Gay marriage

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tif

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Here we go:



This phrase presumes that ministers need additional laws to be passed so that they cannot be forced to perform same-sex ceremonies. In fact, they're already covered. (As an aside: I don't personally know anyone who wants his wedding presided over by someone who takes issue with its validity. I suspect someone might do it to make a court case out of it, but the minister again is already covered.)
You're misunderstanding my intent. Enacting a law specifically saying, "Gay unions = equal rights, no minister can be forced to perform them," takes care of the meat and potatoes of this entire fight. The pro-gay-rights people say that what they want is equal rights. The anti-gay-rights people say they're scared that ministers will be forced to perform ceremonies some day. Enacting a law that covers both sides of the coin ends that whole dispute.

Non-issue? No laws on the books currently to force ministers to perform these? Well, just do it as a token gesture, then! It wouldn't change anything, as you mentioned, but it would stop the massive "We don't want to be forced to perform these ceremonies" push.
 
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tif

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We cant help who we love.
I'm just going to go ahead and call BS on this. (Nothing against you, Chelsea, but this is something a lot of people say, it isn't true, and it's a huge pet peeve.)

Everyone says they can't help who they love, but thing is, you really can. The bible doesn't say not to look lustfully at your neighbor's wife unless you just can't look away because, hey, you can't help who you love. No. It says not to look lustfully, period.

As Christians, we're told to do certain things that seem to be against human nature. This is one of them. And, you know, it might not be an on-off switch sort of thing, but with prayer and your focus on the right thing (ie, God's plan and will for your life), you most certainly don't have to fall in love with a person because "we can't help who we love."

That one line is the last resort for a LOT of people who commit adultery.
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On subject again....

That was actually the one I was hoping you would hit on.

"If all the laws were rewritten so that only civil unions were recognized and marriage or commitment ceremonies, etc. became the business solely of non-governmental organizations, then that might work. A lot of people, including Christians, have called for that - why, after all, is government recognizing the validity of a religious sacrament? We see little reason for government to have any say whatsoever in religious practice. If we allow it to keep dabbling in religious rites, what happens when it does it in a way we don't like?"

This is by far the best sollution I've heard.​

Hear hear!
 
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jimmydiggs

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That's not true, though, and I'm certain you don't actually live like that. Desires matter more on a daily basis than your supposedly objective morality.
I think maybe you are confused in how I was referring to "matters"... Which is okay, given that it can be used for multiple meanings, let's just not turn that into equivocation...

Desires may determine how we act, I.E, my desire for lust may be stronger than my desire to love God, and not live in rebellion to God. These desires however, don't make anything moral or immoral by simply being a desire, as this would be subjective and ultimately illusory. To bring this back to the subject of the thread, one persons desire to see homosexual couples get legally married, is no more important or right, than say Uganda's desire to lynch homosexuals.



Interestingly, I find that a lot of Christian morality corresponds directly to what a lot of people desire and I don't think this is coincidental.
Well, if we were created by God to be moral creatures, you might just expect said moral creatures to desire that which is morally good.

Romans 2:14-15 (New International Version)
14 (Indeed, when Gentiles, who do not have the law, do by nature things required by the law, they are a law for themselves, even though they do not have the law. 15 They show that the requirements of the law are written on their hearts, their consciences also bearing witness, and their thoughts sometimes accusing them and at other times even defending them.)


Interestingly enough, if a person is in a state of rebellion against God, we might actually not be surprised to find that they object to said Moral Law.

I find it odd though that you say you find Christian morality corresponds directly to what a lot of people desire. Have you not seen the gratuitous amount of people protesting in rebellion against God, various things in the bible when it comes to morality? Homosexuality, lust, fornication, adultery, pride.... I don't know of anything that is apart of Christian morality, that people somewhere don't object to...

There's nothing in it that couldn't be derived from human preference (and in fact I think it was).
Are you serious? You really think human beings decided that it was wrong to do all the things we love to do?

On the same subject, the CC user Credo stated...
Credo_Ut_Intelligam said:
How did the covenant curses make it into the book, since most of the society broke the covenant and came under the curse? If they were just making it up the way they wanted, why did they make up stipulations they couldn't and didn't keep? Why make a moral standard so high that your own good works are judged to be "filthy rags" (Isa. 64:6)? Why make a standard so high that "the intention of man’s heart is evil from his youth" (Gen. 8:21) and that "there is no one who does not sin" (1 Kings 8:46)?
I don't understand how anyone can think that biblical morality, is something people made up.... As if we humans run around constantly lamenting about how we do the things we love to do!

