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I think he said it was better to marry than to burn but he wished we could be like him. He did not marry but kept his body under subjection. He prayed and his focus was on doing the will of God. He was able to do this because of his close walk with God. I will look for the scripture and get back to you.
I disagree, it is not a need, but a desire. It is entirely possible to live a healthy life without it.
In terms of single Christians 'controlling' it, I suggest they take a look at reality and see that having sex is not the end of the world. There is much more to life then this. Just like any other unwelcome thoughts that enter the mind, it is best not to dwell on it, for the more you do so will result in the bigger desire to do so.
In terms of single Christians 'controlling' it, I suggest they take a look at reality and see that having sex is not the end of the world. There is much more to life then this. Just like any other unwelcome thoughts that enter the mind, it is best not to dwell on it, for the more you do so will result in the bigger desire to do so.
B
Ok Brothers and sisters let us hit this right in the heart! To the flesh, sex is a very important need!! The pressures of the day,build in our flesh,and sex itself has always been a great release.The problem though is that it is only a release for a short time!
Before the Lord came into my life I worshiped it!! I would have it no less then 3 times a day, I loved it that much! Now why! Because I think most of you really wish to know the truth about this subject! The mind of us all has great needs,it stores much inside that little head of ours,and when the mind gets full,which can happen most more frequent then even we can imagine,sex is the release of tension,and has how, be it for a short time satisfaction! The idea of having sex so much is to both learn from it,and become very good at it,not just for you but your partner as well!
In fact sex is so important to the flesh that even most believers live together with there mate before marriage even becomes a thought! You want to play house first,before you become the house!! hehe Some believe sex is no big deal,I sure do not believe that! And after 30 days of daily having it, you and your partner get into sink and the bedroom now become a wonderful playground of both satisfaction and pride!
Each looks, to out do the other,at least this should be the goal! It was for me.Now for the bad news. The problem is not in having it,the problem lies in the consequences after having it! Before Jesus I measured the time we both had away from the bedroom,many fights and arguments,some of them, an excuse just to makeup and go into the playroom,but some last. And the ones that last take there toll on both parties! The few hours you have in the playroom does not make up for the misery apart from the playroom.
And now the time you used to look to spend in the playroom the mind knows after this has been finished,you both go right back to where you started before the playroom. Then sexual performance goes down,because now your mind is thinking upon more of the after then on the during.
And soon the fun you used to have in the bedroom does not seem as much fun as it did before. Does not matter who's fault it is either! The point is you both are now where you started before you met each other,even with each other! Hence the worlds love!
After Jesus came into my life, for some time i still had sex,i really did not know the Lord would care myself! One day a brother in the church showed me something,to help me,he did not judge me! Look close at this please.( 1 cor 6:17!!!!) then read verses 18-20! Every time I was having sex outside of marriage I was joining the Lord in it!!Oh dear!! So i wondered why even becoming a believer I was still having so much trouble in both my mind and body! Because brothers and sisters i was still thinking like the world does!
It took STRONG!!!! Discipline for me brothers and sisters!! Now I have to stop what I was so good at! I spent thousands of dollars to be able to preform like some sex star,and now I have to quit!! But Lord!! It really is all I am good at!! As I sat in my prayer closet crying, and yes I did cry at this point in my life,because my love for this was so great,Holy Spirit said so softly " COME!! I will will you a fisher of men!" I will heal your mind and heart,i will make you new again if you will just follow after me at all times!( 1 cor 9:23-27!!!)
Lord no one told me the cost to follow!! They told me believing you was free!! Now i find out that believing is also doing??Not just hearing??( james 1:22) I am going to need a lot of help then Lord!! And then brothers and sister through much pain and suffering,Jesus began to complete me in him,he still has some work to do i admit!! hehe But I understand what a believer truly is,and how we in Christ Jesus can follow him!
