Why do christian woman prefer a non-christian husband?

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The Op is no longer here(banned) no need to respond to his posts now.
 
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Tommy379 said:
Maybe there aint enough Christian men.
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God wouldn't do that to us. And I mean that in either gender. God gives us what we need. And I don't mean that in an "I need a man" sense. Sometimes we need full-time help, and those are the people God gives a mate to. And sometimes we don't need that, so he doesn't give it to us.

I've known more Christian men than I've known Christian women in my lifetime, and yet, God gave me the one dude who could put me in my place. (And oddly enough, he does that by never insisting I have to be in any particular place, so I just want to love him, because he's not demanding. Go figure. lol)
 
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Well done, ladies, and gentleman! My observation of both genders has indicated that impatience is why most folks get married to the wrong person-whether Christian or not.
 
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God wouldn't do that to us. And I mean that in either gender. God gives us what we need. And I don't mean that in an "I need a man" sense. Sometimes we need full-time help, and those are the people God gives a mate to. And sometimes we don't need that, so he doesn't give it to us.
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Literally - He gives us HIMSELF.
No earthly man will compare to the constant, never seasing, unrelenting, patient and understanding love that He gives and nobody can provide better for us than He.

It's israel all over again. WHAT? Judges??? Having God Almighty as our King??? NEVER! We demand a KING.
I am more like the Isrealites than I'd like to know.... :rolleyes:
 
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Heart_Melody said:
Literally - He gives us HIMSELF.
No earthly man will compare to the constant, never seasing, unrelenting, patient and understanding love that He gives and nobody can provide better for us than He.

It's israel all over again. WHAT? Judges??? Having God Almighty as our King??? NEVER! We demand a KING.
I am more like the Isrealites than I'd like to know.... :rolleyes:
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Okay, excuse me if this doesn't work, but I'm going to try my first-time-ever gif.

I am this person.

https://media.tenor.com/images/edc0819a45d8017446008367fdf3ba17/tenor.gif

(In case it doesn't work, it's Kermit T. Frog in full panic mode.)

Have you ever tried talking reasonably to someone in full-on emotions? I, for one, can't hear. I absolutely know the Lord is there telling me stuff, but hard to hear above all my whatifwhatifwhatif banging around my head. And, I'm also the person who goes, "Ooo, look over there. Shiny thing! Ooo, another one over there." And before I know it I'm so far from the path, I don't even know where to look.

So, he gave me the dude who could hold me still enough to hear him.
 
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I'm happy for you and him.
 
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Maybe if more Christian men were stepping up to the plate and being spiritual leaders then more Christian ladies would want to marry them ? ( Not bashing any of my good brothers who are spiritual leaders) It's terrifying how man "good Christian men" I've seen get married to good Christian young ladies only to completely change all their standards within 5 years of marriage. I'd have to use both hands and feet to count the couples I've seen it happen to. Don't get me wrong , I've seen ladies do it as well. Why can't people just be open about who they really are before making a lifelong commitment ? One of my good friends married a godly young preacher very much like her dad...she was thrilled...a sweet humble little preachers wife. Now he secretly ( hides it from his church peers) smokes, goes out drinking with the guys while she's at home raising their 5 small kids. (I know this because my dad works with him) I know her well enough to know she's not OK with it...but tough luck right ?
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I have a hard time feeling sorry for any spouse who continues to put up with that kind of behavior. You say the husband completely changed. While I don't agree with his behavior, how about she gets a back bone and demand an ultimatum? Make him choose either the Godmy family he signed up for, or leave. The kid is going to have issues growing up in a toxic enviornment like that. It's passive and timid behavior from your friend that keeps women in unhealthy relationships.
 
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seoulsearch said:
You just proved my point.

You keep telling us how ugly you are.

I saw the picture you posted, and if it's actually of yourself, you are not a physically ugly person.

But all the bitter, critical, hateful words coming from your heart?

That is the true ugliness that you need to ask God to help you with long before you try to find a date.
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What is physically ugly, though? God creates all things. All things created by God are beautiful. If you call someone physically ugly, you're saying God's creation is ugly. So how can someone be physically ugly if God doesn't create such things?
 
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jsr1221 said:
I have a hard time feeling sorry for any spouse who continues to put up with that kind of behavior. You say the husband completely changed. While I don't agree with his behavior, how about she gets a back bone and demand an ultimatum? Make him choose either the Godmy family he signed up for, or leave. The kid is going to have issues growing up in a toxic enviornment like that. It's passive and timid behavior from your friend that keeps women in unhealthy relationships.
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Sadly she's one of those kinds of ladies that doesn't deal wit the money, she's never had a job, she is very timid....

My sister in law on the other hand did do that... the ultimatum and he decided to leave. So she works and home school's 4 kids. There is no easy answer
 
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jsr1221 said:
What is physically ugly, though? God creates all things. All things created by God are beautiful. If you call someone physically ugly, you're saying God's creation is ugly. So how can someone be physically ugly if God doesn't create such things?
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If you reread my post, you'll see that I actually told the OP that he's NOT physically ugly.

But his attitude was.
 
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Since the OP finally showed his true colors in the past couple of days and is no longer with us.
 
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