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Certainly the growing apostasy and moral decline of Western Civilization are at fault but the root has branches and a really big one is called FEMINISM which has resulted in a large body of anti-male legislation. Men are opting out of marriage at numbers never before seen because the institution of marriage has been socially devalued for them spiritually (even people who choose to sodomize each other legally marry now) and economically (marriage is a serious economic liability for men and a major economic risk with a 50/50 chance of failure). That's why you're increasingly single ladies.
"Pew Research Center analysis found a continued decline in the percentage of married Americans. “The marriage rate of Americans 18 and older hit a bottom of 50.3 percent in 2013 representing at least a 93-year low." By the way, Pew Research even included homosexuals who married in that percentage and it's STILL falling!
The Census Bureau confirmed the Pew Research result stating that "the nation’s marriage rate is the lowest since 1920, and the first-time inclusion of same sex married couples did little to reverse the decline."
Study: For first time, census data on married couples includes same-sex spouses | Pew Research Center
"Pew Research Center analysis found a continued decline in the percentage of married Americans. “The marriage rate of Americans 18 and older hit a bottom of 50.3 percent in 2013 representing at least a 93-year low." By the way, Pew Research even included homosexuals who married in that percentage and it's STILL falling!
The Census Bureau confirmed the Pew Research result stating that "the nation’s marriage rate is the lowest since 1920, and the first-time inclusion of same sex married couples did little to reverse the decline."
Study: For first time, census data on married couples includes same-sex spouses | Pew Research Center
Certainly the growing apostasy and moral decline of Western Civilization are at fault but the root has branches and a really big one is called FEMINISM which has resulted in a large body of anti-male legislation. Men are opting out of marriage at numbers never before seen because the institution of marriage has been socially devalued for them spiritually (even people who choose to sodomize each other legally marry now) and economically (marriage is a serious economic liability for men and a major economic risk with a 50/50 chance of failure). That's why you're increasingly single ladies.
"Pew Research Center analysis found a continued decline in the percentage of married Americans. “The marriage rate of Americans 18 and older hit a bottom of 50.3 percent in 2013 representing at least a 93-year low." By the way, Pew Research even included homosexuals who married in that percentage and it's STILL falling!
The Census Bureau confirmed the Pew Research result stating that "the nation’s marriage rate is the lowest since 1920, and the first-time inclusion of same sex married couples did little to reverse the decline."
Study: For first time, census data on married couples includes same-sex spouses | Pew Research Center
"Pew Research Center analysis found a continued decline in the percentage of married Americans. “The marriage rate of Americans 18 and older hit a bottom of 50.3 percent in 2013 representing at least a 93-year low." By the way, Pew Research even included homosexuals who married in that percentage and it's STILL falling!
The Census Bureau confirmed the Pew Research result stating that "the nation’s marriage rate is the lowest since 1920, and the first-time inclusion of same sex married couples did little to reverse the decline."
Study: For first time, census data on married couples includes same-sex spouses | Pew Research Center
Being a guy who crunches numbers and statistics every day as part of my job, here is some kind advice for you. Please question the veracity of the data before you go throwing it around. It does not make yourself look knowledgeable. Have you thought of the following -
1. Are economic factors playing a major role in the decline of marriage?
2. Drawing from Abraham Maslow's theory of motivation (I accept that it is archaic and redundant), could it be that people are not particular about marriage because their first two needs are not fulfilled?
3. Can you prove that there is a correlation between the rise in feminism and the drop in marriage rates? What is your sample size? What is your confidence interval?
From what you have posted, are you implying that the women on this forum are feminists? If not, why would you write a concluding statement like that? I am sorry, but you don't really come across as being knowledgeable which is what your name suggests. You come across as being arrogant, accusative and thick-headed. Please restrict such accusations and 'knowledge sharing' to the Bible discussion forum.
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1. Not ready.
2. Not ready.
3. etc.
XDD
Legit....
I'm not strong enough in my OWN walk with God. How am I supposed to be a helpmeet to someone else? Just a thirst for God would be nice...
I play too many mind games with myself...so I'm always driving myself nuts...
I have a horrible lifestyle--staying up late and waking up early....and wasting tons of time online, texting, counseling, etc.
I am not mature enough??? (that is debatable guys....xDDDDD)
I have not met the right guy yet--so.....it must be that I'm not ready!
I may be single for life.... and after hearing John Piper's sermon, I think I'm actually going to be OK about that. I might be a bit disheartened...but I know that heaven's gonna be a TON better.
