Maybe if more Christian men were stepping up to the plate and being spiritual leaders then more Christian ladies would want to marry them ? ( Not bashing any of my good brothers who are spiritual leaders) It's terrifying how man "good Christian men" I've seen get married to good Christian young ladies only to completely change all their standards within 5 years of marriage. I'd have to use both hands and feet to count the couples I've seen it happen to. Don't get me wrong , I've seen ladies do it as well. Why can't people just be open about who they really are before making a lifelong commitment ? One of my good friends married a godly young preacher very much like her dad...she was thrilled...a sweet humble little preachers wife. Now he secretly ( hides it from his church peers) smokes, goes out drinking with the guys while she's at home raising their 5 small kids. (I know this because my dad works with him) I know her well enough to know she's not OK with it...but tough luck right ?