber the girls at least 3 to 1. The guy to girl ratio is pretty high outside of the church as well.

I do feel sorry for the ladies in this area, both the saved and unsaved. Single guys here are very aggressive and seldom take no for answer. I could see how it's easy for a Christian girl to stumble seeing as many married women can't seem to resist and walk away from all the attention they get either.

Well North Carolina is a freak of nature but praise the Lord!

Not everyone lives in NC, I would look at the overall stat of men and women in the church in the US. For women in your country, its pretty horrible.

 

[GreenNnice]

Im starting to think that the girls maybe are in their homes in the same city that dothackzero is, wondering if its possible to exist a guy that is into God, anime, programming, computers, and video games

LOL, lizzietheone, quite a way to put it , and, yep, you bet there are girls wondering those questions.

Dothack0, r u listening ?

 

[dothackzero]

And before he is able to, most of the women reject him before getting to know him. And many of his Christian friends refuse to step in as well, and help. However, his non-Christian friends a lot of times try to introduce him to women and it goes easier, because they chat him up. Basically they tell the women about his having Asperger's, and how sometimes it inhibits him to some extent, and what type of guy he is. It level the field for him.

I wish my friends would do something like that for me.

Anyway, I think the main reasons for my shyness might be something like:

Fear of not being Accepted.
Fear of looking Stupid to others.

Then theres's probably a few other problems that aren't helping with people...

I tend to be too serious most of the time.
When I try to be funny, I tend to fail.
I have a hard time being myself around others.(I just tend to be quiet instead trying to be someone else like most people do)
I never know what to say around others.
I tend to slur my speach(espescially when I get excited about something).

 

[violakat]

I wish my friends would do something like that for me.

Anyway, I think the main reasons for my shyness might be something like:

Fear of not being Accepted.
Fear of looking Stupid to others.

Then theres's probably a few other problems that aren't helping with people...

I tend to be too serious most of the time.
When I try to be funny, I tend to fail.
I have a hard time being myself around others.(I just tend to be quiet instead trying to be someone else like most people do)
I never know what to say around others.
I tend to slur my speach(espescially when I get excited about something).

Then Dot, TELL YOUR FRIENDS. No one knows what is going on exactly in your mind, all the little insecurities, and feelings of being overwhelmed, unless you tell them.

 

[CC_Bride]

Personally I'm more worried about understanding God than women

Now, if I was single, I would definitely go on a date with this bloke, because thats the most honest straight minded thing Ive heard in this entire thread. Hes not acting like hes already figured out God like hes some 3D sudoku puzzle. A guy who is focused on God and is running his race only for Jesus is obvious to others, and intelligent women who are running after Jesus as well notice guys like this because theyre both running for the same goal, and if God endorses it they can run together.

My point is, their not running at each other like wind up souless toys acting as if the other is the be all and end all of their happiness, where God is a spectator who is supposed to cheer for them, instead of actually being their goal.