((this sounds weird...but part of the reason why i wanted to get married was because i wanted to have sex at least ONCE before i died....xDD but now i know--heaven's going to be a TON better. We can't even IMAGINE what it'll be like. It's going to be SO AMAZING. SERIOUSLY. Can you even imagine going to Heaven and saying to God, "I don't know....i think sex was pretty good and i miss that about the world"??? Uh....NO. God's got it all under control.... We just need to leave it to him....^o^))
2. Not ready.
3. etc.
XDD
Legit....
I'm not strong enough in my OWN walk with God. How am I supposed to be a helpmeet to someone else? Just a thirst for God would be nice...
I play too many mind games with myself...so I'm always driving myself nuts...
I have a horrible lifestyle--staying up late and waking up early....and wasting tons of time online, texting, counseling, etc.
I am not mature enough??? (that is debatable guys....xDDDDD)
I have not met the right guy yet--so.....it must be that I'm not ready!
I may be single for life....
and after hearing John Piper's sermon, I think I'm actually going to be OK about that. I might be a bit disheartened...but I know that heaven's gonna be a TON better.((this sounds weird...but part of the reason why i wanted to get married was because i wanted to have sex at least ONCE before i died....xDD but now i know--heaven's going to be a TON better. We can't even IMAGINE what it'll be like. It's going to be SO AMAZING. SERIOUSLY. Can you even imagine going to Heaven and saying to God, "I don't know....i think sex was pretty good and i miss that about the world"??? Uh....NO. God's got it all under control....
We just need to leave it to him....^o^))
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I presented data with quotes from Pew Research and the Census Bureau. If you don't like Pew Research and Census Bureau data results and quotations, take it up with them.
And by the way, in addition to my many other accomplishments, I'm also a straight MBA well versed in research and statistics. So stow the pretentiousness. It's obvious from your post that you're nowhere near as intelligent as you fancy yourself to be.
Of course economic factors play a role. What part of "marriage is a serious economic liability for men and a major economic risk with a 50/50 chance of failure" is uneconomic to you, for example?
But far MORE than just economics are in play here. As I stated; moral decline, apostasy, the devaluation of the institution of marriage, the rise of anti-male second and third wave feminist strains that resulted in anti-male legislation, etc... are all material factors.
And NO, I'm not implying that the women on this forum are feminists. YOU introduced THAT to the discussion NOT me (I'll give you a point for having the sense to put a question mark at the end of that statement of YOURS though you ignorantly, in your hypocritical pretentiousness, forgot to include a question mark after the end of your false accusation regarding my moniker which is simply a reference to this age of knowledge we presently live in).
The reason why I include feminism, is because it's relevant to the discussion (even if you are too ignorant to perceive that it is). If you really were properly educated in socio-economics, you would KNOW that feminism is a factor in the decline of marriage.
And I find it ironic that the words you mistakenly chose to describe me fit you to a tee.
So take your own advice "friend" and please do restrict YOUR false accusations and 'knowledge sharing' to the round file which is where it belongs.
As for myself, I reserve the right to say whatever I deem is material to the discussion. You don't get to control what I say son. I do. If you don't like it, then you can choose to put me on ignore or take yourself elsewhere.
And by the way, in addition to my many other accomplishments, I'm also a straight MBA well versed in research and statistics. So stow the pretentiousness. It's obvious from your post that you're nowhere near as intelligent as you fancy yourself to be.
Of course economic factors play a role. What part of "marriage is a serious economic liability for men and a major economic risk with a 50/50 chance of failure" is uneconomic to you, for example?
But far MORE than just economics are in play here. As I stated; moral decline, apostasy, the devaluation of the institution of marriage, the rise of anti-male second and third wave feminist strains that resulted in anti-male legislation, etc... are all material factors.
And NO, I'm not implying that the women on this forum are feminists. YOU introduced THAT to the discussion NOT me (I'll give you a point for having the sense to put a question mark at the end of that statement of YOURS though you ignorantly, in your hypocritical pretentiousness, forgot to include a question mark after the end of your false accusation regarding my moniker which is simply a reference to this age of knowledge we presently live in).
The reason why I include feminism, is because it's relevant to the discussion (even if you are too ignorant to perceive that it is). If you really were properly educated in socio-economics, you would KNOW that feminism is a factor in the decline of marriage.
And I find it ironic that the words you mistakenly chose to describe me fit you to a tee.
So take your own advice "friend" and please do restrict YOUR false accusations and 'knowledge sharing' to the round file which is where it belongs.
As for myself, I reserve the right to say whatever I deem is material to the discussion. You don't get to control what I say son. I do. If you don't like it, then you can choose to put me on ignore or take yourself elsewhere.
