School RANT

[BruceWayne]

If they come over to me and start something then obviously I'm gonna fight back but I hope I can avoid it cos it's probably not the smartest thing to get myself into and ik he's a good fighter I mean I'm good but idk if I'm that good and I'd just rather not

You should do everything you can to keep peace if possible and avoid further conflict. ''Turning the other cheek" doesn't mean you shouldn't defend yourself if something were to happen. You always have the right to protect your well-being. Hopefully nothing like that occurs, though. It's unfortunate that kids/teens behave the way they do sometimes, but that's immaturity for ya. I will say a prayer for you and your friend. I hope things get better.

 

[PoetMary]

Okay...as a teacher, I'm going to toss out my advice:

1. It completely sucks that this situation has happened to your friend. Let's try and get it sorted so you don't create a bad situation for yourself.

2. In the United States if a school refuses to address issues of bullying they can be in serious legal trouble. The problem (often) is that unfortunately sometimes adults don't listen well to children. Usually a parent has to get involved to "motivate" the reluctant school faculty to respond appropriately.

It's too late (probably) to address the issues surrounding the bullying your friend received; HOWEVER, if you are being bullied by the same people, please TELL YOUR PARENTS and get them to meet with the headmaster to get it sorted out.

3. Willy is right re: physical confrontation. If the bully comes after you, you are justified (theologically and otherwise) to engage in self-defense. Based on what you've said about the situation, Willy is also right to suggest that you film any and every negative interaction with this kid that you can. Which leads me to...

4. If this kid is bothering you in the halls, or saying things under his breath in class, etc., I have a couple of suggestions. A. Get out your phone and start recording. B. Repeat what he said loudly.

It would look something like this:

Bully in the hall: Oi! You wanker. You know I'm coming after you.
You: Hold on! (gets out phone and starts recording) Can you repeat that? I want to post it on my anti-bullying you-tube site.
The bully will either repeat himself (hey...evil makes you stupid) and then you've got evidence (go you), OR more likely, he'll shut up quickly.

Bully during class: You're such a stupid wanker! You're even weaker than that prat who I got to leave.
You: (in a loud, but not angry voice) WHAT DID YOU SAY? ARE YOU BULLYING ME AGAIN BY CALLING ME A WANKER? YOU KNOW THIS SCHOOL DOESN'T SUPPORT BULLYING.
When/if the teacher gets onto you for "being disruptive," smile and say, "I just wanted to make sure we were all following the policies, Mr. So-and-So. I apologize for being too enthusiastic."

It would only take ONCE of a student shouting out in such a manner for me to get down to the bottom of the situation.

LASTLY...

5. Hang in there! I'm praying for you. It totally does get better!

 

[jsr1221]

Okay...as a teacher, I'm going to toss out my advice:

1. It completely sucks that this situation has happened to your friend. Let's try and get it sorted so you don't create a bad situation for yourself.

2. In the United States if a school refuses to address issues of bullying they can be in serious legal trouble. The problem (often) is that unfortunately sometimes adults don't listen well to children. Usually a parent has to get involved to "motivate" the reluctant school faculty to respond appropriately.

It's too late (probably) to address the issues surrounding the bullying your friend received; HOWEVER, if you are being bullied by the same people, please TELL YOUR PARENTS and get them to meet with the headmaster to get it sorted out.

3. Willy is right re: physical confrontation. If the bully comes after you, you are justified (theologically and otherwise) to engage in self-defense. Based on what you've said about the situation, Willy is also right to suggest that you film any and every negative interaction with this kid that you can. Which leads me to...

4. If this kid is bothering you in the halls, or saying things under his breath in class, etc., I have a couple of suggestions. A. Get out your phone and start recording. B. Repeat what he said loudly.

It would look something like this:

Bully in the hall: Oi! You wanker. You know I'm coming after you.
You: Hold on! (gets out phone and starts recording) Can you repeat that? I want to post it on my anti-bullying you-tube site.
The bully will either repeat himself (hey...evil makes you stupid) and then you've got evidence (go you), OR more likely, he'll shut up quickly.

Bully during class: You're such a stupid wanker! You're even weaker than that prat who I got to leave.
You: (in a loud, but not angry voice) WHAT DID YOU SAY? ARE YOU BULLYING ME AGAIN BY CALLING ME A WANKER? YOU KNOW THIS SCHOOL DOESN'T SUPPORT BULLYING.
When/if the teacher gets onto you for "being disruptive," smile and say, "I just wanted to make sure we were all following the policies, Mr. So-and-So. I apologize for being too enthusiastic."

It would only take ONCE of a student shouting out in such a manner for me to get down to the bottom of the situation.

LASTLY...

5. Hang in there! I'm praying for you. It totally does get better!

What evidence does he have when the bully immediately snatches his phone and throws it to the wall the moment t he takes it out? That's kinda not the smartest idea, telling someone to take out an electronic device to record him, and telling him to say such thing to said bully.

 

[jbk1203]

I'm sorry to hear how things have panned out for you. It's easy to be angry with people like these bullies you talk of. There are a few pieces in the Sermon on the Mount that may help you to find a Christian perspective on your situation. On my blog, there is a sermon series which examines the Sermon on the Mount; you may like to head over to the Sermon on the Mount page and take a look at sermons such as 'Do not be angry' and 'Do not retaliate'. www.tsermon.wordpress.com

I hope things will improve for you when you get back to school. Please do feel free to PM me or contact me on my site at any time.

 

[daisha435]

Everyone can't be nice because everyone does NOT have Christ in their heart. So all love and peace is out the window when you live for and in this world. You have to learn to keep your temper. I understand its hard but the book of proverbs says that fools are quick to quarrel. So just stay strong. Take this time to study the bible and pray for your friends and those that persecute him and you.

 

[daisha435]

Everyone can't be nice because everyone does NOT have Christ in their heart. So all love and peace is out the window when you live for and in this world. You have to learn to keep your temper. I understand its hard but the book of proverbs says that fools are quick to quarrel. So just stay strong. Take this time to study the bible and pray for your friends and those that persecute him and you