What happens when humans create "moral codes"? It generally ends up something like...
1 Rules 2:35 said:
Do as thou wilt. Do that which maketh thee happy, delightful, merry, and what generally makes you feel good.

If you want, I suppose you could argue....
The Lamest Ad Hoc Explaination Everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr said:
There were some people long long ago, in a mountain cave far far away, situation just a hop and a skip away from Jerusalem... These young men, had been IRL trolling for many many years, mostly just egging peoples camels... It totally made the nomadic herders angry. Have you ever tried to clean sun cooked Raptor egg out of a camels hair? It's pretty tough. So they decided they wanted all the glory to themselves, and so that they would be remembered through the annals of history as the greatest trolls who ever lived. So they sent their buddy Moses up the mountain to carve some tablets, and he made everyyyyyone a bunch of rules, like don't fornicate, be humble, don't lust over your neighbors wife, and definately don't play Medicine Man with the cheifs wife, which everyone loved to do. They knew if they could get everyone to stop what they loved to do, they'd be so frustrated with this idea they called sin, and it would keep them so occupied that they would never begin to ask any critical questions. The Space-Trolls laughed and giggled for millions of years, from the port side window of their space craft. Unfortunately for their buddy Moses, he get left on earth, but atleast he got to ride a Tricerotops over at Mount Moriah, and shoot lazer beams out of his eyes..
Obviously the spelling errors demonstrates that this was not meant to be inspired by Zenu.

Please, just please do like Archaya S... "Lack of Evidence for Conspiracy Theory= Evidence of a Cover Up"

Since you're unable to demonstrate that your morality is objective, I'll go ahead and conclude that your frequent criticism of other forms of morality as subjective is just you having some fun and hoping nobody carries the argument further. Honestly, you should have had this answer ready long before leveling that charge against other systems. You had to know the challenge was coming.
Here's the thing I think you might be missing... Anyone who challenges that, torturing children for fun is objectively immoral, is either a psychopath or someone trying to score some points in an argument. This is a moral fact.

Scientific American said:
Charming but Callous
First described systematically by Medical College of Georgia psychiatrist Hervey M. Cleckley in 1941, psychopathy consists of a specific set of personality traits and behaviors. Superficially charming, psychopaths tend to make a good first impression on others and often strike observers as remarkably normal. Yet they are self-centered, dishonest and undependable, and at times they engage in irresponsible behavior for no apparent reason other than the sheer fun of it. Largely devoid of guilt, empathy and love, they have casual and callous interpersonal and romantic relationships. Psychopaths routinely offer excuses for their reckless and often outrageous actions, placing blame on others instead. They rarely learn from their mistakes or benefit from negative feedback, and they have difficulty inhibiting their impulses.
What "Psychopath" Means: Scientific American <--- click
At this point, a third party observer would probably conclude that you're actually arguing for the insufficiency of all moral systems. You've been very careless with this particular argument.
If there is no objective morality, then no subjective system could ever be correct. We would have to face reality, and become Nihilists.






Concerning the first part of the solution, it's not a solution. All they've done is shift god's arbitrary preference to an inherent quality. It's not an essential part of the Euthyphro argument that the preference be an arbitrary exercise of power. We don't care why god expressed a particular morality. It either comes from the god or it comes from above him - we don't care the process the god used to derive it, if it's the former.
Hold up, so if it's not an essential part of the Euthypro dilemna that it be arbitrary, then what was that first part of the dilemna?

God's issueing of "commands" stems from his immutable nature. That is, he is in his basic nature, morally perfect.

If we did care, the page provides no argument there that god's character was necessarily that character. You would need to argue that that manifestation of god is the only possible manifestation of god and that this morality, which is welded into his nature, is not accidental. The argument says that this morality is "fixed and absolute." Why? Essentially, all that page did was put the external law into god. He is still a slave of an object beyond his control. It doesn't matter that we've attached it to his character directly.
Why do I need to argue for God's nature being morally perfect? Is it not sufficient that God's nature be the basis of the commands? That a morally perfect God would "legislate" perfect morality? A morally perfect God couldn't have commanded moral evil... So where is the problem?

You're balking at the most important points in this conversation. Please understand that this lack of effort and preparation is why you're going to be ignored.
What are the most important points I've balked?
 
