Who wants to get married????

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TabinRivCA

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Seems like there are a lot of singles on here who are longing to be married. If you're one of the singles here who would like to meet your 'helpmeet' someday, what is stopping you and how long to you plan on waiting.
For those who want to remain single, unless your too young, what do you enjoy about being single?
It's just a thought I've had since I joined on and see so many singles that seem like they're lonesome for a partner(spouse). I'm expecting a lot of 'I'm waiting for the Lord to send the right one'.
So if this is too personal just skip it. My son just said 'be the voice for the many', I hope he's right, lol.
 

Didymous

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I'm not divorced yet, so I haven't thought about it. Still waiting for the court to send me the hearing date.
 

Subhumanoidal

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I imagine most people, that want to, simply haven't had the chance to marry. If they had met anyone worth marrying and it worked out, they'd be married.
I never wanted a 'helpmeet', but, yes, i long wanted a wife. I met mine, but circumstances disrupted it. So i fully expect i'll die alone.

To be the 'voice of many' wouldn't that require you to be speaking For people, such as Moses did? Not asking questions where people speak for themselves?
 

BruceWayne

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I'm not married, but I'm not single. I think the thing I like most about being single/unmarried is that I can still kind of do my own thing.

There's been times where I've thought about marriage, but at least at this point. it's not something I actively want. I also don't want to get married and later be unhappy or stumble upon someone I would rather be with. I suppose nobody wants that, but maybe when I'm older, I'll feel like I can make that commitment. That's not something I can even wrap my head around right now.
 

Stranger36147

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I like being alone. That's why I don't want anyone in my life. So marriage is out of the question.


Not trying to sound bitter or anything, I just like my solitude. :)
 

Lynx

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Excerpt from a conversation that played out at w*rk... and at home... and at church... and many other places, the same question and my same answer:

"But Isaac, don't you want to get married?"

"No, I don't. I don't know a lady I want to marry, and I don't want to get married just to check it off as one of my life accomplishments. I don't see "single" as something broken that needs to be fixed.

Now if I happen to meet a nice lady, we hit it off, start dating and eventually I realize I can't imagine living without her in my life... then my answer will change. I will at that point officially want to get married. But just getting married for the sake of being married? No thank you."
 

TabinRivCA

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Hello, where are all you gals at? lol (don't be shy, you're not signing anything here)
 

Solemateleft

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Seems like there are a lot of singles on here who are longing to be married. If you're one of the singles here who would like to meet your 'helpmeet' someday, what is stopping you and how long to you plan on waiting.
For those who want to remain single, unless your too young, what do you enjoy about being single?
It's just a thought I've had since I joined on and see so many singles that seem like they're lonesome for a partner(spouse). I'm expecting a lot of 'I'm waiting for the Lord to send the right one'.
So if this is too personal just skip it. My son just said 'be the voice for the many', I hope he's right, lol.
'I DO'... I think...
Technically I'm still separated (almost 2.5 years now) until the inevitable 12 Aug Court date...
As a result of not being single - I anticipate a moral struggle upon becoming single (after 28 years of marriage now) - as it was not by choice and I can not recall a time in my life since childhood that I ever imagined myself growing old alone (by choice). I always believed I'd meet 'the one' spend my life with a life-long companion, life-partner, teammate, and lover - aka marital spouse...

So after the dust settles (after Aug) - I remain faithful in my trust in HIM and HIS master plan and remain committed to strive to find strength in HIM and patience in my belief that HE will ultimately reveal a silver lining... As I pray and remain hopeful in 'waiting for the Lord to send the right one' - in his own time and means...
 

love_comes_softly

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I'd like to get married some day, but I am enjoying life as it is. I definetly don't want to marry the wrong person, so in a sense I am waiting to meet the right person. I haven't met anyone that shares my beliefs and that is around my age in my area. :)
 

tourist

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I'd like to get married some day, but I am enjoying life as it is. I definetly don't want to marry the wrong person, so in a sense I am waiting to meet the right person. I haven't met anyone that shares my beliefs and that is around my age in my area. :)
Perhaps consider expanding your search outside of your area.
 

love_comes_softly

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This topic brings to mind one of my aggravations.

