GUYS - I need some advice

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chrissyoxox

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I met a guy online and we went out on two dates... both went really well.. we had a connection as well as a lot of fun and laughs.. He said he had a good time and had fun... and he seemed to have an attraction to me too.
He lives in alberta and comes home for a weeks time every month, so I had seen him on his time here.
After the second date he still pursued in texting and remaining in contact. Then once it was time to come down here for the holidays... no contact.. I texted him twice just asking how he was and telling him I hope you have a good trip and a good day.
No response..
It's been about 18 days of nothing.
He showed interest for 3 months and now I'm confused ... do I talk to him about it and communicate something like - hey, are we cool??? Or ask him when we will go to the shooting range (because he said he wanted to do this on his free time when he's here) but he's back home now..
Should I ask something or just keep quiet?
I don't know what's best here. He seemed like a very great guy, but now I'm not sure what I should or shouldn't do.
 
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HappyNewYear2016

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Hi Chrissy,Do not mind my words but here it is not the right place to post such topics, for that, you can go to single christians threads and ask there, here is to know new members. I hope you understand.:)
 
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chrissyoxox

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Sorry, I am a new member that's why I posted here. But thanks I will transition over
 
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TRSSS1stPresident

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First of all, Chrissy, welcome! GBU! Well, you could have posted in the other part of the forums where it belongs but I can be happy to answer your question. I have seen this quite often with people. You see, when someone shows interest and meet in person after online, you know. Things seem going well and seemly click good. But sudden someone drops out of the picture, there could be a number of reasons for that. One could be death yeah, but I am sure this one you were seeing is still alive but maybe something happened between you two and you did not notice just before he disappeared on you. Maybe he is a player. But maybe he was not a player but found someone better. Or maybe cant afford internet. I do not know what is going on with that man you were seeing. Only the Lord does.

I heard this story often from singles telling me their dates showed up and later, they disappear. These days people do not want to confront that relationships do not work or wants to break up. Internet these days has shaped society today to be hideous and not want to say, "OK, um, I do not think we are going to work out anymore." Another reason, they do not want to offend but not offending. People do not want to say honest thing anymore. Running away is a lie too. A sin.

There are many reasons but if I were you, Chrissy, because you have the faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, I pray you do, then you can stay away from him and focus on God. Give it all to the Lord Jesus Christ. The nails are symbolic in a point of view to me means your sins. Jesus took that on the Cross for you. Same with your troubles. Please read 1 Peter 5:7 and Psalms 55:22 in your bible.

That is best answer. What is in past stay in past. Look at present and future with yourself and with God. Isaiah 43:18 and Philippians 3:3. Please read those as well.

Hey, you know what, Chrissy? The Lord has someone better. Sometimes things like this happens to you and others when someone disappears in your life is when God moves that person away for a good reason and make you and others stronger. I went through this boat before. I know how it goes. God is good!

I pray you will let it go and move on. God bless! Again, welcome! :)
 
blue_ladybug

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I will ask a mod to delete this thread, since you have it in another forum also. Just for future reference, you don't need to make duplicate threads in multiple forums. The mods don't like it. Also, there are several forums, so for example, if you have a computer question, you would put it in the User-2-User tech support forum, instead of bible forum. :) Welcome to CC.
 
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chrissyoxox

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Sorry I would've deleted it but was unsure as of how to
 
blue_ladybug

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chrissyoxox said:
Sorry I would've deleted it but was unsure as of how to
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When you write a post or create a thread, you have a 5-minute editing window in which you can make corrections or delete it. At the bottom of the post, it will say "edit post," click on that and do what you want, then click "save changes" afterward. Alternately, at the bottom of every post on the left is a triangle with an ! in it. If you're past the editing time and you want a post or thread deleted, copy/paste the thread title and post # into the report and ask for it to be deleted and the mods will take care of it.
 
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TRSSS1stPresident

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Chrissy, its not your fault. Now I got the confusion straighten out. You have 2 threads that are quite similar. And I did not take a good look at the differences. Its here.. not in the Singles Forum. Its ok!! God bless, Chrissy. BTW, How are you?
 
MartyrNdaMaKn

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Hello and welcome Chrissy, delighted to have you here. God Bless.
 
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Bilawal

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have patience,, and trust on God!!
this world is gonna end!! we need to Hold His hand.
 
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SparkleEyes

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Let him go. Stop contacting him. Do your best to forget him. I know this is hard, but these kinds of interactions are just a part of growing up. :eek:
 
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SparkleEyes

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Bilawal said:
have patience,, and trust on God!!
this world is gonna end!! we need to Hold His hand.
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True, but we oftentimes need help in negotiating life while we are here. That is part of what it means to be in community.
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SparkleEyes

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HappyNewYear2016 said:
Hi Chrissy,Do not mind my words but here it is not the right place to post such topics, for that, you can go to single christians threads and ask there, here is to know new members. I hope you understand.:)
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This is a perfectly appropriate place for a 'young adult' to post a question about relationships. Young adults get in relationships and have questions...ask away, young people. :cool:
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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Since anyone rarely ever comes into this forum, Chrissy WOULD get more answers in the singles forum. :)
 
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