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Lad

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As a previously gay christian I have to say that i hate homosexuality and I would encourage homosexuals to seek counselling and Gods healing especially if they are christians because they are then living in sin which the bible clearly points out regardless of feelings HOWEVER if people choose to ignore God and the path destined for them and desire to stay in their homosexuality then I will do as God did in Romans 1 or 2 and leave them alone. So I am for gay marriage because its none of my business to get involved in peoples lives who have rejected the Bible and Christ and/or ignored His commands. So there ya go, thats my stand on it :)
 
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Maddog

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#45
The point behind whether or not you support gay marriage has absolutely nothing to do with religion. The point is this: do you believe that all people are equal, and should have equal rights? If the answer is yes, then following naturally with that thinking you would support gay marriage.
No, that doesn't follow. Legally, a man may marry a woman, and a woman may marry a man. It's the same for you, me, and everyone regardless of your religion, race, sexual preference or favourite colour; the law as it stands cannot be described as 'unequal' or 'disciminatory'.

Now, if you want to try and argue that the law regarding marriage needs to be changed to specifically cater for whatever deviations one may think of, then go ahead, but I'm afraid the equality argument is non starter.
 
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We should vote against gay marriage because it is wicked! Not too hard to explain. We get to vote! So why not? Christians don't agree with Homosexuals or they are not Christians. When we have the right to say, why not do what is Christian. It's like abortion. It should be illegal. That would mean no one could if they wanted to. They kill people with a soul! You don't have to be born to have a soul! If no one was allowed to marry as homosexual the USA would be more Christian!
So you are saying that any Christian that is not against homosexuals is not a Christian? And you think that the USA needs to be more Christian? What about those that are not Christian in this nation?

The main question I think of this forum is " Should we be nice to those that do things we don't like or should we be mean to those folks?" What is the Christian way of dealing with this situation. It doesn't matter what the thing is that the other person is doing, it only matters if we are nice to them or not. Supposedly Jesus hung out with the sinners. You have to ask yourself are you ready to do the same?
 
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As a previously gay christian I have to say that i hate homosexuality and I would encourage homosexuals to seek counselling and Gods healing especially if they are christians because they are then living in sin which the bible clearly points out regardless of feelings HOWEVER if people choose to ignore God and the path destined for them and desire to stay in their homosexuality then I will do as God did in Romans 1 or 2 and leave them alone. So I am for gay marriage because its none of my business to get involved in peoples lives who have rejected the Bible and Christ and/or ignored His commands. So there ya go, thats my stand on it :)
Lad, I have never met a previously gay individual before. How did you go about accomplishing that? I am sure a lot of folks would be interested. Maybe this should go to a new forum.
 
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Non-issue? No laws on the books currently to force ministers to perform these? Well, just do it as a token gesture, then! It wouldn't change anything, as you mentioned, but it would stop the massive "We don't want to be forced to perform these ceremonies" push.
The push is less massive than you think; most people who have put serious thought into the possibility of forced religious rites recognize that they're protected from the ground up (in US law, anyway). Again, the laws are already on the books. Refuting that particular flavor of fear-mongering takes a couple minutes of explanation, not the creation of a redundant law.

Legislation is not the way to avoid discourse, especially if the laws already exist. The creation of a redundant law in fact causes problems. It implies, first, that the previous law was somehow insufficient. We ignore precedent and recreate the wheel. Under which law do we prosecute violations? Etc., etc. Simplicity is a virtue in law; it's not meant to be used to succor people who don't understand they're already protected.

Second, it enshrines discrimination. Suppose someone didn't want to be forced to perform marriages between white and black people. Would it be acceptable to create a law stating that no one would be forced to perform a ceremony for a white and black couple? The fearful masses are placated, so it's cool, right? In fact, no. We have decided as a nation that the intangibles must be considered in questions of discrimination - having a law like that on the books is itself the basis for discrimination.

As an even more ridiculous example, let's put into law that you cannot be forced to sleep with Mexicans. Some people are scared that they'll be forced to, no? Existing law be damned, right? I think anyone, even you, recognizes the psychological impact of such a law and how unnecessary it would be.

So no, I'm not particularly compelled by their fear nor am I inclined to toss them a bone through the law. As in this conversation we're having right now, it doesn't take long to assuage their fears if they're reasonable people. If they're not reasonable people, even a law isn't going to stop them.
 

Vladimir_Ukr

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I have deja vu... :) I prefer praying for such people than argue about them. All clear was written
Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually
immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor
male prostitutes nor homosexual
offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor
drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers
will inherit the kingdom of God(1st Corinthians 6:9-10)
These are favorite themes(gay christians, gay marriage so on) for unbelievers.
 