I think one of my biggest aggravations is with married people looking at being single as a negative thing. My end goal in life isn't to be married and it's not going to be something I do to please other people.

It's sad to me how many people in my church, my family, and even strangers say "well one day you will find the one" when I haven't even brought up the conversation. I'd honestly like to respond, "life isn't about getting married", but I wouldn't.
 

cinder

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Hello, where are all you gals at? lol (don't be shy, you're not signing anything here)
I'm siding with Lynx. I'm not to keen on getting stuck with someone for the rest of my life until I know that I've got someone I really want to be stuck with.
 

Hamarr

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Maybe. I go back and forth on it. There are things about marriage that would be nice, but there is also the potential for lots of misery. I’m still in the process of working on some of the core issues that need to be dealt with before I would consider the idea anyway.

I don’t believe in soul mates or expect “the one” to fall into my lap. I know it’s a matter of putting myself out and being open to potential opportunities once I have decided it is something I want or feel more ready for.
 
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learning to love myself and be a gentle parent to myself and reparent the hurt i received as a kid so i can be loving to others..
like the idea of Christs' Great Commandment Love neighbor as I love myself
 

christian74

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It's not an easy question to answer personally.

I am at a point where my desire to get married is diminishing.

Okay, start over.

I guess you could say I was never into getting married because I am supposed to or because everyone else is getting married.
No interest whatsoever because of pressure from family or society - i could careless.
It is one of single most important events in your life - you become one with someone with different background, value, gender, and even sometimes culture - therefore, at least I want to marry someone I'm madly in love with, that's right, you heard me, MADLY in love with. Even with all the downplay on romanticism or what proper Christians ought to do - I want to marry someone I am madly in love with, and I tell my heavenly Dad that's how I would like it to happen (*wink at Him - "Son, did you just wink at me?")

Now, that being said, I am not sure what's stopping me:

1. God: "Son, you ain't ready yet" Me: "Nooo! Objection!"
2. Me: Maybe I'm just not really interested in getting married - I mean, look at me, do I look like someone who is preparing and actively living his life in a manner so he can get married? Not really - it's more like you are waiting for things to happen and may end up in my 80's in deathbed, looking at the ceiling and mutter "So, I am not ready yet Dad?" Perhaps, I've waited little too long based on my own standard or maybe God has something soon and she's right around the corner.

But one thing honestly I can tell you is that I don't think I can ever say that I was 100% content with being single all my life.
My good friend, Lynx, (I hope he considers me as a good friend) is telling you the truth - every word he said.
For me, I don't think I was 100% content being single - perhaps I was mostly content being single but it is that one night when I'm listening to something, some old songs that take me back in time, I feel the need and want to be with the person whom I can be one so I can share the feeling and emotion I feel at the moment - which is precious and very personal to the point where even my own self cannot explain what it is - and want her to feel at least that I'm sharing something that is very important to me and not appreciate but feel and experience that we are 'one' at that moment because she just knows that this guy is revealing to her his innermost part of his being that he is capable of opening up. Not sure if I can get up after we get married for ten years or coming back from work after having a long day and look at her and feel 'Me is one with this gal' instantaneously. However, at least, I want to have moments in our lives where we can and we know we are one (not because we are husband and wife) because of something we experienced together that superseded our human understanding - SO, when I wake up in the morning after being married for 10 years or coming home from having a long day, AND SEE HER, something changes instantaneously - for good and for better - because she is that person that I married and become one 10 years ago. That face, her voice, and just.. her - I feel better already. That is what I want.

That Is What I Want.



PS: Haha.. got little carried away - that's my honest thought on the subject (and sorry if I didn't answer/respond to the topic at hand - and my final answer? I trust Him enough and choose to trust His direction because He loves me, even with all these craziness!)
 

Tinkerbell725

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I remember a D group leader once answered the question, what makes life worth living with 3 M's: Maker, Mission and Mate in that particular order. I am not sure if I agree with the last M but what I know is that a mate is God's gift and would it be better to do your mission of serving your Maker if you have a mate?

What's stopping me from finding my mate? Nothing is stopping me. It is just that God has not introduced him yet.
 

Ruby123

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I would like to meet a friend first and in time that grow leading to marriage. I am not in a hurry. I kind of grew up alone so I am a person who really needs my space. So far I have not met the right person.