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Im not sure what you mean by my avatar? Its in no way a representation of what I think of women, I just am a big fan of bass guitar and animation, and thought it was a neat avatar. And it kinda expresses what Im into. Haha Im a mid 20 year old male who hangs out on nerdy forums, we generally dont use our pictures as avatars online 
I have my pic in my profile picture, Im not a perfect looking man so its safe to assume I dont put too much emphasis into looks
I could have a male playing bass I guess, but seeing I check male as my gender and have a pic of myself I dont think of it as much of a big deal
Im really not too concerned with how women look at all, as long as they shower and groom daily
And I dont think it would be in any way wrong for a woman to remind her husband that we can do better for God. men should feel comfortable taking console with their wives, even if they are expected to lead. If a woman notices her husband is leaning a bit in the wrong direction, Im absolutely sure that He would want her to say something.
I have my pic in my profile picture, Im not a perfect looking man so its safe to assume I dont put too much emphasis into looks I could have a male playing bass I guess, but seeing I check male as my gender and have a pic of myself I dont think of it as much of a big deal
Im really not too concerned with how women look at all, as long as they shower and groom daily
And I dont think it would be in any way wrong for a woman to remind her husband that we can do better for God. men should feel comfortable taking console with their wives, even if they are expected to lead. If a woman notices her husband is leaning a bit in the wrong direction, Im absolutely sure that He would want her to say something.
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You reminded me of it, but no, this post was a long time coming. Believe me if I was retaliating against someone, they'd know it - I'm not subtle, and that isn't really my style for the most part. Side note though, if a dude wrote that, then I'd normally say he has issues. I guess being recently widowed he gets a pass, but he seems to be blaming only one side of a much larger equation.
Let's apply some very simple management concepts to this situation. If you want to measure change, then you come up with a performance metric, and then a project is deemed a success or a failure based upon those metrics.
Men haven't fundamentally changed over the last hundred years or so. For the most part, their performance metric is simple - raw physical attractiveness. Most of them don't look beyond that, but a few go for beauty and then a couple other things (like is she a Christian etc).
For women, the performance metric typically was (and still often is) ability to provide. It also includes ability to protect and defend (with extra emphasis on that often occuring when a woman grows up in a rough environment - there are studies which show this to varying degrees).
These metrics are in direct conflict with others. This is about the only time I'll give the men's movement any credit - it really is a no win situation for a lot of guys. This usually equates to aggression, and a man's ability to confidently display his financial status. The trouble is, there's a 50/50 chance that aggression is going to backfire, and no man is dumb enough to discuss his financial status with a date (or she'll be into him for the wrong reasons).
So you see a lot of women who just seem to opine about where have all the good men gone, when the fact is that even men who might meet all the criteria are at a competitive disadvantage from the start.
Take my opinion for whatever it's worth - it doesn't really matter to me in the end.
Let's apply some very simple management concepts to this situation. If you want to measure change, then you come up with a performance metric, and then a project is deemed a success or a failure based upon those metrics.
Men haven't fundamentally changed over the last hundred years or so. For the most part, their performance metric is simple - raw physical attractiveness. Most of them don't look beyond that, but a few go for beauty and then a couple other things (like is she a Christian etc).
For women, the performance metric typically was (and still often is) ability to provide. It also includes ability to protect and defend (with extra emphasis on that often occuring when a woman grows up in a rough environment - there are studies which show this to varying degrees).
These metrics are in direct conflict with others. This is about the only time I'll give the men's movement any credit - it really is a no win situation for a lot of guys. This usually equates to aggression, and a man's ability to confidently display his financial status. The trouble is, there's a 50/50 chance that aggression is going to backfire, and no man is dumb enough to discuss his financial status with a date (or she'll be into him for the wrong reasons).
So you see a lot of women who just seem to opine about where have all the good men gone, when the fact is that even men who might meet all the criteria are at a competitive disadvantage from the start.
Take my opinion for whatever it's worth - it doesn't really matter to me in the end.
C
True Godliness means putting others before yourself, not wanting to offend or stumble and true Godliness does, in fact, consider the thoughts of those that God put them in fellowship with.. So sorry Mitspa..I may have misunderstood what your said but loving others and honoring others is honoring God.
