Why am I having so much of a problem getting a good Christian girlfriend?

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Tegelik

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Dude, you are definitely not going to end up alone! You have a desire in your heart, so you are not one of those, who are meant to stay single.

I'll be 21 next month, never had a date, never kissed a gal. Sure, I have a desire to meet the right person too, that's why I came to this forum, to seek comfort and help me be patient. I don't have many friends, but I could name at least 3 christian friends, who are also single. I'm not completely sure, but I believe they have never been on a date either.

Just be sure, that finding God > finding gf to you. Please make a decision, that God is more important to you, than your own life. You may think that's giving up your dreams, but that's actually the only way for them to be fulfilled. The bible stresses that decision so much...

So what to you (or anyone else) think of my thoughts?

Btw, metal rocks! :D

Peace out :cool:
 
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dothackzero

dothackzero

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Part of my problem is tha I never give up on finding a girlfriend... Latley it seems like the want for a girlfrend for me is increasing...
 
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Leilaii425

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dothackzero said:
Part of my problem is tha I never give up on finding a girlfriend... Latley it seems like the want for a girlfrend for me is increasing...
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You whine to much, i think thats why you are having a hard time getting a girlfriend. And you seem to obsess about this girlfriend mess.
 
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Viva

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Wow... you sound like an ideal christian boyfriend hehe :) anywho, if you ask me, there's so much out there to learn... life is full of lessons and our God is so good that he wants us to learn them in order to be stronger so we can stand the tough times.. Like for you, you're only 20.. that is so young and you've been praying for a girlfriend since you were 15? I know for sure that you'll get that girl you've been praying for because there is so much power in consistent prayer.. "keep knocking and the door shall be opened for you." However, just like to encourage you to keep your head up.. there's so much of life to explore that maybe God wants you to see that.. I really believe this experience is helping you practice your patience huh?

Here's an encouragement for you:
Waiting For God's Best
Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.

But to His child, the Lord says: "No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled, and content with being loved by Me; with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me to have an intensely personal relationship with Me alone, discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found.

Only then will you be capable of the most perfect relationship that I have planned for you. "I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing… one that you cannot imagine (Proverbs 3:5-6).

I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you. "You just keep watching Me. Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am. Keep listening and learning the things that I tell you. Just waiting-that's all.

"Don't be anxious. Don't worry. Don't look around at all the things others have gotten or that I have given them. Don't look at all the things you think you want. Just keep looking up to Me.

"And then, when I know you are ready, I'll surprise you with a love far wonderful than any you would dream of. You see, I'm working at this moment to have you both ready at the same time. Until you are satisfied exclusively with Me, and the life I've given you, you won't be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me.

"Dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love, I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer you with myself. "Know that I love you utterly. Be satisfied in Me."
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become_the_generation

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"Sometimes we get so caught up looking to master our own plan, that we forget to look for our Master's plan"
 
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Godely

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Baptistrw said:
Yeah the anime and computer geek stuff might chase girls off. And the pervertedness will chase off Christian girls.
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Well Brother it could be that god is giving you a sign to wait for the right person to be sent along! We all have a purpose in life from God and I believe that the lord is going to bless you with the most precious person whom you will well deserve. Hang in there it will be worth the wait, your young and I feel god wants you to get close to him first and all things will be added on. Get in your comfort zone with god and believe and pray that he will send you a girlfriend who is christian like and loves god as well as you do. Take care aand god bless you if you want to write me feel free [email protected] Just remember jesus loves you and keep the faith.:)
 
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Rockstar81

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i know its hard to be patient i ve been single 4 awhile now i never had a good christian woman either, jus all pagan women and light and dark have nothing in common so dont push it with your free will and mess it up. wait upon the lord if its his will you find that one you are lookin 4 . rember when paul said to focus on the prize and the rest will be added on includeing a your future wife all the girls at my church are either too young or old or taken too and i live in florida and i know lots of people but, no women that love God though ,you jus have to be patient in king james verson patience is another word for long suffering its in galatians . i know its nice to have an a girl and company but rember "God is love" keep your chin up and trust and wait on him know that he always has a plan and that may not be what he has planed for know
 
dothackzero

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So do you think girls will start liking me once I become less shy?
 
MahogonySnail

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Yeah dothack when you get to the stage of being able to walk up to some strange woman and plant a big wet one on her face I'd say you've probably overcome your shyness.
Will they like you? Well that will depend upon how good your kissing is. If you want practice, I'd say watermelon is better than pineapple. Pineapple sort of draws your mouth after a while.
 
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Leilaii425

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Just make sure she doesnt have an STD first.
 
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Leilaii425

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I'd say the pineapple is worth it though
 
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paulou

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you sound like your'e like me. i do realize that women like this are not very common,but are out there. i find that doing a compatability match profile is great ,as you only meet like minded girls, women that want the same things in life as you do, future outlooks, personalities,and characteristics,so you only get matched with women who are like yourself.when you go to church is also a great place to meet women like that too,as these kind of women are rare.me being a person like yourself i have found women like me, when doing these compatability match profiles. i have a problem with my posessions that's why i'm staying single,but that's my problem.it would be great to find a woman like yourself to share life with,thoughts and feelings,to be there for each other too.i too find that when i go out i don't fit in 'i mean with the non christian people at say a work christmas party.i wish you all the best of luck in the future to finding that one true love that will have a lifetime of love and happiness.
 
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Leilaii425

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In the wise words of genie from aladdin. BEEE YOURSELF
 
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become_the_generation

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Who cares if you kiss them right? Im 19 and Ive never kissed anybody. I dont have a problem with it but I want to make sure its right with that person. If you never have, they should be happy that you are their first kiss and not care if your good at it or not. It makes it that much more special.
 
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Josh281981

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I would go forward with life man. Girls want to be pursued sure but ultimately they want to be apart of an adventure, not "the adventure." As long as you follow the heart of God and the plan He has for you, the woman He has will present herself and you will know when that time comes. THe perverted stuff is however off putting. Its cool with the guys from time to time but the girls dont respond well to it so lay off the sick jokes. You better check that part of your life anyway dude!!!
 
dothackzero

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Okay, what do you guys think I need to get a girlfriend...
 
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tennisguy2010

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there i s 16 pages pf advice did none seem sufficient?
 
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