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I think that the fact of not having dates doesnt mean that you will stop your social life or that you will start knitting sweaters in your house. I think that is good to go out with friends or start an activity if you want to know more ppl but i dont think that going out in dates is good because what a date is? a monogamous relationship? a friend with benefits? if you dont like to date someone then you will date another and another and then another person for the rest of your life?
I think that if you go in a date and you dont like it then you maybe will go in another date with a different person but if you go out with a friend then you can get to know each other better and put the basis for a real long term relationship.
I think that if you go in a date and you dont like it then you maybe will go in another date with a different person but if you go out with a friend then you can get to know each other better and put the basis for a real long term relationship.
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Just funning around LizzyTheOne, glad you found it chuckleable
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So that I actually answer the question now, I date for experience, it's like sports, the more times you go out usually the better you get at hitting, you learn to adjust as the ball keeps crossing the plate, or, in lizzytheone's preferred case. , or, KayM , 'the soccer ball crosses the goal.' Or, hey, why not let thst soccer ball cross the plate
Just funning around LizzyTheOne, glad you found it chuckleable
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So that I actually answer the question now, I date for experience, it's like sports, the more times you go out usually the better you get at hitting, you learn to adjust as the ball keeps crossing the plate, or, in lizzytheone's preferred case. , or, KayM , 'the soccer ball crosses the goal.' Or, hey, why not let thst soccer ball cross the plate
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That's an interesting analogy, greenone. So in the end, you turn pro and then get married? Or just get really good at dating? You could be a professional dater for life and never marry, right?
Once again though, it comes down to what does "date" mean to you?
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Of course you do improve your chances of meeting the right person if you meet more people. I'm not denying that. It's not like your doorbell is going to ring and there stands your future mate with a bow on his/her head saying "Here I am!".
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I'll never advocate casual dating.
Just to clarify, the kind of dating I'm talking about is more romantically involved. Holding hands, kissing, acting like you're married and such...really giving yourself away to a person.
If someone's definition of "date" is more along the lines of just hanging out with someone and getting to know them as a person BUT with boundaries... that's a whole other thing.
If you stick to those boundaries, you're less likely to do things you shouldn't, things you'll regret.
I can't remember who came up with this theory, but it was similar to this:
When kids start out casually dating in their teens, early on they don't learn to stay in a relationship. They learn to leave. Things get rough in the relationship and they bolt. Move onto the next one, things get rough, they bolt. This continues on. They eventually end up getting married, things get rough, they bolt.
I find that little theory interesting. Thankfully, it's not always true. It makes me think and wonder though how much of a role that kind of dating has played in where we're currently at here in the USA...as in a ridiculously high divorce rate.
People just don't take marriage seriously in general though...not as serious as God wants us to.
Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't there some statistics that show the divorce rate is much lower in cultures that have arranged marriages? Yeah, that's kind of random I know, but I just had that thought. I guess I had it because of thinking that those people don't date. Hmm.
Once again though, it comes down to what does "date" mean to you?
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Of course you do improve your chances of meeting the right person if you meet more people. I'm not denying that. It's not like your doorbell is going to ring and there stands your future mate with a bow on his/her head saying "Here I am!".
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I'll never advocate casual dating.
Just to clarify, the kind of dating I'm talking about is more romantically involved. Holding hands, kissing, acting like you're married and such...really giving yourself away to a person.
If someone's definition of "date" is more along the lines of just hanging out with someone and getting to know them as a person BUT with boundaries... that's a whole other thing.
If you stick to those boundaries, you're less likely to do things you shouldn't, things you'll regret.
I can't remember who came up with this theory, but it was similar to this:
When kids start out casually dating in their teens, early on they don't learn to stay in a relationship. They learn to leave. Things get rough in the relationship and they bolt. Move onto the next one, things get rough, they bolt. This continues on. They eventually end up getting married, things get rough, they bolt.
I find that little theory interesting. Thankfully, it's not always true. It makes me think and wonder though how much of a role that kind of dating has played in where we're currently at here in the USA...as in a ridiculously high divorce rate.
People just don't take marriage seriously in general though...not as serious as God wants us to.
Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't there some statistics that show the divorce rate is much lower in cultures that have arranged marriages? Yeah, that's kind of random I know, but I just had that thought. I guess I had it because of thinking that those people don't date. Hmm.