I never want children so men don't want me

[3angelsmsg]

We are not to live for ourselves. Everything we do in life, should be for the benefit of others. Jesus lived a life of sacrifice.

Even, when Jesus prayed. He never prayed for himself always for others. 1 Cor 13 the theme of love chapter has much to say, if we do anything not in love. It will amount to nothing.

Our motive should be pure. The purpose for having children should be deeper meaning. Having children would be to bring up godly children for the glory of God. In order, that they might reflect the beautiful character of God and being mother is the highest job God has assigned to mothers.

So being parents should be well planned and be according to will of God, otherwise we will be held accountable by God. These are all things you need to ponder about my friend.

 

[Charlescyril]

Basically I'm 31 and I'm overweight. I'm 200lbs and dieting. My problem is I never want children. I don't have the patience for them or anything. So my weight and lack of wanting kids it's basically the reason no man wants me. It's heartbreaking. My last (abusive) relationship was 3 years ago and I haven't had a relationship or date since then. Any advice?

Sorry dear for the hurt, but the most important thing here is that you try conclude within yourself to settle with a man and have a baby for yourself other than going through heart breaks

 

[Nehemiah6]

Basically I'm 31 and I'm overweight. I'm 200lbs and dieting. My problem is I never want children. I don't have the patience for them or anything. So my weight and lack of wanting kids it's basically the reason no man wants me. It's heartbreaking. My last (abusive) relationship was 3 years ago and I haven't had a relationship or date since then. Any advice?

I have never had a weight problem, but have had a steady weight for ages. However I will give you some advice, and I trust you will take it seriously:

1. A good dieting program should help you, but you can also make up your own diet (without spending money on a formal program). Just focus on fruits, vegetables, and legumes. Milk and cheese should be included, and carbs and sugars excluded.

2. You should severely reduce your intake of foods, and have just one meal a day, perhaps with a cup of coffee in the morning. Or perhaps eat only every other day.

3. You need to join a fitness club and exercise daily (at least 30 minutes to 1 hour). Some people walk, others go on the treadmill, or any other machine they choose. I use the treadmill daily (for cardio), which enables me to regulate everything. Plus weights and machines.

4. Your lack of patience with children can also be corrected if you volunteer to look after children in any setting (day care). Children respond to love and attention, and most of them are quite intelligent. Sometimes tough love is necessary.

5. Understand that children are blessing from the Lord. Assuming that you are a believer, you should think of children as a blessing, and ask the Lord to make this a reality for you since you are young enough. Many couple would give anything for a child.

6. There are plenty of good mature Christian men around who would be interested in you regardless of your weight. So it will be up to you to connect with the right person and at the right time. An outgoing personality can make up for many other deficiencies. But be discerning so that you know the character of the person you are connecting with.

 

[Mii]

I've been single for 28 years, I am not overweight, I do want children (although the thought frightens me a bit )

Unfortunately for me, every female that I've met is just looking for physical intimacy but no relationship and the Christian females I have met seem to be afraid of me.

So does that lead to bitterness? Kinda, but I war against it and it turns into this sort of dazed and confused apathy and a somewhat nice "blue feeling" depending on how I choose to view it. If I look at it like the Lord owes me, it turns quite negative. If I look at it like "he knows my limitations and my confusion on this issue and he will fix it for me eventually..." It can feel a bit nicer.

Loneliness is something to see the Lord in ...I can't speak to married people but I imagine complete connection won't occur except in rare moments. No one really gets you 100% except the Lord, that makes me a bit melancholy but it's also cool that at least someone does.


Not sure if that helped at all but I understand the rough pain on the journey but just be careful with letting that turn into bitterness. Gotta pray against that and distract yourself if nothing else on what he wants as well as the wants and needs of the body (church).