Why we still single?

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Liamson

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Because I'm not attracted to most of the women I meet.


And I'm not attractive enough to pursue the one's I am attracted to.
 
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Because that God shape hole I had... I used to filled it up with stuff.... and having a boyfriend was one of them.

Now, I'm just enjoying God in my life....

Feeling content.
 
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ERICA821

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This could take a while....
-I'm on CC too much speaking of beards and baes
-All the perfectly bearded guys are already taken
-I have too many baes and that frightens guys away
-I'm rarely serious
:D
 
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Jay-Dee

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#64
I am currently taking a year off from the whole dating scene. I want to learn as much as I can about my self, my values and build a stable relationship with God so I do not make the mistakes I always make in relationships. Especially the last relationship:eek:, I'm still a little traumatized.
 

Lynx

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One of the best answers yet. I know too many people who deem matrimony a necessity for their lives to be complete and happy. Some people are happy being single and ain't really looking that hard for anyone.
 
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#67
Because I'm too tired, and anyway.. ninjas don't date. :p
 
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#68
I fall in love 3-4 days a week. How am I supposed to get married with that on my resume'?
 
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I fall in love 3-4 days a week. How am I supposed to get married with that on my resume'?
The trick is to fall that often with the same person.
 
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♫ Baby baby fallin in love... I'm fallin in love again... ♫

[video=youtube;uFFPb2QEMIs]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFFPb2QEMIs[/video]
 
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Blufox

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As for guys, at least myself, it seems as if we must formulate and articulate the proposition of declaring interest in a very precise and benign way in order to even hope for a chance at developing a friendship.
So then the man is attempting to pursuit yet it falls on deaf ears or perhaps the woman has a very specific target which negates anything less...
Boy for being a newby I sure bit off a mouthful! :)
Love to hear feedback but please be merciful..
Perhaps you have had really bad experiences - I don't mean to suggest ALL women are easy to approach or talk to - but the idea that someone might not even try to get to know me because they think they have to say exactly the right thing is sad.

It takes only a simple phrase, like "So what did you think of the sermon?" or "Great ball game, hunh?" or anything showing an interest to talk - a common ground - and yes, maybe you'll have to work to get things going, and maybe ultimately it won't go anywhere, but you won't find love if you don't try.

Women are just people, too - we fumble with words, we can be shy or afraid of rejection - but any woman who requires you blow her away with your first line is probably not the right gal anyway, don't you think?

I don't ask men out anymore; I used to start conversations with a man if I thought he was interesting or maybe he was interested in me. But I found that led to poor relationships. My "initiative" gave them the impression that I was very forward, and therefore they presumed I wanted a sexual encounter, or I ended up with someone who wanted me to be the leader, which is an awkward, untenable position for me - I didn't respect them as a man because I was the one "wearing the pants" so to speak.

I think perhaps that's because God intended each man to be the leader of his family (or of a relationship). I don't mean the man has to do everything - it's a partnership - but the scriptures do place the man as the head of the family.

Not to be harsh, Pilgrim, but a man who is too shy or scared or intimidated to ask a woman out for coffee or who thinks he needs to say the perfect thing to start a conversation is probably someone who is needs to seek some support to build self-esteem before being in a relationship.

I hope nothing I have said hurts your feelings or makes you angry. I'm your sister in Christ and I want you, my brother, to be happy and find his true love!
 

melita916

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i'm single because i never can tell when/if a guy likes me. for the real.
 
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jaybird88

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Don't we all feel that way? Maybe not everyone does, but I understand this feeling.
wouldnt it be nice if we could go back to the way we did it in jr high, just have a friend pass em a note.
 

Agricola

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I am single because I do not instantly appeal to women as I do not conform to the standard the media dictates to women. Women say "where aer all the men who love GOd", I say "HERE I AM!!", but they then develop selective deafness and cry "WHy are there no decent Christian men?" I then go off and cry.
 
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skylove7

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Im single because Im just not trying quite yet. Im procrastinating dating in hopes that before I have to dress up for dinners with many wrong men. Sigh...I dunno kinda hoping the right man falls from a cloud lol...who knows. I just wish I could find my true love before I have to start dining with likely a bunch of jerks out there.
Sigh...I suppose Its not going to find me.
Awww man....I dont wanna date around lol
Pfooey lol rollseyes
 
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"...I dunno kinda hoping the right man falls from a cloud lol...who knows..."

He needs to be from the army?