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U
Well there's speaking honestly and openly, then there's slamming someone in the head with honesty. Most people, man or woman, won't respond well to the second.
And really no one likes having to hear certain things, not matter how you put it. Which usually when someone is blunt, it's because they are telling the person something they don't want to hear to begin with.
And really no one likes having to hear certain things, not matter how you put it. Which usually when someone is blunt, it's because they are telling the person something they don't want to hear to begin with.
I was quoting JSR's use of the word "blunt". If you read the thread, the discussion was about a woman being blunt about having an interest in a man.
We're not talking about honesty and having grace here, we're talking about revealing a romantic interest. Not that I disagree with your post, but your comment makes it look like I'm saying something I'm not. Context here is kinda everything.
We're not talking about honesty and having grace here, we're talking about revealing a romantic interest. Not that I disagree with your post, but your comment makes it look like I'm saying something I'm not. Context here is kinda everything.
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You're correct, i did not read the previous 25 pages for context. My apologies.
That said, some men will not like bluntness, ever, in the manner you intended. Sometimes because they disagree with it, and sometimes because they have no interest. And since men don't get many chances to deal with being on the receiving end we don't get many chances to learn how to deal with an unwanted advance.
That said, some men will not like bluntness, ever, in the manner you intended. Sometimes because they disagree with it, and sometimes because they have no interest. And since men don't get many chances to deal with being on the receiving end we don't get many chances to learn how to deal with an unwanted advance.
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Blunt/honest/straightforward > mind games/chasing/titillating (hi Catherder)
Even so, discernment is still important here. Yes, honesty is a merit, but not everyone is prudent with what you confide in them. It's naive to hold fast to the belief that being completely and totally open and vulnerable with anyone and everyone is virtuous.
Even so, discernment is still important here. Yes, honesty is a merit, but not everyone is prudent with what you confide in them. It's naive to hold fast to the belief that being completely and totally open and vulnerable with anyone and everyone is virtuous.
There's an angle to "blunt" honesty (the revealing kind, that is) which is uncomfortable for most of us, because it is risky. If a fellow is interested in a gal, or vice-versa, and they choose to reveal that interest, there is a (large) possibility of rejection. Nobody wants to be rejected, so many people forego expressing interest. That is one reason why many of us are still single.
C
Let's face it... it's just hard!!
If you don't really know what the other person is thinking, will you just go there and say "hey, I like you..." and stuff?
I'm very self councious about it... I usually tend to think that the other person is just being polite or friendly... I'm the best at spoting someone interested in na third party, but I never assume someone is interested in me... :/
Maybe that's why I'm single... hehehehe
If you don't really know what the other person is thinking, will you just go there and say "hey, I like you..." and stuff?
I'm very self councious about it... I usually tend to think that the other person is just being polite or friendly... I'm the best at spoting someone interested in na third party, but I never assume someone is interested in me... :/
Maybe that's why I'm single... hehehehe
