Why can't guys and gals just tell someone that they're interested??

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Test_F_i_2_Luv

Test_F_i_2_Luv

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Sonflower said:
But you're missing out on so much fun...flirting is super fun. And flirting isn't just this limbo stage you speak of. (Smug? It's usually not smugness that keeps one in this stage. It's fear of hurt or rejection) One can flirt with their bf or gf or spouse. That's when it's most fun... :)
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I've been flirting with the gf since we first took serious interest in each other & haven't stopped since.

Should we get married and have a family, I'll continue to flirt with her.

I'll want my kids to see two adults expressing fun, innocent, non-sexual(at least from what they can see) love.
 
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Tintin

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Sillychick723 said:
It's way too easy to just tell someone but you run the risk of being rejected. But it's a lot more fun when you beat around the bush sometimes. Especially when women do it. A woman is a riddle wrapped in mystery inside an enigma. Let's see a guy figure that one out. :confused:
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It's a lot of fun to beat around the bush? No, it's not. It's damn annoying. There's nothing that guys find more infuriating. Leave that nonsense for Jane Austen novels. Real life isn't some Mr Darcy dance-off.
 
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Ultimatum77

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Tintin said:
It's a lot of fun to beat around the bush? No, it's not. It's damn annoying. There's nothing that guys find more infuriating. Leave that nonsense for Jane Austen novels. Real life isn't some Mr Darcy dance-off.
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Lol, Tintin you're the man lol Mr. Darcy dance-off good one! But I totally agree though, it's a huge time waste to beat around the bush and mess with a person...it's like being on emotional marionette at the other person's hand...
 
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Come to think of it: Life is short. The Bible makes that pretty clear. And not everyone gets to "three score and ten" years. So people - especially Christians - should be clear about their interest. Prayerfully take it to God. Trust that He always knows whats best and put your best foot forward and communicate your interest. One thing I learnt many years ago was that God wasn't going to catch, cleanup, cook the duck and throw it through my window. I had to take the risk and make myself vulnerable (She may not be remotely interested) always trusting God. And if nothing came of it, I still got God! Trust in the Lord will all your heart and HE will hook you up.
 
SkittlePumpkin

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Test_F_i_2_Luv said:
I've been flirting with the gf since we first took serious interest in each other & haven't stopped since.

Should we get married and have a family, I'll continue to flirt with her.

I'll want my kids to see two adults expressing fun, innocent, non-sexual(at least from what they can see) love.
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Lenardzw said:
Come to think of it: Life is short. The Bible makes that pretty clear. And not everyone gets to "three score and ten" years. So people - especially Christians - should be clear about their interest. Prayerfully take it to God. Trust that He always knows whats best and put your best foot forward and communicate your interest. One thing I learnt many years ago was that God wasn't going to catch, cleanup, cook the duck and throw it through my window. I had to take the risk and make myself vulnerable (She may not be remotely interested) always trusting God. And if nothing came of it, I still got God! Trust in the Lord will all your heart and HE will hook you up.
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Lol comparing food prep to getting a gf/wife good stuff man good stuff! I laughed at the part about cooking the duck and throwing it through the window lol it quacked me up ;)
 
Tinkerbell725

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If a guy is really interested no one should stop him, not even fear of rejection. If you just can't say it, only means you are not interested enough. I wonder why players do it with so much ease. Because they are shameless and they are not really interested and only want to play. Gals get scared to death because of a fragile heart but if she is really interested she would give her trust.
 
EmilyNats

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Tintin said:
It's a lot of fun to beat around the bush? No, it's not. It's damn annoying. There's nothing that guys find more infuriating. Leave that nonsense for Jane Austen novels. Real life isn't some Mr Darcy dance-off.
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O_O Aw,naw. You did NOT just dis' Mr Darcy. You, sir, are a barbarian.
 
EmilyNats

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zeroturbulence said:
Why can't guys and gals just tell someone that they're interested??


What is your reason, or why do you think it's so difficult for people to do??

Also, is there a way to make it easier???


I have my own reasons: Fear of rejection, and... uh.. fear of rejection.. :p


Inquiring minds want to know..:rolleyes:
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"Dude, I've been hitting on you over here for the past three years. Ask me out already!"

Hmm... Somehow that just doesn't seem like it would be right to say....
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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EmilyNats said:
"Dude, I've been hitting on you over here for the past three years. Ask me out already!"

Hmm... Somehow that just doesn't seem like it would be right to say....
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"Hey, I like you, and I was hoping you felt the same." It's a reasonably polite way to put the guy on the spot and you can know by his response whether he might actually ask you out or if he needs to permanently reside in the friend zone.

Some guys like having female friends and have no desire to escalate that friendship to a next level. Some might say it's not true, but it is.
 
EmilyNats

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Yahweh_is_gracious said:
"Hey, I like you, and I was hoping you felt the same." It's a reasonably polite way to put the guy on the spot and you can know by his response whether he might actually ask you out or if he needs to permanently reside in the friend zone.

Some guys like having female friends and have no desire to escalate that friendship to a next level. Some might say it's not true, but it is.
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I'm actually about 85% sure there is a mutual attraction, but I think he's just shy about expressing it. And I actually don't think there is anything wrong with being "just friends" for a while, since we're both still young and have studies going on. So I'm really not complaining. And besides, asking such a question in any form might make things weird every time I go to the pool, since he's one of the lifeguards. So I'll save putting him on the spot for another year or two. ;)
 
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Don't take it so personally if someone says no, just ask and if there not interested, move on
 
Test_F_i_2_Luv

Test_F_i_2_Luv

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Test_F_i_2_Luv said:
I've been flirting with the gf since we first took serious interest in each other & haven't stopped since.

Should we get married and have a family, I'll continue to flirt with her.

I'll want my kids to see two adults expressing fun, innocent, non-sexual(at least from what they can see) love.
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SkittlePumpkin said:
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My text message replies from the gf...often read just like that...plus or minus some of those "w"'s. Haha! ;):eek:
 
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Lenardzw said:
I remember somebody dropping a hint but it was so subtle i needed an instrument to pick it up. In my experience it would appear that guys were more likely to miss the hint altogether, "What a nice lady! She made me this great meatloaf" and some ladies I knew were super sensitive and could pick up hints that the poor guy didnt know he dropped.
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I guess that some people can't take a hint.
 
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