Why do men and women hate each other?

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Amanuensis

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Recently I've been thinking I would be financially better off (assuming husband is also working) if I were married. My couple friends are more likely to buy homes and start building equity, and if renting, rent isn't as huge a burden on them. Meanwhile I have to pay for everything on my own. Personally I would not get married for financial reasons (I would definitely have to love the person first), but I can see how financial reasons can be a big motivator especially for someone struggling to live on their own.
Can you cook?
 

SteveEpperson

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Anyhow, I never meant for this thread to become my life history.
Fine, but I think you could use it to help young men understand what you went through, so if they happen to go through something similar, they can gain from your wisdom.

With that said, I would advise against apologizing for sharing this wisdom with others. :)
 

SteveEpperson

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I have been mistreated by men but have no hate for them.
For that reason, I would hope you would impart your wisdom to young women who are going through a similar experience. I believe this deeper level of discipleship is desperately needed within the church family today. Don't you?
 

Lanolin

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Maybe its just familiarity breeds contempt

some people are better off apart because those who are bigger and stronger tend to bully those who are weaker. (usually women)

Not christ-like at all, Jesus always respected women, which was rare for the time when women were not even acknowledged as people but as property.


In the Bible, some of the advice Paul gave was to unmarried women and that it was better for her not to marry, so if for instance a man DOES see a godly woman, then. he shouldnt think 'oh that must mean I marry her' in fact, the wiser thing to do is NOT marry her and the friendship and fellowship will last.

marriage can be a selfish thing that binds you to a person so that person is not free to love the Lord without distraction. A lot of men turn out to be poor husbands, leaving ALL childcare and household chores to wives
some women turn out to be poor wives, swindling their husbands of money which they are meant to be stewards of to provide for their children
 

Lanolin

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Of course you can not always tell when you first meet someone what they will turn out like, and when anyone gets drunk they tend to become abusive and do things they would NEVER do when they are sober.

It takes a few years to get to know somebody. The act of sex doesnt really mean you truly 'know' somebody either. Sure you might know someones body..,but what about their soul?
 

Live4Him3

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So, I spent about 5 hours this afternoon/evening with my ex and our three children. Mostly talking and laughing about old experiences together, and then we all went out for dinner.

I'm NOT mentioning this to suggest that there's even a remote chance of the two of us ever getting back together, but I am mentioning this in relation to this thread's title. In other words, with all of the horror stories that I've shared in the past about my marriage (and it was much worse, but not initially, than anything that I've described here in the past), I can honestly say that I don't "hate" my ex (that's not a new revelation for me), and it seems as if she no longer "hates" me, either.

Anyhow, just wanted to say that people who have had horrible experiences together can still be amicable with each other.
 

Willow

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For that reason, I would hope you would impart your wisdom to young women who are going through a similar experience. I believe this deeper level of discipleship is desperately needed within the church family today. Don't you?
Definitely mutual respect is needed on both sides.
 

Live4Him3

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Fine, but I think you could use it to help young men understand what you went through, so if they happen to go through something similar, they can gain from your wisdom.

With that said, I would advise against apologizing for sharing this wisdom with others. :)
I hear you, and what you've advised is precisely the reason why I have shared some personal testimony here.

That said, there also comes a point in time when you've said enough already for people to consider. If they're interested in knowing more, then they can inquire about the same. My comment was intended more along those lines.

Anyhow, I appreciate your comments, and have a blessed day in the Lord.