Would you tell?

[Tintin]

Yes, I would. Not saying it would be easy, it wouldn't be, but I'd do it. I've done it before back in my early uni days (those were interesting times - haha!). After I told my friend, things were a bit awkward for awhile but we became better friends. She later met another Christian guy and got married. I get along well with both husband and wife and haven't had any feelings for my friend since she said "NO".

 

[Tiasmiles24]

Don't be afraid of rejection. This fear could prevent you from getting the man of your dreams. Pray a little on this, dear.

I will pry about it, thanks

 

[faroukfarouk]

I will pry about it, thanks

I think you may mean 'pray' .

Blessings.

 

[Tiasmiles24]

I think you may mean 'pray' .

Blessings.

Oh gosh *face palm* I should have proof read it but yes thanks for always being there to correct me

 

[secularhermit]

My eyes cannot lie (unless using black glasses)

 

[maxwel]

I don't understand the question.

When you say "more than a friend", you mean like...
"a really good friend"?

 

[IloveyouGod]

As a "Lady" No, I won't clearly say of course. I'd only give the green light for the guy that he can approach me. OR I can mention something along the line with "I like you" that's all. Because I like him to be a man and have the guts to say it to me even if it's not easy, I still wanna know that in his eyes I deserve the risk of him asking me out or telling me that he likes me more than just a friend when I might reject him. Still he'll do it. And I love it when it's done with confidence. It's a lot more attractive to me.

 

[just_monicat]

it's highly unlikely i would ever broach the topic and confess such a detail. i value my friendships greatly, and i'd not want to risk the friendship so and generate some awkward energy between us.

however, if he asked me directly, i would be very honest about my feelings.

 

[faroukfarouk]

it's highly unlikely i would ever broach the topic and confess such a detail.

however, if he asked me directly, i would be very honest about my feelings.

Stereotypically: how do the English communicate with one another, if they are so non-committal and euphemism-driven and politely vague...(Is it a wonder than any of them ever get around to getting married?) I'm being unfair, of course.

 

[just_monicat]

Stereotypically: how do the English communicate with one another, if they are so non-committal and euphemism-driven and politely vague...(Is it a wonder than any of them ever get around to getting married?) I'm being unfair, of course.

hahahhaaa. well, i'm pretty good at reading energy and feelings from a guy. if i was pretty sure he liked me, i would probably change my energy a bit too.

plus, i don't have any dingbat friends. and i'm a lot less complicated that the sphinx

 

[faroukfarouk]

hahahhaaa. well, i'm pretty good at reading energy and feelings from a guy. if i was pretty sure he liked me, i would probably change my energy a bit too.

plus, i don't have any dingbat friends.

This is why, when vibes are discerned between people, the verbal side of communication turns out to be comparatively superfluous.

However, among Christians, the non-verbal side needs to be kept definitely in check, so that nothing unforeseen happens.

 

[Pipp]

If I'm really good friends with the guy it'll eventually come out.

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

it's highly unlikely i would ever broach the topic and confess such a detail. i value my friendships greatly, and i'd not want to risk the friendship so and generate some awkward energy between us.

however, if he asked me directly, i would be very honest about my feelings.

I never understood this awkwardness that's generated between the sexes about this admitting to your "friend" that you are interested in deepening that relationship. I guess in my eyes,if you indeed are truly "friends" then there shouldn't be any awkward energy after he/she "admits" (which is a terrible word to use,as it almost has a negative overtone of keeping a guilty secret) Am I looking at it from a man's perspective,or from someone who is just way too forward with people? Dunno.

 

[just_monicat]

I never understood this awkwardness that's generated between the sexes about this admitting to your "friend" that you are interested in deepening that relationship. I guess in my eyes,if you indeed are truly "friends" then there shouldn't be any awkward energy after he/she "admits" (which is a terrible word to use,as it almost has a negative overtone of keeping a guilty secret) Am I looking at it from a man's perspective,or from someone who is just way too forward with people? Dunno.

i don't have any problem with the honesty part. that's the least of my issues. : )

i think such a confession from a guy to a girl is a lot less of a thing to "confess" assuming they're both single. if you're good friends, you have the basis of real compatibility. if nothing comes from it, you're right about the fact that friends should be able to handle it without things going to a weird place.

however, when it's a girl friend confessing such a thing to a guy, not only are you crossing over/rocking the friendship but you're also putting pressure on the guy to figure how what he wants to do, right? it seems almost the same thing as asking a guy out, and i'm not a fan of that either.

for me, personally (in spite of my incredibly independent and girl-power world) i just am not really a fan of the idea--that dynamic and feeling like i was the one required to start things off. i just don't want to be the guy. i like being the girl.

and to echo what pipp said earlier, don't think those secrets really exist all that much between good friends.

further, my ex and i were friends, and i knew he liked me a lot earlier before anything happened. i hadn't figured out how i felt about him, so i was sort of happy to have that time between my awareness and his "confession", so that i could decide whether i wanted to pursue that relationship when the topic was broached.

it was pretty easy to change my energy around him just a little, perhaps giving him a boost of confidence?

 

[SunnySoul]

My vote was I will consider it forever but not actually say anything

I am apparently the only one hahaha...well I don't know if it's fear of rejection, because if it doesn't go where I want, I haven't lost anything, it stays the same...

I am just super shy when it comes to reveal my feelings so... ( and before I got saved, I couldn't tell it without a drink...)

 

[tourist]

As a "Lady" No, I won't clearly say of course. I'd only give the green light for the guy that he can approach me. OR I can mention something along the line with "I like you" that's all. Because I like him to be a man and have the guts to say it to me even if it's not easy, I still wanna know that in his eyes I deserve the risk of him asking me out or telling me that he likes me more than just a friend when I might reject him. Still he'll do it. And I love it when it's done with confidence. It's a lot more attractive to me.

I agree with you completely.

 

[IloveyouGod]

Thank you.

I should also add that there's a fine line between saying it with confidence and saying it in a rude way. In a way that he's forcing himself. Like I said if the first, it'll be so attractive to me. If the second, then he'll be is a VERY SERIOUS trouble with me!!

I agree with you completely.

 

[wisebeardman]

nope, I won't say a word. wouldn't do any good for me to say anything.

 

[MartyrNdaMaKn]

Sure, why not. I' am always will to share my feelings, because I'm a sensitive guy like that or so, I have been told.

 

[SabbieWabbie]

I have too much of a fairytale ideal going on in my head, mixed with a lot of my old fashioned beliefs, I believe men should tell and woman can reciprocate in a relevant manner.