My family are pushing me too hard
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Parents over react, I will give you that. And Honestly, I was there. Ive done exactly that at your age.......I will say this again.
You mom and those in your family want the very best for you. If it seems extreme it's probably because they are afraid.
You're only job in to obey your parents right now and pray. If you want things to get better, then you need to talk to them abide by the "rules" for now. Hang in there.
You mom and those in your family want the very best for you. If it seems extreme it's probably because they are afraid.
You're only job in to obey your parents right now and pray. If you want things to get better, then you need to talk to them abide by the "rules" for now. Hang in there.
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Seems that your mom isn't the only one that doesn't listen.
It's not up to anyone here to give a time frame or even agree with what's going on in your home. You've been given great advice here and you don't want to take it. You always come back with and I BUT. response.
Sounds like youre not willing to listen.
I wish you the best Fran. I continue to pray for you.
It's not up to anyone here to give a time frame or even agree with what's going on in your home. You've been given great advice here and you don't want to take it. You always come back with and I BUT. response.
Sounds like youre not willing to listen.
I wish you the best Fran. I continue to pray for you.
God already knows whether you're truly sorry or not. He knows whether you're sorry that you lied to your mum, OR if you're only sorry that you got caught in that lie. You need to repent your lie to God, if you haven't already, and tell him you'll try to do things right from now on. He knows you will make mistakes, but that's because your human, and we all make mistakes despite our best efforts. You not only lied, but you broke at least one of the Ten Commandments: honor thy mother and father.
You say it's been 3 months already.. I'd say that 3 months punishment is a little extreme, BUT what you did, and what happened to you as a result, was pretty extreme also. So if you were expecting a week or two for grounding or whatever, then that's already gone by. It is our fervent hope that you have learned a big lesson from all this. Which is, that doing what YOU want, despite being told NO by your parents, can and will have big consequences. Actions always have consequences. You need to stop being so rebellious and stubborn about what your parents are doing for you. Believe it or not, they ARE just trying to protect you now. And since your old "friends" willingly and knowingly slipped you a mickey (alcohol in the OJ), then obviously they are bad and dangerous influences, and all the more good riddance to them. Try to bear this period with patience and a different attitude, and you'll get through it much better..
You say it's been 3 months already.. I'd say that 3 months punishment is a little extreme, BUT what you did, and what happened to you as a result, was pretty extreme also. So if you were expecting a week or two for grounding or whatever, then that's already gone by. It is our fervent hope that you have learned a big lesson from all this. Which is, that doing what YOU want, despite being told NO by your parents, can and will have big consequences. Actions always have consequences. You need to stop being so rebellious and stubborn about what your parents are doing for you. Believe it or not, they ARE just trying to protect you now. And since your old "friends" willingly and knowingly slipped you a mickey (alcohol in the OJ), then obviously they are bad and dangerous influences, and all the more good riddance to them. Try to bear this period with patience and a different attitude, and you'll get through it much better..
You don't have to prove God anything. If you're sorry you simply confess it as sin, ask Him to forgive you and then it's gone and you learned from it and won't do it anymore. It doesn't even have much to do with being sorry, but just being naive and not knowing what your mom tried to protect you from. You should ask forgiveness for lying to her. I understand that you lie if a parent is controlling. When my kid lied, I said sorry I was so controlling. Just tell me what you did. I won't get mad.
My parents just let me go out with some Italians on a holiday. The mother of a girl I was with in Italy called my mom: they're going out with these Italian guys. I trust my daughter, she said. Sweet, but very naive. Those guys were not to be trusted. It was a miracle I wasn't really raped.
My parents just let me go out with some Italians on a holiday. The mother of a girl I was with in Italy called my mom: they're going out with these Italian guys. I trust my daughter, she said. Sweet, but very naive. Those guys were not to be trusted. It was a miracle I wasn't really raped.
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Here's an idea in a way you can prove that you are sorry. Ask your parents for advice, anything you aren't sure about and this next part is the key to make this work, follow through with their advice and mention to them how that advice impacted whatever the situation was. By doing this you are showing that you trust them and their decisions. I don't think you trust them and how can they trust you if you can't even trust them? Here's another: Maybe ask if you and your mom could do volunteer work together that way she can see how you are changing and it would give you guys some bonding time cause I'm sure you both could use that. Trust me it will appear that you are maturing into a lovely young lady that your parents always wanted you to be. If I were you I would do both of these things. I remember really damaging the trust of my parents. I was a good kid, never really got into trouble but things do happen and until we take responsibility and be proactive in how to fix it things will stay the same. I promise asking for their wisdom in a situation no matter how small it may seem will improve y'alls relationship. Please listen to Rosesrock, she's a darn good momma who is speaking from a perspective of a parent who wants Gods will for her children. I know it's hard listening to a parent because it's a natural reaction not to, in fact I remember wanting to tell them to shut up and get out of my face but we both know that's not okay and I did have to take responsibility for doing that as well.
Best of luck
Best of luck
I am genuinely sorry, not just for being caught, I promise.
I just had another long talk with my Mum cos I got in trouble again (being disrespectful and moody not BIG trouble, and by that I don't mean I wasn't naughty but just that I did not really mess up as bad as before).
She says the changes in my life are not a punishment, they are my new life, and that I will grow into it. We prayed together which was sort of nice, and had a good talk afterwards. I've asked her for advice and she says she is giving me the path to follow and now I have to learn how to walk on it. Which I am trying to understand.
I still feel bad, I still think some of its unfair, but I am trying I promise.
I just had another long talk with my Mum cos I got in trouble again (being disrespectful and moody not BIG trouble, and by that I don't mean I wasn't naughty but just that I did not really mess up as bad as before).
She says the changes in my life are not a punishment, they are my new life, and that I will grow into it. We prayed together which was sort of nice, and had a good talk afterwards. I've asked her for advice and she says she is giving me the path to follow and now I have to learn how to walk on it. Which I am trying to understand.
I still feel bad, I still think some of its unfair, but I am trying I promise.
It's good that you're genuinely sorry, and it is also good that you and mum talked and got some stuff cleared out. However, being disrespectful to her will get you nowhere at all. She's right, you WILL get used to this new path. It's alot better than the path you were on before. We all have to go through situations we don't like, but we all come through it even stronger for having gone through it.
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Doing what you want isn't a good thing if it goes against what God wants. Even doing what your parents want should not go against what God wants.
I have heard of parents who sell their children into lives of prostitution or slavery, which I think is against God.
Thank God you have been blessed with parents who want good things for you and encourage you to follow God and not see you as a possesion to be exploited and used for their own desires.
I have heard of parents who sell their children into lives of prostitution or slavery, which I think is against God.
Thank God you have been blessed with parents who want good things for you and encourage you to follow God and not see you as a possesion to be exploited and used for their own desires.