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Sorry, he is very knowledgeable in the field because it is a field of study that I have been involved in since the various movements started in the 1960's here in the United States. Those movements were: the Vietnam War, Women's Movement, Civil Rights Movement & Black Power Movement.
I was there for all of those Movements from day one. And yes, the Women Movement's changed the equation of marriage to what it is today. The Women's Movement propelled women into the job market for equal opportunity but virtually destroyed the institution of marriage.
Am I supposed to argue & debate with someone who wasn't around during the Movement or lived in the USA long enough to under why the marriage system is a colossal failure? The answer is no because you don't have the knowledge, expertise or education to make the assessment. I do and so does AgeofAcknowledge
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I was there for all of those Movements from day one. And yes, the Women Movement's changed the equation of marriage to what it is today. The Women's Movement propelled women into the job market for equal opportunity but virtually destroyed the institution of marriage.
Am I supposed to argue & debate with someone who wasn't around during the Movement or lived in the USA long enough to under why the marriage system is a colossal failure? The answer is no because you don't have the knowledge, expertise or education to make the assessment. I do and so does AgeofAcknowledge
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I wouldn't take the poster seriously because I find it appalling for a non American from a Third World country who professes to know more about the American institution of marriage when his or her background doesn't justify it. I had a problem with the poster on a similar topic and had to SMH!!!
There are tens of millions of Americans who don't have a clue as to why the American institution has failed miserably, and yet the poster thinks he or she does.
My advice is just let ignorance be ignorant and move on.
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I am single because I'm a highly opinionated woman who is all for woman rights(after all men and woman were created equally in my bible). Yes, there are stats on what the "world" believes to be reasons for the "single status" and I won't argue with it but I want to just share my view....
Yes, woman have evolved... we have become a lot more independent and less dependent on a man to fill our needs(God should be the only one that we NEED and depend on) but why do men view this as an anti-male movement? The bible says be submissive, not solely dependent on a man for your every need and desire... look at the proverbs 31 woman:
Proverbs 31:10-31King James Version (KJV)
[SUP]10 [/SUP]Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
[SUP]12 [/SUP]She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
[SUP]13 [/SUP]She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
[SUP]14 [/SUP]She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
[SUP]15 [/SUP]She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
[SUP]21 [/SUP]She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
[SUP]22 [/SUP]She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
[SUP]23 [/SUP]Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
[SUP]24 [/SUP]She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
[SUP]26 [/SUP]She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
[SUP]27 [/SUP]She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
[SUP]28 [/SUP]Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
[SUP]29 [/SUP]Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
[SUP]30 [/SUP]Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
[SUP]31 [/SUP]Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Her husband embraced the independence of his wife... maybe if men changed their view on "independent woman" there won't be increasingly single ladies?
Yes, woman have evolved... we have become a lot more independent and less dependent on a man to fill our needs(God should be the only one that we NEED and depend on) but why do men view this as an anti-male movement? The bible says be submissive, not solely dependent on a man for your every need and desire... look at the proverbs 31 woman:
Proverbs 31:10-31King James Version (KJV)
[SUP]10 [/SUP]Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
[SUP]12 [/SUP]She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
[SUP]13 [/SUP]She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
[SUP]14 [/SUP]She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
[SUP]15 [/SUP]She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
[SUP]21 [/SUP]She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
[SUP]22 [/SUP]She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
[SUP]23 [/SUP]Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
[SUP]24 [/SUP]She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
[SUP]26 [/SUP]She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
[SUP]27 [/SUP]She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
[SUP]28 [/SUP]Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
[SUP]29 [/SUP]Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
[SUP]30 [/SUP]Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
[SUP]31 [/SUP]Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Her husband embraced the independence of his wife... maybe if men changed their view on "independent woman" there won't be increasingly single ladies?
I will ignore your remark on the "Third World" country. I choose to interpret that you are referring to the Non-Aligned Movement which happened during the Cold War era.
Your friend, whom you have so vigorously defended, has given an "American" reason for a general question posted by the OP. He has selected a small sample of the world population (which in this case, is the USA), analysed it and given reasons for why he thinks everybody else in the world is single. Your Honour, the world does not revolve around America anymore. We have come a long way from that.
I encourage you to go back and read his first paragraph (which I quoted in my reply). And using the term "Western civilization" does not mean that his answer is specifically for Americans. Furthermore, feminism has brought so many benefits to women. Did you know that women had to fight for equal rights to voting? Did you know that women still fight for equal pay benefits? Did you know that women had to fight to bring about legislative changes to protect their safety & well-being at home and abroad?
I have given my point of view and I have clearly explained why your friend is wrong. I refuse to be drawn into further arguments even if you throw in Biblical verses to support your stand.