Do looks matter?

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mystdancer50

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Art05 said:
I love your response.

But I'm not attractive ... not good for me? haha

"We look exactly how God intended us to look." I'm still struggling with this.
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You're attractive to someone. Trust me. If we all found the same 'type' attractive, there'd be a lot of lonely and single folks out there. :) Thankfully, our tastes are unique and what we find attractive differs from others, so one's 'standard' of attractiveness differs greatly from another's. Rest assured, Art05, that there are some that find you attractive...maybe many...but they haven't said so. :)
 
JimJimmers

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Ugly said:
Good of you to reply with sarcasm to someone offering you help.
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​Yo Dawg, I heard you like sarcasm. So I responded sarcastically to your sarcasm.
 
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AlwaysBlessed

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Genesis 29:17
..but Rachel was beautiful in form and appearance. [SUP]18 [/SUP]Jacob loved Rachel. And he said, “I will serve you seven years for your younger daughter Rachel.”

At the same time
Proverbs 31:
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

So, everything in its time :)
Beauty is a good attribute to notice at, I'd Love for my wife to tell me that I am handsome! :)
 
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Art05

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lynda said:
i didn't ask for help though, it is just to share thoughts. relax.
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Lynda ... I tried to tell everyone on this lousy Chat this very thing, and they all ignored me! Gahh!

lol Well, not all of them, but those few that I feel aren't really saved. But it's okay.
 
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Art I am sure there is a girl out there who will think you are handsome beyond words...
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Aww haha Thank you! :)

I don't believe you, but I really appreciate your effort to make me feel better. You're a sweet girl ;)

But you yourself are very pretty! I'm pretty sure you're already having to beat the boys off with a stick! haha
 
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mystdancer50 said:
You're attractive to someone. Trust me. If we all found the same 'type' attractive, there'd be a lot of lonely and single folks out there. :) Thankfully, our tastes are unique and what we find attractive differs from others, so one's 'standard' of attractiveness differs greatly from another's. Rest assured, Art05, that there are some that find you attractive...maybe many...but they haven't said so. :)
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Oh, I really appreciate your effort to try and make me feel better, but you really didn't have to. I've gotten used to the fact that I'm an unattractive person, and I'm okay with that.

Yes, I'm part of those "lonely and single folks out there", and yes, there are alot of us lol.

But I agree with you, that our tastes differ. But, I've come to realize, there are some things that every woman desires, and I lack alot of those characteristics, whether of my personality or of my physical being.

But it's really okay! I'm unattractive, just like my Lord! ;) The Lord Jesus was not a handsome, attractive man, according to the Scripture. The Bible says,

He hath no form nor comeliness; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.

I personally feel that no woman ever was interested in Jesus, and if Jesus was alive today, no woman would try to 'hit' on him (something me and my Lord share haha).

I love the Spanish translation:

No hay parecer en Él, ni hermosura; le veremos, mas sin atractivo para que le deseemos.

The word we see as beauty in our English is the word attractive in the Spanish!
 
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colalella2891

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You're going to be intimate with the person you end up with, so yes it's still important to be attracted to them. I want to be attracted to my future wife.

There are other qualities that are far more important though. For example, if you end up with a gorgeous guy that treats you like you're nothing, then you'll be miserable. The most important thing is that your spouse loves God.

It's okay to want to be attracted to your spouse, but just be careful. You did say that at the end of your post, so that's good. But also keep in mind how a guy treats you too.

This quote is good too, for the spiritual aspect of it:

"Your husband, whoever he is, will have an unbelievable amount of influence over your sons and daughters in regards to spiritual things. If you want your children to love Jesus deeply, hold out for a man that is Godly.

And let me tell you this: I am well aware that Godly Men are rare.

Lots of neat Christian boys, not a lot of Godly men. But don’t settle, it is better that you be lonely now than for you to be married and become lonely later.

Are you tracking with me? It is better that you be lonely now than for you to get married to a man that will teach your kids everything but the way of Jesus."

Lol I forget who said this, but it fits well here.
 
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maxwel

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I was once listening to a conversation between a very brash young Christian man, and a much older pastor.

The young man said,
"I don't care what a girl looks like, I just pray for a wife that's spiritual."

The older pastor said,
"If you don't care what she looks like, you might as well pray for one that's spiritual and cute."