We HAVE TO depend upon him in every area of our life!( proverbs 3:6) In all of your ways acknowledge him( meaning be aware of Jesus with you at all times!!) in thought,word and deed! By doing this!! he will will our paths straight!! And never ever believe you are wise in your own eyes!verse 7 The fear of the Lord is not a fear, but rather a great and wonderful LOVE of our Jesus!! At least that is what it turns to as we become faithful in the little things!( luke 16:10) It is not easy being us brothers and sisters i know this!But in Christ Jesus it does become VERY!! rewarding!! Hope this has helped many of you!! Blessing all!
Before the Lord came into my life I worshiped it!! I would have it no less then 3 times a day, I loved it that much! Now why! Because I think most of you really wish to know the truth about this subject! The mind of us all has great needs,it stores much inside that little head of ours,and when the mind gets full,which can happen most more frequent then even we can imagine,sex is the release of tension,and has how, be it for a short time satisfaction! The idea of having sex so much is to both learn from it,and become very good at it,not just for you but your partner as well!
In fact sex is so important to the flesh that even most believers live together with there mate before marriage even becomes a thought! You want to play house first,before you become the house!! hehe Some believe sex is no big deal,I sure do not believe that! And after 30 days of daily having it, you and your partner get into sink and the bedroom now become a wonderful playground of both satisfaction and pride!
Each looks, to out do the other,at least this should be the goal! It was for me.Now for the bad news. The problem is not in having it,the problem lies in the consequences after having it! Before Jesus I measured the time we both had away from the bedroom,many fights and arguments,some of them, an excuse just to makeup and go into the playroom,but some last. And the ones that last take there toll on both parties! The few hours you have in the playroom does not make up for the misery apart from the playroom.
And now the time you used to look to spend in the playroom the mind knows after this has been finished,you both go right back to where you started before the playroom. Then sexual performance goes down,because now your mind is thinking upon more of the after then on the during.
And soon the fun you used to have in the bedroom does not seem as much fun as it did before. Does not matter who's fault it is either! The point is you both are now where you started before you met each other,even with each other! Hence the worlds love!
After Jesus came into my life, for some time i still had sex,i really did not know the Lord would care myself! One day a brother in the church showed me something,to help me,he did not judge me! Look close at this please.( 1 cor 6:17!!!!) then read verses 18-20! Every time I was having sex outside of marriage I was joining the Lord in it!!Oh dear!! So i wondered why even becoming a believer I was still having so much trouble in both my mind and body! Because brothers and sisters i was still thinking like the world does!
It took STRONG!!!! Discipline for me brothers and sisters!! Now I have to stop what I was so good at! I spent thousands of dollars to be able to preform like some sex star,and now I have to quit!! But Lord!! It really is all I am good at!! As I sat in my prayer closet crying, and yes I did cry at this point in my life,because my love for this was so great,Holy Spirit said so softly " COME!! I will will you a fisher of men!" I will heal your mind and heart,i will make you new again if you will just follow after me at all times!( 1 cor 9:23-27!!!)
Lord no one told me the cost to follow!! They told me believing you was free!! Now i find out that believing is also doing??Not just hearing??( james 1:22) I am going to need a lot of help then Lord!! And then brothers and sister through much pain and suffering,Jesus began to complete me in him,he still has some work to do i admit!! hehe But I understand what a believer truly is,and how we in Christ Jesus can follow him!
We HAVE TO depend upon him in every area of our life!( proverbs 3:6) In all of your ways acknowledge him( meaning be aware of Jesus with you at all times!!) in thought,word and deed! By doing this!! he will will our paths straight!! And never ever believe you are wise in your own eyes!verse 7 The fear of the Lord is not a fear, but rather a great and wonderful LOVE of our Jesus!! At least that is what it turns to as we become faithful in the little things!( luke 16:10) It is not easy being us brothers and sisters i know this!But in Christ Jesus it does become VERY!! rewarding!! Hope this has helped many of you!! Blessing all!
T
I would like to point out (don't know if anyone already has) that before Adam and Eve were banished from the garden of Eden, they were still created with the perfectly functioning anatomy for it, and as reproduction wasn't really much of a need (considering the everlasting life granted by Gods perfection), Sex was there for another purpose, and God obviously designed it to feel good for a reason!
