Break up advice

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Ugly

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One thing I find annoying. People hiding behind anonymous rep comments. If you won't say it directly to me then it means nothing to me.
And I treat my gf very well. Feel free to ask her if you doubt it.
 

LightBright

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Mar 18, 2017
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Me and my gf broke up today. Im not really sure how to handle this. We broke up because her dad disapproves of me which is stupid because im not a bad guy. I know im not the most best behaved kid in the world but compared to some of her exs im an angel. I really love her and I dont want to just lose her. I would do anything to get her back and I know she wants me back too. But I dont know if we get back together it would really piss off her dad which might not be a good idea. But I dont know if I can be happy without her.
Gotta admit you aren't sounding very Christian right now sir it seems like you have an idol which might be a sanctification process for you. Second we shoukd always be complete with Christ we don't need anything else yea it should hurt but it shouldn't make you feel THIS bad. And finally you should honor what he said and leave her alone simple it sucks but we as Christians have things to do and God wouldn't want you going against her father regardless of yoir feelings. And once again, sorry to keep pointing things out i cant ignore them though, we should try to be humble and never think of ourselves as better then anyone in any type of way maybe the Lord is trying to get you more mature and sanctified through this? Maybe you should worry more about your Christian walk i know you are trying to do the right thing and you seem pretty sincere i hooe this helps regardless all things work for your good be happy God bless.
 

MattieD

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Ive spoken to her dad and he mainly didn't approve because he'd heard about me getting into a fight but that wasnt a proper physical fight just some guy was bullying my foster brother so i said some things to him. But her dad agreed that if in January we still want to be together and as long as i haven't done anything bad in that time then he'll be okay with that.
 
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Tinuviel

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Ive spoken to her dad and he mainly didn't approve because he'd heard about me getting into a fight but that wasnt a proper physical fight just some guy was bullying my foster brother so i said some things to him. But her dad agreed that if in January we still want to be together and as long as i haven't done anything bad in that time then he'll be okay with that.
I'm glad you talked to her dad. Having a relationship that is not sanctioned by parents is never a good idea...age aside.
 

razor17

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Aug 16, 2017
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Dude, you're 14. Save yourself several years of idiocy and find a good hobby and forget about girls for about 6 years.
Just stop the nonsense of dating at 14. It's stupid. I've been there....I've done that. If I could do it again I'd take my own advice.
Just stop. Her dad is trying to protect his daughter....maybe he hasn't always but now he is. Good for him...good for her. Get over it. And get a hobby that doesn't include a girl.
This is very well said....I agree he should be focused on his schoolwork and save all that dating nonsense for later when he matures a bit....
 

Haileyjade0525

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Hi there! I’m recently going through a break up as well. So I know how it feels... it hurts and it’s going to hurt. It’s been a month and it still hurts. But what I’ve learned so far is that things happen for a reason. You may not see it right now but later on in life you will see why that had to happen. God removes people from our lives for certain reasons and replaces them with someone else. God will send you the one in his timing. Whether it’s this girl or someone else later down the line. But right now you got to pray and keep praying. Things will work out. God has the final say not you, not your parents or her parents. He’s in control and if you just let him, he will lead you to where you need to be. Because he knows best and has your best interest in mind. He like a parent with a child. For example: the child wants to play with a knife. The parent is obviously going to tell the child no and take the knife away. The child is going to react in a way any child would. Cry , scream and throw a tantrum because they don’t know that the knife is dangerous. All they know is that they want it and now they can’t have it. But the parent knows that the knife is dangerous and could do some potential harm to him/her-self. In the same way, that’s how God is with us. So just trust him for now. And pray. I’m new to this site so I don’t really know how to message privately but if you want to talk anymore, I have Snapchat. My username is Haileyjade0525
 

Frontios1996

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I can tell you're upset, I would be too. You may feel grown up, but at 15 your brain hasn't caught up with your body. Don't feel bad about it, it's just how God made you.

First off, you mention that you're not the best behaved kid in the world. Again, you're probably still a decent young man, but you recognise the fact that there are things that you could work on. Look at it from your girlfriends father's point of view. He thinks just as highly of his daughter as you do, and he wants nothing but the best. No one's asking you to be the pope, but make some changes to your behaviour if you really want to be in a relationship with this young woman.

But, even if you become Mr.Wonderful, it doesn't work out, God's got another plan for your love life. You'll be hurting, and it might take a while, but sooner or later you will find the perfect lady for you.

Good luck!