Hey everyone,
I've been contemplating this question for a long time. Will God send you the person He wants you to marry... while they're dating someone else?
As I usually do in threads, I'll give you examples to ponder (true stories of people I've known or heard):
1. A guy I was talking to on CC a long time ago (he's no longer here, at least, under the name I spoke with) who said he'd met THE perfect girl for him... but that she had a boyfriend, and he was "tempted to steal her away from him."
2. A girl who was engaged to her abusive boyfriend. Guy #2 came into her life, decided she was perfect for him, and actively began pursuing her. She left for Guy #2, but their relationship was full of turmoil and did not last. Both she and Guy #2 wound up with other people.
3. A youth pastor who had a girlfriend when he met Girl #2. I'm not sure what the time frame was, but he felt that God put it on his heart to break up with his girlfriend and actively pursue Girl #2. He and Girl #2 later married and had a family.
To tell you the honest truth, I'm a little torn. I never thought God would send you the person He had for you while you were dating someone or while they were dating someone else... I would also never advocate pursuing someone who is seeing someone else because wouldn't this be the sin of covetousness?
But maybe I'm just confused? I've heard many Christians say they became involved with, or even married the wrong person... and later left for someone else, pursued someone else, or were pursued by another person. Exactly where are the boundaries?
Have you ever actively pursued someone who was in a relationship? Have you left a relationship for someone else? Would God tell you that you're with the wrong person and that you need to pursue someone else, who happens to be right there? Does it depend on whether the person or persons are in all-out relationships or just casually dating?
I'm very curious to see what everyone's answers will be.
I've been contemplating this question for a long time. Will God send you the person He wants you to marry... while they're dating someone else?
As I usually do in threads, I'll give you examples to ponder (true stories of people I've known or heard):
1. A guy I was talking to on CC a long time ago (he's no longer here, at least, under the name I spoke with) who said he'd met THE perfect girl for him... but that she had a boyfriend, and he was "tempted to steal her away from him."
2. A girl who was engaged to her abusive boyfriend. Guy #2 came into her life, decided she was perfect for him, and actively began pursuing her. She left for Guy #2, but their relationship was full of turmoil and did not last. Both she and Guy #2 wound up with other people.
3. A youth pastor who had a girlfriend when he met Girl #2. I'm not sure what the time frame was, but he felt that God put it on his heart to break up with his girlfriend and actively pursue Girl #2. He and Girl #2 later married and had a family.
To tell you the honest truth, I'm a little torn. I never thought God would send you the person He had for you while you were dating someone or while they were dating someone else... I would also never advocate pursuing someone who is seeing someone else because wouldn't this be the sin of covetousness?
But maybe I'm just confused? I've heard many Christians say they became involved with, or even married the wrong person... and later left for someone else, pursued someone else, or were pursued by another person. Exactly where are the boundaries?
Have you ever actively pursued someone who was in a relationship? Have you left a relationship for someone else? Would God tell you that you're with the wrong person and that you need to pursue someone else, who happens to be right there? Does it depend on whether the person or persons are in all-out relationships or just casually dating?
I'm very curious to see what everyone's answers will be.