What I do believe is the issue is Sex outside of a Committed Relationship (Heavily committed, engaged, preferably Married). It is becoming commonplace for casual sex to become the norm, let alone actually being in a relationship in the first place! In that senses, I believe that Maslow is wrong about Sex being a need. However, he does have a point.
Now we are living in an imperfect world, sex has become a reproductive element. Admittedly, as society has advanced, it has changed purpose, but the underlying primary function has changed to reproduction now, as to whatever the primary purpose was when Adam and Eve were in the Garden of Eden. Likewise, I highly doubt sex will be used for reproduction when in heaven (assuming people will still wish to do so and that True Heaven actually allows that).
What Maslow can be inferred at getting at was that there is a certain need for Physicality, not necessarily just sex. A bit of human contact or skinship without sex is perfectly natural (in my opinion) due to the emotional bond it builds, and said human contact can be determined as a need for building emotional bonds. It just so happens that sex is a key example of that, and I feel that's where Maslow is placing it.
As for sex being an actual need? No, that's not it at all. What we need is the emotional connections that are strengthened and forged through human contact. The lust that is a driver for that should be ignored (unless you're married/committed, and your partner is happy with that - in which case, go for it).
However, in today's society, I would much rather people go and masturbate than go and have illicit sexual relations. In some sense, venting lust in that manner is a much better way of controlling it.
What I do believe is the issue is Sex outside of a Committed Relationship (Heavily committed, engaged, preferably Married). It is becoming commonplace for casual sex to become the norm, let alone actually being in a relationship in the first place! In that senses, I believe that Maslow is wrong about Sex being a need. However, he does have a point.
Now we are living in an imperfect world, sex has become a reproductive element. Admittedly, as society has advanced, it has changed purpose, but the underlying primary function has changed to reproduction now, as to whatever the primary purpose was when Adam and Eve were in the Garden of Eden. Likewise, I highly doubt sex will be used for reproduction when in heaven (assuming people will still wish to do so and that True Heaven actually allows that).
What Maslow can be inferred at getting at was that there is a certain need for Physicality, not necessarily just sex. A bit of human contact or skinship without sex is perfectly natural (in my opinion) due to the emotional bond it builds, and said human contact can be determined as a need for building emotional bonds. It just so happens that sex is a key example of that, and I feel that's where Maslow is placing it.
As for sex being an actual need? No, that's not it at all. What we need is the emotional connections that are strengthened and forged through human contact. The lust that is a driver for that should be ignored (unless you're married/committed, and your partner is happy with that - in which case, go for it).
However, in today's society, I would much rather people go and masturbate than go and have illicit sexual relations. In some sense, venting lust in that manner is a much better way of controlling it.
M
Agreed. Based on the Freudian influences on psychology one can get something of a scewered view of needs vs. wants. HOWEVER, though there are exceptions to every rule one cannot deny that the desire for sex is a basic human instinct. How many times have you men been standing innocently and got horny out of nowhere. It's called hormones... a physical aspect of the human body that God created us with for a purpose... but that quite often gets out of sync with situation or propriety. Do I personally believe that sexual expression is a basic human need as Maslow's Hierarchy paints it... something required to maintain homeostasis? With few exceptions, yes.
C
I don't think it is a need, but the worldly view is commonly yes. I often hear people stating that they need to test drive sex before getting married to someone, or people need to gain experience. They state this without shame and as though it it were fact. This is part of the reason that it is important to me to find a Christian partner to date and marry. If he is obedient he will abstain with me. I'm not sure many non-Christian men would be O.K dating a 36 year old without sex and sadly I think that many Christian men would not be O.K with that either.
I'm 36 and I wish I had kept my virginity. Sex is pleasurable, but knowing what I know now I gladly would have kept my virginity, none of it was so mind-blowing or worth it that I wouldn't reclaim my virginity if I could.
I'm 36 and I wish I had kept my virginity. Sex is pleasurable, but knowing what I know now I gladly would have kept my virginity, none of it was so mind-blowing or worth it that I wouldn't reclaim my virginity if I could.