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Lol, sister! Looks do matter how else would Adam felt for Eve, Isaac for Rachel, Boaz for Ruth. i'm sure w/ Adam especially if Eve look like one of th animals he just name, he would had paid no mind to her or been tempted to eat th fruit w/ her. Looks matter to everyone, but as Christians we don't determine our mates solely by looks, but by their nearness to God and of course personal preference for personality. I say looks don't mattr phrase solely because if a guy fits th other 2 their looks fade ( and literally looks fade anyway), but then again if someone's a stranger what will attract me to talk to them (relationship wise) is looks...

Conclusion, looks have mattered since human beginning, but personality and especially closeness to God matter far more!
 
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Lol. I know how u feel and it's not bad being single, look at Paul... Well mayb not th best example, well there's Jeremiah... oh, mayb not him eithr,haha. Just teasing, what unique about Paul and Jeremiah isn't their singleness or their struggle, but there closeness to God! That's what makes me content being single is knowing I'm a lot closer to Him than those in relationships.


And it very true that everyone has a type... Lik me for example: I lik guys that are super tall lik below 5'7 isn't even an option, and 5'7 is short to me (i'm 5'6, so not literally). Also I lik guys with small eyes (when they smile their eye are nearly shut or are shut, example is Matthew on th voice this yr), which absolutely no one understands and everyone thinks i'm eithr stupid or crazy! Also a strong jaw structure and high cheek bones. most of my friends think my type isn't very attractive, but that's them.

Summation, being single is pretty awesome and everyone has a type and u very well could be someone's perfect type! Personally u sound lik a very cool person and cool people always find someone ;) Personality and spirituality can go a long way with us Christian ladies! Lol, God bless brother :)
 
lynda

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thanks for posting guys! i love reading your thoughts! (mainly because they are aligned to my own)

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Theodore

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I have been called so many things before, especially on this site. One of the many things has been the phrase 'you are so superficial' or anything synonymous with that: materialistic, vain etc. If this happens again I'll probably snap, usually I just ignore it and laugh it off, because I don't care too much about what people think. But I wanted to open the forums, even though I know it has been discussed before (I just cant be bothered to look through all the threads).

This is a little portion of my ideals/checklist:
I prefer that a guy is well groomed and looks after himself physically.. (and all the other "ally's")
I must be attracted to him (physically)
He needs to be able to be responsible and educated in order to care and look after me.

I would hope that whoever my husband is also is seeking those same things in me as well.
And I am being very honest here - I know this is not right, so I am working on it, and I know that plenty of you do the same - I often find that I make more effort to talk to and make friends with people who I think are 'pretty' or 'attractive'. Maybe I just think all my friends are aesthetically pleasant, but I do find that I will be more inclined to talk to a attractive person than I would a not-so attractive person. I am working on this, so don't bite my head off because of that - I know it's wrong, but maybe this happens to you too?

I wanted to open this opportunity for you guys to tell me what you think about looks and physical appearances. I don't want people to just say the right things "I don't care about looks" cause that’s a load of rubbish. If you are going to say that, don't reply to this thread because I know that argument. I know about "looks are fleeting" and "God looks at the heart", I am well versed when if comes to the scriptures concerning this stuff.

Generally, I think that looks do matter. However, there are a lot of things that matter more, i.e. spiritually secure and solid in their walk.
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I know what you mean..... It is only natural as a follower of God you will not eat more than you need when others are hungry, bathe yourself to keep clean, through scripture become very knowledgable. However, everyone is put in their own situations that God has given to them for a reason and we are to respect it.
 
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looks matter in any form of social interactions and having standards is nothing to be ashamed about.
 
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Yes, have to have a healthy body weight and be in shape so they don't crush me.
 
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God has created everyone beautiful in there own way

Look at nature all sorts of flowers yet one can say it just beautiful

At the end of the day every dog has his bone

For me it how you as an individual view beauty .

God has not made anything ugly

but man ways has made them ugly

Another man rubbish is another mans treasure

What someone will see as ugly or rubbish another man see that as treasure and vise versa
 
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​how beautiful God must be! All of us in His image
 
lynda

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=] love reading all your thoughts!!
 
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Art05 said:
Aww haha Thank you! :)

I don't believe you, but I really appreciate your effort to make me feel better. You're a sweet girl ;)

But you yourself are very pretty! I'm pretty sure you're already having to beat the boys off with a stick! haha
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Haha Lol, I don't disagree but I wouldn't say that. :p
 
BruceWayne

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I pretty much agree, looks do matter. I don't think anyone's going to want to be with someone they aren't attracted to. It's only an issue when that's the only aspect that's considered. But, yeah I'd say looks are always going to be relevant when it comes to relationships. With friends, for myself anyway.. it's of much less importance. I'm more interested in their character than their looks :)
 
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