Would you? Could you?

[Catlynn]

"My prideful and arrogant disposition (I need God's help with this) would tell me that I am the best person for everybody! "


I have the opposite problem. I can think of a dozen other people who would be FAR better suited for someone. lol

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

If you loved someone and they loved you, but you truly felt that you might not be the best person for them, would you walk away or would you try to make it work?

I am very hard headed, if i reaaally loved this guy i would find a way to make it work. If there were behaviors about myself that were not good for him, i would change them. This is love though, not just liking someone.

 

[Liamson]

I am very hard headed, if i reaaally loved this guy i would find a way to make it work. If there were behaviors about myself that were not good for him, i would change them. This is love though, not just liking someone.

Be careful that you don't wind up with a Codependent relationship with someone who does care about you the way that you do him.

I feel like Who I am is great for someone but, the vast majority of people, not so much. I'm okay with that. If I was a Dolphin I would go looking in trees for a mate because I would never measure up to their standards. And no matter how hard I tried to Understand them, their lives would be foreign to me.

One of my biggest relationship fears is finding someone who is a more ideologically pure version of myself. What if they only see all of the other things I've done that I don't really like but, that I did because I didn't want to be alone or I was trying to fit in.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I am very hard headed, if i reaaally loved this guy i would find a way to make it work. If there were behaviors about myself that were not good for him, i would change them. This is love though, not just liking someone.

I actually read that last part as "not just killing someone." lol

 

[libertygirl]

This is just me, but one of my personal pet peeves is when people say, "Oh, if both people love the Lord and seek Him first above all else in their relationship, (everything is going to work out and they're going to have this wonderful starry-eyed fairytale of a happy ending because God is going to make sure everything is peachy keen!!)"

Well, if two people are committed to Christ that means they have crucified their flesh, and are living selflessly for the other. They've both made the decision to uphold the word of God and walk in His ways. A marriage like this should flourish, not end up broken.

 

[Jullianna]

I was actually talking about a dating relationship, not marriage. I wouldn't give up on a marriage.

 

[seoulsearch]

Well, if two people are committed to Christ that means they have crucified their flesh, and are living selflessly for the other. They've both made the decision to uphold the word of God and walk in His ways. A marriage like this should flourish, not end up broken.

Unfortunately, it doesn't end up that way very often. Not very often at all--one glance at the titles of threads in the Family Forum will give you and idea how often this seems to occur. God's Word is absolute, but the realities of life in a fallen world are, most often, vastly different. I often think many Christians concentrate more on the ideal than on what really happens in life and how to get through it.

I agree with some of the other posters... I can be very hard-headed and prideful... If it were someone I thought I was really crazy head-over-heels in love with, even if I thought someone else would be better for him, I have to admit that my first thought would be, "Whoever he wants or needs, I can make myself (or pray to God that I become) that person."

Which, of course, is probably not the right line of thinking.