Well, I don't like to generalize because there are women who struggle tremendously with sexual temptation as well. I don't think I would talk in predator-prey terms because that invokes thoughts of sexual assault. Most guys that struggle with sexual sin are not sexually assaulting anyone.
When anyone, whether man or woman, is dealing with sexual addiction, it means they have basically engaged in some sexual activity often enough and for a long enough period of time that it has formed neuropathways in the brain. When a person orgasms, the pleasure center of the brain is activated, and there is a release of chemicals into the body that make that person feel good. If you do that often enough, the brain will say, "Hey, that felt good, let's make that happen some more," and it doesn't take a lot for a person to be triggered. So when I say neuropathways, think of a dirt road and the way two clear trenches begins to develop as cars drive over it again and again. That sort of thing happens in the brain. The "easy route" then is for the person to keep engaging in sexual activity when the brain triggers them to. It is no different than the way that drug or alcohol addiction works. Both trigger the pleasure center of the brain, both release pleasure chemicals into the body, and so on. That is why it is so hard for a person to break addiction by themselves. When they are triggered, they are basically battling against their brain giving them strong urges to do this thing. But the only way to break addiction is to have a sustained period of sobriety, and even then there is always danger of relapse. It takes a great deal of accountability, self-reflection, counseling, etc.
So that's why when I talk about addiction especially, it really is bondage for the person going through it. They are going through a constant cycle of doing something their brain strongly urges them to do, then strongly regretting it, then over time becoming depressed because of their powerlessness over this monster. I hesitate to say that people struggling with addiction are victims because there are steps they can actively take to fight their addiction, but there are certainly things at play in addiction that they cannot control.
So getting back to the article about sexual freedom that you referenced earlier, having urges to engage in sexual activity is not an inherently bad thing. It's great for those who are married as it's one of the best ways for them to achieve intimacy with their spouse. But when people wander down that road and they are not married, it becomes a thing that is very difficult to control that will only cause problems for them. That is why the idea of sexual freedom, regardless of marital status, is such a dangerous idea.
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