Amen to that!! The hard thing is, whenever people have criticized me for not being open-minded enough (my single friends with kids told me I was being a snob for not wanting to date a single dad--now of course, maybe it was just the wrong single dad, but from the start, it felt wrong to me... BUT... I kept hearing, "You're being too close-minded... you should give him a chance"--my friends were angry at me for not dating a single dad) or tell me I'm thinking too hard or setting too high of standards... I've wound up miserable.
Some situations are wrong for certain people and we can't change that and have to be honest with ourselves. I've struggled with depression all my life and I've found that I CANNOT be thrown into taking care of children with no holds barred and keep my head above water, toor--this is why I admire other parents so much--because they can do something I can't seem to do.
I agree with being open-minded but part of time and experience is learning from your past mistakes, especially when, if you're like me, YOU KEEP REPEATING THEM.
A person may be the nicest guy/girl in the world, but if they're not responsible, go broke before they even have the money in hand, and have habits that will eventually drag you down (one guy I had a 5-year relationship with WOULD NOT listen to me about anything regarding money. I'm not sure if it was because I was a girl or what... This was a serious problem because we talked about getting married. I found he he had to declare personal bankruptcy before the age of 30--when you're married... the other person's financial life becomes yours, and if they can't get the money from the said person, they will come after you.)
I am SO GLAD God stopped me from marrying him, and I would never again consider a serious relationship with someone who was unwilling to learn and apply wise principles when it comes to managing finances and a household.
Some situations are wrong for certain people and we can't change that and have to be honest with ourselves. I've struggled with depression all my life and I've found that I CANNOT be thrown into taking care of children with no holds barred and keep my head above water, toor--this is why I admire other parents so much--because they can do something I can't seem to do.
I agree with being open-minded but part of time and experience is learning from your past mistakes, especially when, if you're like me, YOU KEEP REPEATING THEM.
A person may be the nicest guy/girl in the world, but if they're not responsible, go broke before they even have the money in hand, and have habits that will eventually drag you down (one guy I had a 5-year relationship with WOULD NOT listen to me about anything regarding money. I'm not sure if it was because I was a girl or what... This was a serious problem because we talked about getting married. I found he he had to declare personal bankruptcy before the age of 30--when you're married... the other person's financial life becomes yours, and if they can't get the money from the said person, they will come after you.)
I am SO GLAD God stopped me from marrying him, and I would never again consider a serious relationship with someone who was unwilling to learn and apply wise principles when it comes to managing finances and a household.