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tif

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As an even more ridiculous example, let's put into law that you cannot be forced to sleep with Mexicans. Some people are scared that they'll be forced to, no? Existing law be damned, right? I think anyone, even you, recognizes the psychological impact of such a law and how unnecessary it would be.​

This doesn't make sense. That would be akin to forcing ministers to become involved in homosexual relationships. A more appropriate example would be this:

New law: No sleeping with Mexicans. Would a Church-based organization (say, a half-way house) be allowed to evict someone upon finding a Mexican in their room?

Now, there have been scary situations in other countries, which makes the fear of some anti-gay-rights people a bit more rational. I'm not saying it'd be a perfect solution, but there are fears and worries, and if people want gay rights to move ahead, they might want to take a look at those fears and worries.
 
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As an even more ridiculous example, let's put into law that you cannot be forced to sleep with Mexicans. Some people are scared that they'll be forced to, no? Existing law be damned, right? I think anyone, even you, recognizes the psychological impact of such a law and how unnecessary it would be.​

This doesn't make sense. That would be akin to forcing ministers to become involved in homosexual relationships. A more appropriate example would be this:

New law: No sleeping with Mexicans. Would a Church-based organization (say, a half-way house) be allowed to evict someone upon finding a Mexican in their room?

Now, there have been scary situations in other countries, which makes the fear of some anti-gay-rights people a bit more rational. I'm not saying it'd be a perfect solution, but there are fears and worries, and if people want gay rights to move ahead, they might want to take a look at those fears and worries.
You are creating a false dichotomy. We can look at this fears without legislating. Above, for example, I suggest explaining how preexisting laws suffice. This is a better way to address those fears.
 
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Lad

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Uber: I didnt do anything, I just believed in God and let Him work in me. I prayed for healing and He answered me :) Basically He started by building up my confidence in seeing myself and fitting into who I was as a man and that made me feel 'husband-worthy' not 'submissive slave worthy' which then made me lose my emotional attraction to men and after that God lessened significantly my physical attraction to them so I would still notice when a dude was hot but could dismiss it immediately instead of fantasizing. If you have any questions dont hesitate to ask :)
 
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spiritbody

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We should vote against gay marriage because it is wicked! Not too hard to explain. We get to vote! So why not? Christians don't agree with Homosexuals or they are not Christians. When we have the right to say, why not do what is Christian. It's like abortion. It should be illegal. That would mean no one could if they wanted to. They kill people with a soul! You don't have to be born to have a soul! If no one was allowed to marry as homosexual the USA would be more Christian!

Everyone wants to observe their beliefs. Everyone needs to be able live in accordence with what they see as right.
And so, very careful consideration needs to be done over how we do that.
HOW do we observe our beleifs and live in accordence with what we see as right and true and proper and just, whilst at the same time living in a world of 7 billion other people, who might not always see things the way we do all the time?
Very careful consideration, tolerance, alot give and take.
Dont dismiss these things as a bit airy fairy because theyre not often seen in terms of hard political action. They are vital. They are key. They are extremly relevant to how we live and how we form society.

If you believe that being gay is a sin, then how you observe that belief is, you DONT enter into a gay relationship.
If you believe that gay marriage is not in Gods plan for us, then how you observe that belief is you DONT enter into a gay marriage. That is how you observe those beliefs, and in so doing, that is also how you condemn those actions, in the sense of not condoning them, so you can feel that you are living fully in accordence with what you see as right.

And trust me when I say that the government has your back on both of those. It completely supports you in not withholding your right to hold those beliefs, not witholding your right to observe them, and by not creating crazy laws where you would find yourself forced into a gay relationship or gay marriage.

IF however, what you are saying to me is that you believe that self abstention is not enough, and that you are actually required by God, as a follower of Christ, to not only abstain from these sins yourself, but also to actively fight against them within society at large, by trying to ensure in some way or another that people who DO enter into gay relationships/marriages are seen as unequal in the eyes of the law, by trying to ensure that gay people cant get married, cant have a family, and cant get served in certain establishments, and youre saying that you want the government to support you in those things, the answer is absolutely not!
Legislation must ultimately always be there to protect PEOPLE, not beliefs.
That is just the way it has to be Im afraid.
And if you want that kind of protection and freedom for yourself, you gotta want it for other people too!
Start using your strong faith in Christ to help you cultivate love, tolerance and genuine care for others welfare. THATS how you practice Christianity.
Its a bit of a shame for you that it takes a non Christian to point that out to you.