Where is the Line Between Self-Care and Vanity?

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.

zeroturbulence

Senior Member
Aug 2, 2009
24,581
4,269
113
#21
I totally understand what you mean. I personally am insulin resistant and if I don't "diet" then I'll continually gain weight... forever. I cannot process sugar and I'm not diabetic. I don't think it would please God for me to let myself get to a place where I have to be taken care of by others cause I'm too big to do it myself. This is a have to. According to some people who don't know my story... I'm just trying to be vain and not be "body positive " Now if I actively tried to rid myself of my freckles just cause I don't like them... that would be vain :p
I for one love your freckles, Pipp! :)
 
N

ntw1103

Guest
#23
Know ye not that your body is a temple?
This is a verse that has always stood out to me. I think it is very important that we take care of our bodies[temple]. There are two things that I believe need to be addressed. First, appearance and second physical state/health. There is some linkage between the two of course.
So what is Vanity?
1. excessive pride in or admiration of one's own appearance or achievements:
2. the quality of being worthless or futile:
Which definition applies? I would argue that excessive pride, while it can be categorized as pride, is also worthless/futile, meaningless. The book of Ecclesiastes users the word 'vanity' and 'meaningless' a lot. I think when approaching this topic, it is a good idea to take a look at Ecclesiastes. Solomon, explored everything the world had to offer, science, wisdom(he was already the wisest...??) and philosophy, materialism, morals, and everything else "under the sun". While you should definitely read it yourself, The gist of it, is that the only true meaning, the only point, is God. Or as the pencil with an eraser on each end that my grandma gave me said "Life without Jesus is like this pencil, no point to it."
On the matter of appearance, Is there something wrong with dressing up, or caring about your appearance? No, I don't believe so. I think it is important to dress cleanly. I don't not believe caring about style is a bad thing either. The issue is when our focus turns away from Jesus and instead is centered on ourselves and what other people think of us. We should find our identity in Christ.

On the matter of physical health, I believe it is very important that we take care of our bodies. There is the concept of our body being a temple. That alone should be enough encouragement to take care of it. Beyond that, think about some of the things that we are commanded to do in the bible, and consider whether those can be accomplished if we let ourselves turn into couch potatoes, slugging around eating unhealthily.. Yeah, That doesn't seem to fit in my mind.
For myself, I also think about what a hero is. I heard someone once describe a hero as the following: Someone who is in the right place, at the right time, is prepared to take action, and chooses to take action. If I am ever to be put in the position where I would need/be able to choose to take action, I certainly want to be prepared. That being said, the same thing I said about appearance applies here. Our focus should be on Jesus, and growing closer to him. At the point where taking care/improving our physical body interferes with that, it is an issue.
“For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.” - 1 Timothy 4:8
 

Utah

Banned
Dec 1, 2014
9,701
251
0
#24
I drink beer. Its a great combination of self care and vanity. :cool:
 

zeroturbulence

Senior Member
Aug 2, 2009
24,581
4,269
113
#25

Self-care is like this...

DetailingWax.jpg



Vanity is like this...

Modifiye_Honda_Civic_Hatchback.jpg
 
S

skylove7

Guest
#26
Self care is if you look nice when you walk in a room....
Vanity is when you ANNOUNCE you look nice when you walk in a room lol
 

Utah

Banned
Dec 1, 2014
9,701
251
0
#27
Self care is if you look nice when you walk in a room....
Vanity is when you ANNOUNCE you look nice when you walk in a room lol
And stupidity is announcing you look nice when you don't. He he. :p
 
Nov 25, 2014
942
44
0
#28
I do find it interesting that "self care" is defined in a rather limited way. The same way that the world defines it, btw.
 
J

JeniBean

Guest
#30
I have long learned that if I take care of myself, lets say with a weekly massage, monthly facial, etc. That I am caring for myself emotionally and physically. I take care of my skin and I reap the reward as I do not look any where near my age. Is that Vanity? I do not think so, I think its caring for the body God gave me. I mean if I was vain I'd fix the chip tooth I have, however seeing it daily reminds me of how I got it and remembering the person whom gave it to me. I honestly have to say that Zero's picture of the 2 cars summed up the difference perfectly. PLUS...ATTITUDE reflects if you're VAIN or not. For example I have a friend who seriously goes to the plastic surgeon a few times a year. I notice nothing different, she insists these thing sneed to be improved. I guess what ever makes her happy.
 
R

ramx2016

Guest
#31
Both Peter and Paul addressed this issue and said that people (women, particularly) need to focus on adorning the Gospel instead of drawing attention to themselves through personal adornment.

Which means that we have to dress and take care of ourselves in a way that adorns the Gospel. Ergo, we must dress appropriately, which to me means not too fancy or weirdly (because let's face it, a lot of "dressing to suit your special personality" is just another funky brand of vanity), not slovenly, or blah (I have different days where I need to work on all of these).

I don't consider something like getting stains removed from your teeth a "vain" thing, depending on your motives, because it's eliminating a source of insecurity. There are a lot of aesthetic procedures that I think are completely loathsome when done for the wrong reasons, but I think have their place under certain circumstances (for example, if a girl was born with a very unusually large nose - not due to a health problem - and she was teased mercilessly about it in school so much that it just always bothered her afterward, I'm not going to shout her down if she goes and gets it adjusted at some point. I'm just not.)

Makeup? I wouldn't know. I only use a touch of concealer every few months and the occasional color-tinted Carmex.

So far as the day to day... I think that we need to be very careful not to neglect ourselves, and to also be careful not to spend an excessive amount of time fussing over ourselves. We're supposed to be good stewards of our bodies and our time (still working on that one... baby steps. Baby steps...).

I am SOOO happy I found this post....:)


Thank you...:)

A
 
J

JeniBean

Guest
#34
You only have one tooth and its chipped? Fix that thang! :p
Yes Sir I whistle through my one tooth daily!!! :p You can see the chip on my profile pic...well at least I can!!! HAHAHA
 

Utah

Banned
Dec 1, 2014
9,701
251
0
#35
Yes Sir I whistle through my one tooth daily!!! :p You can see the chip on my profile pic...well at least I can!!! HAHAHA
You have beautiful teeth! I was thinking you only had one tooth. :p

There goes that daydream. ;)
 
K

kaylagrl

Guest
#36
Yes Sir I whistle through my one tooth daily!!! :p You can see the chip on my profile pic...well at least I can!!! HAHAHA
We all see our own flaws no matter how small. But you have a sweet spirit,we can tell by your eyes. :)
 
J

JeniBean

Guest
#37
You have beautiful teeth! I was thinking you only had one tooth. :p

There goes that daydream. ;)
I am so sorry to ruin your day dream! Thank you for the compliment kind sir!